Here’s some surefire ways to build attraction to seduce women who only find you minimally attractive. That means on a scale of 1 to 10 with a 10 being the best looking, she sees you as about a five. If you were to ask her she would say you’re okay, kind of cute, average, all right, etc. So long as you meet her lowest standards, and by doing most everything right, you can raise her interest level to the point that she falls in love with you. It usually takes about two months or about a dozen dates or so for a woman to fall in love with you by courting her properly. The key is not to get hung up on one woman. The more women you talk to, even when you are just making small talk while waiting in line somewhere, the more you will feel comfortable talking to women. It will become just as natural as chatting with an old friend. It’s best to have a mindset of non-attachment to any kind of outcome such as getting her phone number, getting laid, hooking up, etc. You have the desire for her, but unless she shows mutual excitement and interest towards you, you could take it or leave it. She’d be nice to have, but you know there’s better out there for you. I want to be wanted also. If she’s not willing to make the same kind of effort as I am, why would I want to waste my time with someone who’s going to act like an energy vampire? I’m a catch, and you have to earn me too. That should be your mindset.
The following is an e-mail from a reader. He says he’s a really good looking guy and believes most women find him to be attractive. He wants to know the best way besides his good looks on how to attract women who really aren’t that excited about him to begin with. Even with his good looks, he meets plenty of women who do not feel a mutual physical attraction for him. Getting hung up on women who don’t reciprocate interest or who are unavailable, leads to suffering. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
I love your articles and insight on relationships. My question for you is very simple. I am a pretty good looking guy. In my opinion I am very good looking. I don’t believe from just a pure physical attraction standpoint that there are many women who wouldn’t find me to be at least a 7 or 8. But, like you said, to some people you’re a 10, and to others you can be a 3, so I do understand that. (Attraction isn’t a choice for a woman. You either make the cut or you don’t. If she does not think you are at least average looking, ok or kinda cute, then you ain’t got a chance with her. It’s a numbers game. Most men get hung up on the ones that reject them so they stop meeting anyone new. Obsessing over what they can not have keeps them from moving forward to meet someone they can have. It’s a mind prison of their own design. With women, you simply want to know as quickly as possible after meeting her, honey… are ya in, or are ya out? If you’re out, be proud you asked and move on. You must get thru the no’s and not give a flying fuck about rejection. It’s really their loss, not yours. You must talk to enough women to where you lose your fear of them all. Then you realize they like you most when you are your most playful outrageous self. Men that constantly talk to women and act like they need her approval or need her to like him, will never get laid. Their words and body language communicate that they are not worthy. Women have no choice but to agree. Women want you to feel you deserve them. Your passion for her and her beauty will break thru any token resistance she offers to you when you pass the bare minimum physical attraction test. If you act like a guy who always gets what he wants without any fear of rejection, and you know what to say, they will help you to seduce them.) What I would like to know is besides just being playful and light-hearted or creating laughter, what are the other sure fire ways to build attraction quickly just in case physical traits alone are not putting her interest level high above 51%? (You either make the minimum cut or you don’t. If you do, you can raise it. If you don’t, there is nothing you can do. The best way to create attraction is to be happy and successful as a man in life. Build a successful business or career that you love and are proud of. Be a fun person who likes to smile, and mostly do things that make you smile. You must be happy and fulfilled with a complete life without a woman in it. A woman can then show up and co-create an even more magnificent space with you. “When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.”-Lao Tzu. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)
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