She’s Feeling Overwhelmed

What it means when a woman you are dating says that she is feeling overwhelmed, and how to prevent getting friend-zoned or her becoming cold and distant to the point that she starts canceling dates.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss two different emails from two different viewers. The first email is from a viewer who initially did a good job of attracting and dating a woman he was really into, and who felt the same way. However, after about three weeks they were seeing each other three or four times per week. He was still doing 20-30% of the calling, texting and pursuing, which should have been unnecessary at that point, considering how much they were seeing each other. He said he was letting her come to him at her own pace, and making dates when she reached out to him, but she said she was feeling overwhelmed and started backing away. He went to one call per week for a few weeks, but then she canceled a date on him saying that she was too exhausted over work.

By looking at her actions and what she was saying, it was obvious that he was lying to himself and therefore unable to be truthful in his email. He was over-pursuing and unable to see this because of how quickly things started off and the fact they were having sex quite a bit in the beginning. He became too dopey. It’s a great email of how a guy can bullshit himself into doing the wrong things when he is not in control of his emotions. The second email is from a viewer who shares some successful insights on how predictable women have become to him since studying my work and applying it correctly.

“When men become too over-eager and start trying to spend excessive amounts of time with women they just started dating, they run the risk of the women stating that they are feeling overwhelmed, things are moving too fast or canceled dates. It’s essential for both men and women to pay attention to how much their new dating partner is investing into spending time together. If the other person starts backing away or becoming less available, the best thing to do is to back away yourself instead of trying to force yourself into their lives. They may go along with your forcefulness at first, but often will end things unexpectedly and abruptly, because they feel like a loss of freedom is imminent. Always notice whether or not your desire to spend time with someone you care about is truly about having a great time together, or trying to spend time with them to prevent from losing them. If you fear losing them and charge ahead anyway, you will almost 100% of the time cause what you fear to happen; losing them for good.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne