Why you need to stand your ground and stand up for what you want in life and in your relationships, or you are inviting other people to take you for granted and jerk you around.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss two different emails from two different viewers who are struggling with standing up for what they want in their relationships. They are both getting jerked around and suffering because of it.
One viewer had his ex come back for three weeks, but withhold sex when they were together. He stood up to her and stated that the lack of intimacy did not work for him. She left saying he was “selfish” and then as he goes to drop their son off at her place, another guys truck is in her driveway. All this after only days before she was saying that she wants to move in with him and get back together to keep their family together. The other saw his ex who he wanted to get back in the gym, but she ignored him like he did even not exist.
“People tend to see what they want in their relationships. They tend to ignore the reality of when things suck or when things are getting worse in order to avoid dealing with painful emotions, consequences, avoiding responsibility or the potential end of their relationships. Human beings are the ultimate self-bullshitters. We notice what’s not working, but out of our desire to avoid pain we do nothing because doing nothing feels better than doing something that can potentially lead to things getting worse or more painful. If you don’t stand up for yourself and what you want in life and your relationships, you are creating the conditions for other people to jerk you around, take you for granted and take advantage of you.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne