Talking About Your Future Together

Why you should not talk about your future together, becoming exclusive, getting serious, making multiple dates in the future, etc., when you start dating someone new or you will dramatically lower your chances of actually having a future with them.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss two emails from two different viewers. The first viewer asks if talking about his future with a woman he just started dating will create attraction or turn her off, even if he does it in a humorous way.

The second is from a viewer who got dumped by his girlfriend. He has successfully employed what I teach to re-attract her and now she is doing 70% of the calling texting and pursuing and telling him how much she misses him and how she can’t wait to see him. He’s doing great, but he’s wondering when to talk about a commitment, moving in together and having a future with her because he’s convinced that this is the woman he is going to marry.

“When guys start talking about their future with women they just started dating such as becoming exclusive, commitments, dating/relationship labels, planning multiple dates into the future, etc., it is usually just another manifestation of needy, insecure and controlling behavior that communicates that they do not feel the women will want them longterm. This causes women to feel like they will lose their freedom and like they are already in a committed relationship before they are emotionally ready. This will usually lead to the let’s just be friends speech, I’m not looking for anything right now, I’m not looking for a relationship, etc., type of rejection response. The best approach to prevent rejection is to live in the present moment, don’t talk about your future together, hangout, have fun and hook up one date at a time. When women are emotionally ready for a commitment, they will bring it up.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne