What you should do if your girlfriend talks about having sex with other men. How to set boundaries and let her know that talking about sleeping with other men or actually sleeping with other men is a deal killer for you.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who was taken aback when his girlfriend of 5 months said, “I just felt like telling him to come here and fuck me,” regarding a male co-worker of hers who was in an unhappy relationship.
At first he blew it off and then after he thought about it for a day he was not too happy with her saying that about another man. Especially after they just finished having sex.
“The quality of intimacy in your relationship is in direct proportion to the quality of the questions that you consistently ask your lover. You should never assume the best or the worst when your lover says something that makes you feel like withdrawing or holding back. So instead of assuming anything and acting upon your assumptions, get used to asking, “what do you mean?” or “please explain what you mean by that because I don’t understand where you are coming from” to elicit their true intentions, thoughts and feelings. Otherwise, you risk putting your foot in your mouth and causing unnecessary drama.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne