Should You Date A Woman With A Reputation Of Being A Home Wrecker?

Some things to consider if you are dating a woman who sleeps with married men & doesn’t care.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who is a police officer and has been dating another female police officer from another precinct. He is 33 and she is 29. She used to be chubby but is now in great shape. After they started dating he found out she slept with several men who were married and caused lots of problems for them. Now he is concerned about her character and if it’s wise to continue dating her. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my video coaching newsletter. And the topic of today’s newsletter is going to be, “Should You Date A Woman With A Reputation Of Being A Home Wrecker?”

Probably not a good idea. However, when a girl’s really hot and the red flags are everywhere, “Swoosh.” All caution. Oftentimes 3% Man; everything you learn goes right out the window. So this particular emailer, he says he’s been following me since 2021. He’s read 3% Man a handful of times. Not in the last eight months, though.

So he’s being kind of a piss poor student. He’s in law enforcement and he’s involved with somebody else who’s in law enforcement. And man, it’s like I see this type of situation with police officers over and over and over and over and over and over and over again, in emails and in phone sessions.

You guys are not helping your reputation. Let’s put it that way. The good police officers are hard to find. But even though somebody that’s in law enforcement still gets hypnotized by the pussy, as Doc Love used to say, “a beautiful woman is like Kryptonite to the average man. She has the power to make him fall apart.”

Viewer’s Email:

I believe I need a refresher here, but I’ll get to the situation at hand. I’m a 33 year old male, currently going on dates and hooking up with a female police officer who’s 29 years old from another local agency in the area. I’ve known her for the last five years or so through social media and she is gorgeous.

Hello Coach,

I’ve followed you since 2021, and I have read your book a handful of times. Not in the last 8 months though.

I believe I need a refresher here, but I’ll get to the situation at hand. I am a 33 year old male currently going on dates, and hooking up with a female police officer (29 years old) from another local agency in the area. I’ve known of her for the last 5 years or so through social media, and she is gorgeous.

It’s Kryptonite bro. Think about it.

I have seen her around on multiple occasions in that time, and just recently matched with her on the Bumble dating app. We exchanged info on the app, and ultimately went out for drinks a few weeks ago. While on the date, we did have a lot in common, but she was almost like one of the bros.

I mean, if you’re in law enforcement and you’re a woman, it’s like you’re going to have to be in your masculine energy. You’re putting on a you put on your armor and you put on your Batman tool belt and your service pistol, and it’s like a transformation happens. Everybody I know it’s friends, family have been in law enforcement.

It’s interesting for any of those of you that know what I’m talking about. It’s like when the body armor and the uniform and everything goes on, or their vest, whatever happens to be, it’s like “Swoosh.” It’s like they change. They become someone else. So it’s understandable. And women are going to have a hard time taking that off and just being a girly girl, and letting you lead.

Very cool. Almost too cool.

Yeah, she’s like one of the guys. And so, she kind of gets around. There was, that one I think was last year. She’s married. She was a cop, I don’t know, it was Minneapolis or Minnesota, wherever it was. And she was fucking like five other guys that she worked with. And then it all got out and they were like, they all realized that they were all fucking the same woman who happened to be married. I think her husband stayed with her. He’s gonna fix her. He’s going to save her. He’s going to be Mr. White Knight.

Had a great sense of humor and wasn’t easily offended. I’d assume because of the career path chosen.

It’s like, yeah, the shit you guys got to deal with. I get it.

I was being as genuine as I could be, without holding back on any subject that most guys would refrain from these days, and I had a take it or leave it type attitude. She also seemed to be open. She decided to tell me she has a “bad bitch” playlist, that she went to many music festivals, and did bring up an ex, with the financial burdens he left her as well.

She’s probably not a good judge of character. But at the end of the day, if she just gets carried away on her emotions and doesn’t really think things through, I mean, there was a video we did a reaction on, it was a I think it was a prison guard, and she was fucking one of the inmates and got caught. And just listening to her rationalizations and twisted herself into a pretzel, trying to kind of justify it. It’s like the emotions override everything.

All logic and reason is somebody in law enforcement that’s supposed to remain objective. Justice is supposed to be blind, right? That’s why Lady Liberty, has the Lady Liberty, I guess you call it? Or the the justice scales? She’s got a blindfold on. But when the emotions are involved, it’s like putting your thumb on the scale.

At the end of the date we said goodbye, and she went in for a hug. I denied the hug, telling her “Have a good night buddy”, and did not text her the next day. I felt as if she was enjoying her time with a new friend, me, while on our date and that she was just enjoying the time getting to know a fellow officer, before never hearing from her again once the hug was on the table.

Yeah, he’s like, “Oh, I guess she’s not interested. See you later.”

I gave it a few days, with her sending me very generic/general Snapchats that did not directly address me, before receiving a message asking if we were ever going to go on a date again.

Aha! So she’s sending Snapchats to the group, but she didn’t address him directly, so he didn’t do anything with it. So, from a game perspective, he played it perfectly. He was indifferent to it. Because the greatest gift you can give anybody is the gift of your time.

He takes her out on a date, they have good conversation and she hugs him. So from his perspective, he’s like, “why should I go out with her again? She treated me platonically.” So. But what happens? She reaches out.

As a skeptical man, I offered for her to come over to watch movies, and order a pizza on my next day off. She was happy to oblige.

“Hey, babe, you want to come over and get some pizza and fuck? Oh, what’s the matter? You don’t like pizza?” I had a friend in high school that they would go up to girls at parties and say that. And occasionally they get upset with him. He’d be like, “what’s the matter? You don’t like pizza?” Memories.

Over the course of talking to friends at work, and friends who work in the area with us, I was informed that she may be a “hoe”, and that she got a lieutenant fired at her PD for sleeping with her while he was married.

Naughty. The LT went down in flames. Pussy was not worth it, apparently.

I also was told that the female I’m currently seeing was also in a relationship with a married firefighter.

Another married man. She likes the guys that are unavailable. I would have to say she’s probably got some serious daddy issues. So she never got the love she wanted from daddy. So what does she do? She goes after men she really can’t have. Which is one of the reasons why him ignoring her Snapchats caused her to come right out and be direct.

He says, “hey, when are we going to go out again?” And he’s basically like, “hey, how about some pizza and let’s fuck at my house?” And she’s like, “I’m down.” Not that he said that, but you get the idea. If a woman’s coming over to your place, I mean, they’re both in law enforcement. You got social proof. They already know each other kind of through mutual friends. So that’s why I was just effortless. All he basically had to do was open the door.

So the firefighter’s wife got upset, obviously, and they exchanged videos of them getting fucked by this man to incite jealousy. Wow. So the firefighter’s wife is saying, “oh, look at me. Look what he’s doing to me here.” And she’s like, “oh, yeah, well, look what your husband did to me. Ha!” That’s fucked up. You guys in law enforcement. I’m surprised there’s not more books that you guys don’t write. But then again, everybody signs gag orders so they can’t really talk. But the shit that goes on is hilarious.

Who’s wife got upset, and they exchanged videos of them getting fucked by this man to incite jealousy.

I obviously haven’t brought this up to her.

It’s not going to change her. You just got to understand. Hey, fuck buddy; friends with benefits, sex playmate. You’re just one of the guys in a rotation, apparently. Just don’t wife up the hoe or be captain Save-A-Hoe.

And we clearly participated in the Indoor Olympics after a couple pieces of pizza.

See, hey, the pickup line worked. “Hey, you want to come over and get some pizza and fuck?” He didn’t say that, but the intention was there. She knew she was down. She’s like, “sure.”

She’s been showing extremely high interest, and is always eager to work with my schedule, and be available for me. She has dude friends and I know this will become a problem but she’s so damn hot!

I know, I know, it’s like Kryptonite. Got to keep your wits about you. Just don’t confuse the hoe and the housewife. Self control. You guys have to exercise self control more than anybody other than people in the military. So.

I’m not sure if she’s getting to a point in life where she wants a family, and a relationship.

I wouldn’t be going down that road with her. She’s not a family oriented girl. Do you really want this as the mother of your children? The video thing with the firefighter and his wife is like, that’s nuts. Ha.

Or if she is just panicking about the fact that she can’t find someone to date her due to the rumors and gossip going around about her behavior.

The rumors and the gossip is not the issue. The issue is the fact that she engages in this type of behavior continually and doesn’t have any self-awareness to go, “Hmm. Probably not a good idea to be a hoe in my department.” But she’s hot and there’s so many other dudes. There’d be ten other guys lining up behind you wanting to plow her strawberry field. So even if you dip and move on, there’ll be ten other guys that will validate her behavior.

Her ex who left her a financial burden did pay off the loan a few days ago, but she did mention college debt. Loans/debt, hoe past, dating married men?

Yeah, this is pretty obvious. You don’t wife up the hoe.

What do you think Coach. She’s extremely good looking.

I think that third or fourth time he’s like, “Coach, you understand? She’s really hot.” I understand, trust me, I understand. What’s her name? Uh, Sweeney. The girl Sweeney that everybody’s talking about now, is that all the memes? She’s got the really big boobs. Kind of cute, but she’s voluptuous. She seems to be conservative. And did I mention she’s got great tits? She even had a shirt on. I saw the other day commenting about her great boobs. So. Hey. Whatever. Flaunt it if you got it, baby.

