How to determine if you should get married when your partner gives you an ultimatum, but you still have reservations, are unsure if you want to marry them and don’t see eye to eye on too many things that are important to you.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who writes in asking if he should consider marriage with his depressed on and off girlfriend of five years. She also has an eating problem and uses food as a drug when she is not happy. He previously had dumped her and they did not speak for a year and a half. Then when he could not find anyone better, he called her and they got back together.
Now she has given him an ultimatum to move from his city to hers, marry her and start a family together. He asks my opinion on what he should do. He likes his home and it is close to his work. I give him my brutally honest opinion about the situation.
“Most people put more thought, time and research into which car they should buy, than they do the person who they choose to spend their life with. Most marriages that end in divorce are the result of poor partner choices, and one or both people failing to be honest with themselves and each other. Marriage should only happen when you both feel you can’t get enough of each other, not because you fear you will never find anyone else or anyone better. The wrong marriage partner will make you feel as if being with them is like trying to put a square peg in a round hole. The right partner will fit like a glove, and being with them will be easy, effortless and natural.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne