Why success is the best kind of revenge for haters and people who did you dirty.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email success story from a guy who was married for eighteen years with two kids. He found out his now ex-wife was sleeping with their boss. They both worked at the same company. She and his boss who she was having the affair with ran him out of the company, and he left home with no access to his kids and one suitcase.
He became homeless for several months. His wife said he’d never find anyone better. A friend turned him onto my work. Fast forward two years, and he’s now got a better job making more money and is dating a hotter younger woman. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.
I’ve got a really good email success story. This particular guy, he and his wife worked at the same company. His wife was in a position of management, and he was in a more low level position. They moved all the way across the country for her job, so they ended up working at the same company. And she starts sleeping with their boss, and then eventually leaves him, and so her and their mutual boss get together and basically run him out of the company to the point where he leaves home with one suitcase, no access to his kids, and was homeless for a few months.
And then a friend of his turned him on to my work. So, fast forward two years later, he’s completely remade his life. And I don’t want to spoil the success and what actually happened, but it’s a great story. Because the guy just literally leaves home, he’s homeless. He’s got one suitcase of possessions, he’s got no access to his daughters, and his now to be ex-wife and his boss plot and scheme to run him out of the company. So, they really did this guy dirty.
But success is the best revenge when you get screwed over like this — whether you get cheated on, your significant other leaves you, you lose your company, somebody screws you over in a business deal. Succeeding anyway is the best kind of a revenge.
For all of those of you who are going through a difficult time and may feel hopeless right now, this is light at the end of the tunnel. This guy, it took about two years from him to get from his life blowing up, to the point where he’s sending me a success story. So, it’s going to take time to turn things around in your life. It’s not going to happen overnight. Anybody that tells you it’s going to happen overnight is full of crap. That’s just reality. Success is long in coming. And revenge is a dish best served cold.
Firstly, I wanted to say…Thank You! Your teachings have changed my life.
I was married for 18 years with two children. My ex-wife and I moved to another state for work. We both worked in the same office. She was an executive and I was just working in a job I didn’t like to support her career. I know… beta, right?
Yep, you were following her lead. She had become the man in the relationship.
A year after moving 2,000 kms across the country, I found out that she was sleeping with my boss – a married man himself. Without knowing your work, I adversely reacted when I found out. I came across your work through a friend going through a separation.
Not only did my boss sleep with my ex-wife, they tried to terminate my employment through false accusations brought against me.
Boy, that sounds like a lot of fun.
Not only had I lost my marriage, I lost my home, all my possessions, access to my daughters and my job. After 18 years, I left with one suitcase of clothes. I became homeless for months.
Ouch. So, it’s like, when you lose everything, I mean, he’s back to square one. He’s less than zero, if you will. There was a movie in the 1980s with Robert Downey Jr. that I really loved that’s called “Less than Zero.” It was all people from my generation. It was just an interesting story about stuff that was going on in Hollywood with a bunch of rich kids, and some of them went down some really dark paths. It was part of the Brat Pack series of movies in the ’80s. Those of you that are Gen-X like me will remember that.
To cut a long story short, I read and re-read your book and viewed your videos.
Obviously, he’s talking about “How To Be A 3% Man,” probably “Mastering Yourself” as well. You can read both for free at UnderstandingRelationships.com. You’ve got no excuse. Money’s not an issue. All you need is a name and an email address, and you can be reading them instantly at UnderstandingRelationships.com right now. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
I am now living my purpose. In the last two years since separation, I have gone from a low-level job to being an Assistant Director, (executive earning a six figure salary), in one of the biggest government agencies in my country. My ex-wife told me I would never get better than her. If I am being objective, she was an eight.
Obviously, on a scale of one to ten. So here is my comment on your wife. She belongs on the streets, bro!
Now, I am dating a 31-year old and I am 43.
So, you replaced her with a hotter, younger version with a good attitude. What’s great is that you’re going into your your peak earning years, your peak time, where your sexual market value, if you will, is going to continually be increasing while your ex-wife’s is dropping, because she’s getting older and more likely not taking care of herself.
Because most people just treat their bodies like a garbage dump. They don’t exercise, they don’t eat right. And it’s sad, but that’s unfortunately the way most people live. And obviously, having a hotter younger wife, or girlfriend, I should say in this case, and on top of that, having a job that you’re now in a management position doing what you want to be doing, and you’re making six figures for it, that’s pretty awesome.
It’s been six months, but so far so good. She is telling me she has never felt like this about anyone, and that she is completely in love with me. She is my type… petite and blond with a banging body and amazing personality.
Oh… my ex-wife is still dating my boss. I hear she is unhappy, but I pay no attention to her, as I live a drama free life.
I love it, dude. That is awesome. Congratulations, so proud of you. Better always comes eventually. No matter how bad things are or how much things go sideways, if you put your head down and you grind away, you apply what’s in “Mastering Yourself,” you apply what’s in “How To Be A 3% Man,” eventually, with enough time, you’ll be able to remake your life.
I wrote about, in “Mastering Yourself,” the last time that I saw my old business partner. Things were going really well for me, and my business was taking off. I think it was like 2013, if I remember right, and I was doing well. I was like, “Hey, why don’t I come over, I’ll bring my camera, and we’ll shoot a video and introduce you to my audience. Maybe you’ll get some gigs out of it. Maybe you’ll get some followers.” He’s like, “That’d be great.”
So, I went over and we hung out. We did, I think, like four songs, filmed them, uploaded the video. My audience at the time really loved it. And then he shared it with some of his friends, because he had had cancer that he had beaten, at least at that time, and he’d gotten really involved in the church. And so, he sent it around. And obviously, we’re dropping F bombs, like we always did, and some of his supposed friends got butt hurt about the F bombs and our language. And he’s like, “I thought you were going to edit that out of there.” I was like, “What are you talking about? Dude, we always talk like this when we’re together. We always have, for almost 20 years that we’ve known each other.”
And then he tells me that I need to clean up my act, and I shouldn’t be saying such things on YouTube, and we should go into business together, because we’d make a lot of money together. And so, basically, he wanted to come into my company and basically get half ownership. After I had already solved all of the hard problems and figured everything out, now he wanted to stand at the finish line and come in and be an equal partner in my business. And on top of that, he was going to tell me what I could and couldn’t say on my YouTube channel, in my videos, in my business, and what I could write and talk about.
Obviously, if you read “Mastering Yourself,” you know what my response to him was, which I won’t go into extensive detail, but I just basically told him “Thanks, but no thanks.” In December 2018, he ended up passing away, and one of the things that somebody that was still close to him at the time said that he was recognizing on his deathbed was, you’ve got to finish. And all of the stuff that he wanted to do with his music, he never did. He died with his music still in him, and most people will never know who he is, will never know the gift of how good his music was. At least I thought it was, and the people who listened to it thought it was good.
He didn’t finish, and I’m still here. I’m still working on making my life better, and he’s not here anymore. And that’s that’s what happens in life. You’ve got to keep keeping on when people try to sandbag your success and destroy your dreams. Or in his case, he liked to keep everybody under his thumb. And it was like, that was one of the reasons why I stopped being in business with him in the real estate market. I just got tired of it. And here, he wanted to come back in after all these years and start ordering me around and telling me what to do. And I was like, that shit just ain’t gonna fly with me.
So, the guy that wrote the email, congratulations, dude. That is really awesome. And the fact that you stuck with it, you didn’t let that beat you down. In other words, the defeat wasn’t the final word. Just like my old business partner, I mean, he was pretty nasty to me, and I was pretty nasty to him. And I was like, I’m not going to let this guy try to make me feel bad about being who I am. For the first time in my life, I had no business partners, I had total freedom to be who I was, and I was really happy. He wanted to rain on my parade. He wanted to piss in my Wheaties, so to speak. I said, “Thanks, but no thanks,” and I never saw him again. He’s since passed away, and I’m still living a great life, got no complaints.
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“Success is the best kind of revenge to silence the haters and people who did you dirty. The world is full of vengeful, hateful and unhappy people who are looking to project their self-hatred and self-loathing onto others, so they can absolve themselves from the guilt of their own shortcomings, flaws and personal responsibility. Your success or failure in life is determined by what you do or fail to do, not by what your haters and doubters say you can’t do. Succeed anyway.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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