She’s extremely good looking, has a family that isn’t divorced, and used to be chunky but got into extremely good shape. I think she wasn’t used to the attention received due to being chubby earlier in life.

Plus, her father probably did a shitty job of raising her.

And becoming a police officer a few years ago didn’t help the situation.

Yeah. She kinda believes she’s untouchable.

I do believe she had a recent hoe phase, but she is showing a very high level of interest here.

I haven’t seen a video on this and have been curious for a while what you think about men dating women in law enforcement/dating a police officer while being a police officer. Kind of a unique situation.

Well, as I always say, it doesn’t matter that you’re a cop. The only thing that matters is what’s her character like? I mean, sending videos of her fucking a married guy to that dude’s wife. And the wife saying, “oh yeah, look at what my husband did to me the other day. Huh?” Maybe she should get together with the firefighter and the firefighter’s wife.

And they can take out their frustrations, their sexual frustrations on the firefighter in the bedroom. I’m sure he’d probably really like that. But you got to take a step back. What are your goals? What are your values? Do you think, or do you want this woman to be the mother of your children? Do you think she would be loyal to you? If she’s constantly hanging out with men who cheat, then what does that mean about her? Like attracts like.

People who like the same things tend to like each other. That’s why; who do criminals hang out with? Criminals hang out with other criminals. If you’re dating a woman who’s hot. But she’s constantly hanging out with men who are cheating on their wives. We have to assume guilt by association that she’s also probably a liar and a cheater. But she’s hot, and I know you want to keep tapping that, but if it was me, I would just treat her like one of the girls on your practice squad. I would not be treating her like the future mother of your children.

Now, maybe she becomes ultra religious and says, “I’m done with the whole phase. What was I thinking?” She starts going to church all the time. She becomes a better person. What are the odds of that happening? Flip a coin. Probably not going to happen. People typically don’t change who they are. They may become a better version. But they typically don’t change. And so, if a girl is constantly hanging out with men who cheat, well, we have to assume she’s probably a cheater and a liar as well.

I mean, especially sending videos back and forth with the dude’s wife. It’s like that’s I have not heard that before. That is, I’ve been doing this 20 years and that’s the first time I’ve heard shit like that. But, you know, that’s like Jerry Springer level of stuff. I would just say, use caution, dude, because you’re probably going to keep seeing her because the pussy is good. I’d let her do 100% of the calling, texting and pursuing. I wouldn’t take her on a dates. I wouldn’t spend money.

If she reaches out as soon as she wants to see you, invite her over some for a pizza and afternoon Indoor Olympics session. But you got to evaluate her on a case by case basis, maybe, we’ve all misjudged her, and she’s just an innocent child of God. And with the right man, she’ll be loyal and faithful. Bullshit.

Probably not. But, if you’re crazy enough to which you guys in law enforcement, I understand what y’all have to deal with. So y’all are kind of kinky and weird and out there. I mean, the firefighter, the video thing with the wife, that, I’m going to be thinking about that the whole day, that that fucking cracks me up, man.

So thank you for sharing that. Thank you for this. Proceed with caution again. If it was me, it just would be one of the girls in the practice squad. I would not be thinking about wifing this girl up because, say you do. Do you really think she’s going to change her behavior? Do you really think she’s going to be pushing the men away when they make advances on her?

Especially, maybe you guys had a fight or you’re not getting along? Do you really think this is the kind of woman you can trust when you know her reputation? A good, family oriented woman is just not going to be behaving that way. A chick who is a hoe bag. That’s how she behaves.

So we gotta judge her based on her actions. And if she gives you a hard time and wants you to be exclusive, you can say, “well, I’ve heard all these things and I know all these guys, and it’s like, you kind of don’t really have a good reputation. I’m open to being convinced that you’ve changed, but it’s pretty hard to come back from all that.” And if you phrase things that way and you come from that mindset, her having the daddy issues that she has, she’s going to try to prove herself to you. Will she change?

I’ve just found in life people don’t typically change who they are. They may become a better version of who they are, but they typically don’t change. What’s the recidivism? Recidivism? Recidivism? I can’t even say the word. What is the rate that criminals tend to reoffend? Was it like a third? A third end up back in jail, 30, 40%?

What is the likelihood that she’s going to have a come to Jesus moment and become an innocent child, a good woman, family oriented? I don’t know. I don’t think the odds are in her favor. But if you’re going to take it on a case by case basis because “the Cho Cha is so beautiful, Corey, you have no idea. It’s finger lickin good.” It’s your life, man.

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