Here’s how to tell when a woman is giving you subtle marriage hints and when she simply trusts your judgment. Men are historically known for avoiding and being scared of marriage and commitment. Men have the innate desire to be free from anything that may get in the way of fulfilling and living their purpose. Men when they are in relationships constantly fight with the internal desire to be free, as well as the desire to love and be loved by a woman. Women who understand this about men give their men the space and time to be who they really are. She makes herself available to him, but lets him respond slowly as he feels comfortable about her advances. When a woman is ready to get married or is thinking about getting married to her boyfriend, she will say things such as, “Where is this going? Do you ever see yourself getting married?” Or she may come right out and say, “I was hoping we would get engaged soon.” The most important thing for you to remember in a relationship, is to remember to stand up for yourself and what you want. To never commit to something or agree to something that is not something your heart compels you to do. You never want to go along with something because you are afraid of upsetting your girl. If she wants to get serious, but you’re not ready, be honest and tell her.
The following is an e-mail from a reader. He read my book a few months ago and is now experiencing some success. He’s dating a woman who he once thought was totally out of his league. She asked him to accompany her to a wedding dress store so she could try on some wedding dresses to help her sister pick out her wedding dress. He is fearful that she is giving a subtle hint that she wants to marry him. He is unsure whether or not he should go. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
This is Dias. I wrote you 1 or 2 times a few months ago. I’m not sure you’ll remember. But yeah, it’s me again. I know you are a busy man, so I’ll try to go straight to the point. I told you a few months ago about this lady that was totally outta my league. She was living in my hometown while I was going to school to another city a few hours away. First of all, I just want to tell you that I have been reading your book. I have learned a lot from it. I’m re-reading it again, second time. (Smart man. Read it 10-15 times to the point you could give a seminar on it. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) I have watched/still watching your YouTube videos, and they’re always very captivating.
Now guess what… That lady I was talking about, she is mine now. I mean man, I have done everything right: Let her chase me, reading her level of interest, being self-centered to make myself happy first, avoid being weak, needy… everything was on point and it still is. Now she is blowing up my phone everyday, want to talk to me, want to see me, plan to visit me, to fuck me… I mean we had phone sex and the things she say she will do to me, I’m just mesmerized.
I want to say greatly thank you for what you do for us, for me specifically. You really are a master of what you are talking about, and now I know it wasn’t a mistake to follow your advice. I never thought I could go out with an older, more experienced, and sexy chick like that. Furthermore, she’s madly crazy about me right now. Ok, I’m trying to avoid being too long, but the other reason I am writing you is this: I went back to college for my spring semester. I still talk to her, and I plan to go back home for spring break in March. We talk on the phone sometimes, and we discuss what we would do when I go back there next month… Bars, Bowling, Movies, restaurants, etc.
So the other day she said when I get back, she wants me to walk her to try wedding dresses. I was confused on the phone but kept my cool. She said her sister is getting married during the summer, and she wants to try wedding dresses for her. Her sister, from what she herself said, is a little taller and thicker than her. If she sees one dress that looks good, she will send pictures and propose her sister to choose that.
I know it might be true, and she said my opinion really counts, but I think it’s a little bizarre. (I think you’re overreacting. Women ask for your opinion when they have a high level of trust in you. This is her sisters wedding and she wants you to help her suggest dresses for her sisters wedding. That’s a very important thing to women. You should take it as a compliment of the high level of trust she has in you. It’s also good she’s asking you and not some other guy.) There’s another meaning behind that, maybe its a coded message. I would like to know what you think about it. I said I would think about it, but I’m not sure I’ll go with her. A woman never asked me to walk her to a wedding store. I told her “if you want to try out new underwear, Yes call me, I”ll be a good judge” lol… but wedding dress, I don’t know about that. (Go and have fun with it. Here’s how to keep a relationship casual when she wants to be serious just in case.)
So my man Corey, I’m turning toward you because I’d like to know what I should say to her. Should I go? Shouldn’t I? (Go and stop stressing over it. You’re making a big deal out of nothing.) Is it a secret way of sending a message? (I doubt it. It’s only been a few months.) I’m dying to hear what you got to say. But once again thanks for everything. You are a blessing in many men’s life and May God bless you. Keep doing what you doing, it is greatly appreciated.
PS: Sorry if I was too long. Wasn’t my purpose 😉
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