The more successful a man feels in all areas of his life, the easier it is for him to be successful with women. When a man who was formerly very unsuccessful with women, becomes an outrageous success with women, he realizes that he becomes more successful in all other areas of his life because of his success with women. Being successful with women gives you swagger. Being successful with women means that you are successful at making women happy. The essence of feminine energy is joy, playfulness, creativity and love. If your life is filled with sweet feminine women who adore you, you simply look at life in a more optimistic way. You see possibilities instead of obstacles. Because you understand women more than most men do, you can’t help but feel that this understanding gives you an advantage most men do not have. Because you become used to asking for and getting what you want from women, you come to expect success in all areas of your life by asking for what you want. It becomes your standard. Where once you were timid and shy, now you are a bold and brave risk taker.
When a man is used to getting what he wants with women, and realizes that most men do not, he becomes more aggressive in his career, business, his workouts, healthy eating habits, wealth building, etc. Being successful with women gives you a feeling of peace and all is well. Areas of your life that may be slightly out of balance, become more noticeable for their imbalance the more successful you become with women. The more balance you can bring to the unbalanced areas of your life, the more balance, peace and well-being that you will feel on a daily basis; The less you will let things upset you that once used to send you into orbit. What would have seemed like a major obstacle or challenge before becoming successful with women, now just looks like a little bump in the road. Therefore, since masculine energy grows through challenge, you will find yourself taking on bigger and bigger challenges that offer bigger and bigger potential rewards.
Your comfort zone is where you are most uncomfortable. What that means is, that a man is most fulfilled when he is pushing the boundaries of his comfort zone. The only way to grow and expand beyond what you are now, is to expand into areas that feel uncomfortable. If talking to beautiful women, once terrified you, but now it is no big deal, this was only achieved by doing what felt uncomfortable. As little successes replaced feelings of uncertainty and being uncomfortable, successes built your confidence. Success with women breeds confidence. Action breeds confidence and courage, inaction breeds fear and doubt.
The more you accomplish in life, the more you believe you can accomplish. Things that you once never considered, now become things that you think are possible. As the years roll by and your successes build up, you often find yourself doing and saying things that you once considered impossible and out of reach for you. You realize that if you persist long enough at something in life you have a passion for, that eventually by changing and adapting your approach when things are not working, you will slowly figure out the magic winning formula to make something work. Making money is 80% psychology and 20% mechanics. The mechanics is the tough part when it comes to building a successful business or career. Most people give up and settle before they figure out the mechanics. Like Dr. Wayne Dyer says, “it’s never crowded along the extra mile.”
The following is an e-mail from a phone coaching client. He is about half way through his four-year criminal justice degree. He’s having a hard time getting hired by a law enforcement agency. Notice how easily he overcomes his rejection. Just a few months ago when he was not as successful with women as he is now, he would have suffered for days after a rejection. He has been applying what I teach in my book relentlessly. You can download the Amazon Kindle version to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE. Now he has women blatantly asking him for his phone number and pursuing him. He has lots of choices with women now and regularly blows off women. When I first started coaching him, he was in a major dry spell and wondered why women were not paying any attention to him. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
How goes it my man? Fucking awesome newsletters that you are putting out! Well I’ve had some ups and downs in my life since our last session. First I’ll start with the downs, the both jobs that I applied for unfortunately I got passed up on both, one because of the background check and the other because of political purposes. However, I am eligible to reapply for both, and with one of them, I was informed that they would keep my app on file for 6 months. Dude Corey, there were 5 openings, and according to my inside source, I was 6 on the list. (close… but no cigar)
Corey, at first I was devastated. I started feeling sorry for myself and was wondering once again what the hell I was doing wrong? But I licked my wounds and came to the realization that I will ensure failure if I don’t get back up. (“Pain is temporary, may last a minute, an hour, a day or year, but it will subside. But if I QUIT, that lasts forever. So I keep fighting.” -Tony McDaniel) Yesterday I got up took a shower, and as I was getting ready this serene feeling came over me as if everything was going to be OK. I now feel confident and ready to get back into the saddle. In my heart of hearts I know that I did not do anything wrong and that perhaps right now is just not my time for whatever it is that I am searching for. All I can do is persist on my goals. Its hard but I know that I am exactly right where I need to be and I will eventually succeed. (“Even when the mission seems impossible, it is the strength of our belief that makes success possible. The absence of this belief guarantees failure.” – Navy SEAL Motto) So with all that being said. I feel a whole lot better, plus just getting it off my chest by emailing you helps as well. (You got to feel it to heal it. Feel the raw emotions without judgement, and be present with the icky feelings. Once they are authentically experienced, they dissolve and then you feel better. But if you resist the icky feelings, they only persist and grow until you face them and are fully authentically present with them.)
Well, on to the good news, I have been interacting with tons of women and basically enhancing and overcoming my fears with women; even the beautiful ones. (repetition is the mother of skill.) I no longer feel as intimidated by them as I used to. Dude Corey, I was at a graduation two weeks ago and I had got approached by this gal. She caught me off guard. She wasn’t attractive psychically, but she had asked me for my number. I thought to myself, she must have balls to do that because not to many women would. (Yes! Confident women in general are rare. When you do meet one who likes you, they make it really easy as they do the seducing & chasing without fear. You are exhibiting the right kind of alpha male energy; confident women notice. Even the unattractive confident ones.) So I was being nice, and I gave it to her.
She texted me the next day and asked me if I really wanted to give her my number, or if it was because I was put on the spot. (She was unsure of herself & could probably tell the interest was not mutual. However, she is hoping she can convince you to pay more attention. Now she wants to win you. You are a challenge and she knows she has to work harder to get you.) I replied back with, “oh oh is someone insecure?” Then I changed the subject and set up a coffee date. Well, when we were on our date, dude Corey, we had an amazing conversation for 2 hours, and talked about many subjects. (She has high interest and works to make things easy for you. Plus, you two obviously have some chemistry and common interests.) It was really interesting. However, the psychical attraction is not there, but we had much in common. I really enjoy her as a friend, but I don’t know if I should hang out with her again in respect to if she is expecting something more. (Nonsense! Let her chase you & seduce you if she wants. I bet she will fuck your brains out. Average girls got to make up for lacking physical attractiveness in other ways 🙂 It would be a great experience for both of you. Why? You won’t have to do much & you will feel what a giver really feels like so you don’t settle in the future when you make a commitment to a woman.) What do you think brother? (Let her come to you. All you have to do is say yes. She sounds like great friends with benefits material. If she wants more and you don’t… tell her. Be honest. Tell her you are not looking for a relationship. She should date and sleep with who ever she wants. You love hanging with her and want to keep doing that. If she is not down with that, then tell her to call you if she changes her mind. Only give her what you can, but ALWAYS stick to what you want. By being honest, you have nothing to feel guilty about. You simply feel hesitant because you don’t want to get into anything that would equate to you losing your “freedom”)
Well, I better be closing for now. Also Coach, I am running a little low on funds right now due to the holidays, plus the fact that I bought me a new mac laptop, (Mac’s are awesome! Smart move!) which is fucking awesome! I plan to download Skype, so our next session I will be able to finally see your ass when we talk! LOL. But with that being said, I would appreciate it if I could reschedule our session for a later time after I am caught up with everything. How would say the 13th of Jan 3pm mountain time work for you? (I sent you a separate email on the reschedule) If not let me know when you have time and I will try to adjust. Thanks Again Coach Corey for all the guidance and wisdom you have provided me with. I feel like I am more confident in everything that I do. And even though I have setbacks I now feel confident in overcoming them due to your guidance. Thanks brother. Have a happy new years.
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“Effort only fully releases its reward after a person refuses to quit.” ~ Napoleon Hill