Here’s what you should and should not tell your girl about yourself and your life in order to maintain attraction. Men in relationships get themselves into trouble at times because they tell their girlfriend, wife, fiancé, etc. too much. As I talk about in my book, especially when you’re just starting to date someone and get to know them, you should only tell positive things about yourself that will help raise her level of interest in you. So in other words, if it’s not positive and uplifting, keep it to yourself! There are so many things going on in the beginning of a courtship that you have to be worried about and watch in order to keep the sexual tension building and her interest level rising, that it’s better to keep the conversation funny and light so you don’t trip yourself up and say something she does not like that puts you on the defensive. Love is playful and fun after all, not serious.
Once a woman is in love with you and if you absolutely feel you must reveal your darkest and innermost secrets, then you can slowly let it out. However, always make sure when you are reflecting upon your past mistakes that you paint yourself and the experience you had in a positive light that communicates that it was a positive and necessary experience you needed to go through in order to become the man you are today. Perception is reality. I can talk about my marriage to my first wife in a very negative way, or a very positive way. I made some really huge mistakes and blunders, but I use it as a great experience to share with others so they don’t repeat the same mistakes I made. The same thing goes for my former girlfriends. Every relationship is an opportunity for us to grow and become more.
A lot of guys think they have to get all of their baggage, bad habits, hangups, mistakes, dating disasters, etc. out in the very beginning once they start dating a woman. This political correctness crap that the media, TV and movies pound into our heads about being sensitive, sharing your feelings, etc. is not alpha male behavior. It’s beta male behavior! If you want to act like a weak pussy, that’s your choice. However, it’s not a strategy that will help you be successful with women. It’s a strategy that will make you look weak, feminine and get you rejected. Don’t believe me? Try it out and see how quickly you get dumped or rejected. The following is an e-mail from a reader who wants to know if he should tell women about all the skeletons in his closet. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his email:
I have a question for you. Do you tell everything to your woman? Should a husband tell everything to his wife? Should a man tell everything to his girlfriend, fiancee….? (You should read my book. I go into extensive detail on the subject in my book. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)
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