How to get a woman to fall in love with you after only a few weeks of dating so she asks you to be her boyfriend! In my book, I talk about how long it takes for a woman on average to fall in love with you provided you do more things right than wrong with her. Most women you meet who find you at least minimally attractive, average, or kind of okay are going to have an interest level in you which is in the 50s or low 60s percentile range. By doing most things right, you can get her to fall in love with you in about two months, or about a dozen dates. In my book I give a very specific example about my girlfriend Katie, and I describe in very explicit detail how easy and effortless it was for us to fall in love. There was a deep physical and emotional connection between us the first time we made eye contact. I knew without a doubt that she was exactly the woman I had intended to meet. The first time she came to visit me in the states, we compared our lists of the exact person we wanted to attract into our lives. We both got goosebumps as we read each other’s list of what we wanted in our next lover, and realized we had exactly described one another on paper many months before we ever met for the first time, or even knew each other existed. Our relationship was effortless from the moment we met. People who met us the next day after our very first date (we were at a week-long seminar with about 5000 other people) assumed we had been together for a long time. Our connection and adoration for each other was obvious for all to see. To most people, that kind of thing only happens slowly over time. For us and because neither one of us held back, it was as if we had already known each other our whole lives. I was fearless and so was she. We’re still good friends to this day even though we are no longer together as a couple.
The following is an e-mail from a reader. A girl he was dating asked him to be her boyfriend after only three weeks of dating. He accepted. This guy has knocked it out of the park, and it appears he is flawlessly living exactly what I teach. However, he’s kind of in disbelief that she’s in love after only three weeks of dating, but wants to make sure he’s doing everything right. Every guy is different. Some guys can read my book, and go right out and duplicate exactly what I experienced with Katie, their first time out. For most guys, like me, they have to work up to it because they have a lot of work to do on themselves first. You must become what you want to attract. From his e-mail and my comments which are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail, you get another great example of flawless execution of what I teach that leads to having effortless relationships. Plus, he’s a broke student who has gone back to college to better himself, but she’s fallen in love with him anyways! Here is his e-mail:
First of all, I’d like to say that I am a big fan of your work! (Thanks man! PayPal Donations are always appreciated!) My question pertains to a current girlfriend I have, but I do want to give you a little background information first. I’m a full-time Physical Therapy student who had to leave his retail job to live a more productive life. (Good for you! Women want you at your best. They like guys who go after what they want in life without fear of rejection, disappointment or failure. Going for your dreams is sexy to women. If you are successful at going after what you want in life, women assume there’s a good chance you will be successful at having a great relationship with them.) I met my girlfriend last year a few days before New Years eve, and I set a definite date for NYE for us to go out. (Good job on the definite date!) I had some money left over from Christmas luckily! So I was able to take her to dinner and dancing. After the first date, I ran out of money, tuition and books, and I told her the truth; that I was unemployed and a full time student. (You told it like it was without fear of losing her because you are broke.) So money—and courting—would be at a minimum. She was fine with that, and so I did what I could, such as watching in-home movies. (Good job! Another example of why most women don’t care about money as long as you don’t care about it. You had a detached “it is what it is” mentality about your financial situation. A good woman would not care. She want’s you and not your money.) Within three weeks, she wanted me to be hers. (She CHOSE you as her boyfriend because you let her come to you at her own pace. Nice job! Textbook bro!) I agreed, as I enjoyed her company. (It’s impossible to get rejected by a woman who is chasing you and who asks you to be her boyfriend as long as you continue to do everything right.) She’s taken me out to dinner a few times, (Brownie points for her! She is a giver. She contributes what she can offer because she knows it takes two! It’s a team effort. She is working to court you also. That’s what you want! The purpose of all relationships is you go there to give!) we’ve gone hiking, to church, salsa dancing, and even to night clubs. She has even begun to take an interest in fitness and martial arts, my passions, and loves what I teach her. (She’s becoming one with you and can’t help but be excited about what you are excited about. She’s becoming your biggest cheerleader. Martial arts prepared you well to maintain emotional self-control. In dating, like martial arts, if you don’t have emotional self-control… you get your ass kicked! Emotional pain and rejection can often feel like they hurt more than physical pain.) My question has to do with the time frame: is three weeks really enough for a woman to fall in love? (Sure, especially when her interest level starts out in the 80’s. Plus, if your execution of the strategies I teach is flawless, you become an irresistible magnet to her. When neither one of you holds back from the get-go, and you know what to do because you have prepared yourself properly… IT’S EFFORTLESS like it’s supposed to be.) I’d like to think so, but I remember reading that it takes several months for this to happen, and yes, she said the “L word” in three weeks. (However, the thing to keep in mind is you have very little time in together. So keep doing what you have been doing that has gotten you here, but don’t start acting dopey! It’s better to underrate her interest level and pay attention to what she does and not what she says.) She seems honest, and she’s got a wonderful personality! (Boy, that’s really something to suffer thru isn’t it LOL?) Is it really possible to get a woman to fall in love in less than a month? I look forward to your answer! (Yes, however, loyalty comes with time by being consistent with her. Time will strengthen your bond with her. You simply zipped to the front of her dating line because she probably had super high interest from the moment you met. Plus, you seem to be a fantastic student of what I teach. Therefore, the deck was stacked in your favor from the beginning, and she could not help but choose you. She perceived you as a catch and did not want to risk losing you to another woman. You are experiencing exactly what my relationships are like now when they magically happen perfectly from the moment we first meet. I described my experiences with my girlfriend Katie, and how effortless it was from the moment we met in my book. You have successfully duplicated that so far. Congratulations to you for your home run with your new girlfriend! You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)
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