Talking Her Out Of Liking You

Jul 14, 2012 by Coach Corey Wayne

How to avoid the common mistakes most guys make who talk women right out of sleeping with them because they do not understand how to interact with women in ways that create attraction. How to properly use the phone, texting, facebook, instant massaging, etc. to create attraction and set dates that lead to sex. A big mistake most men who are unsuccessful with women make is they spend too much time talking about themselves and talking in general thinking it will make women want them more.

Women can usually tell right away after talking to a guy for a few minutes whether or not he gets it. Guys simply have a hard time staying present in the moment and just enjoying themselves. This causes them to feel like they have to do or say something clever or be something other than they are in order to get women to like them. The simple reality is, women are attracted to men who are masculine, centered and who are comfortable enough in their own skin to be who they are, and say what they feel regardless of whether or not people accept them. The following is an e-mail from a reader who has been unsuccessfully trying to attract a woman by chasing her and texting her constantly instead of making dates. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Corey,

I have been talking to this one particular girl for a little while now. (That already tells me you have been talking to her too long and not setting dates. You have been talking her out of liking you by talking on the phone instead of in person on a date.) I will admit I probably pursued her a little too hard and asked her to do things too often. She would typically make some bogus excuse. (Yet you continue to ignore that. Ask a woman out twice max, after she turns you down without offering a different date like I talk about in my book, delete her number and move on.) I now know not to keep asking her to do things with me.

The reason I kept asking her to do things, is because she told me she was interested in me and that she wanted a boyfriend. (That does not mean she wanted you as a boyfriend, but you assumed it did. You are totally ignoring her low interest in you.) We have hung out a few times and had a pretty good time. She has since brought up my ex girlfriend. She has asked me questions about her that she heard from her friends or my friends. My ex did pageants and had fake boobs, so in her opinion she thinks I only like those kinds of girls. Although this girl has no reason to be jealous. She has told me she feels inferior to me.

(When a woman says something like that to you, playfully respond with “so are you telling me you feel inferior in hopes that it will make me want you more? I don’t think that is a good pickup line for you to use on me baby.”) I guess because of my ex or who knows what. When she kept blowing me off for dates, I expressed to her I wasn’t interested if she kept doing that. (An alpha male would have just walked away and moved on to someone else.) She then responded that I am just like every other guy, and that I didn’t want to date her in the first place; even though I have told her I wanted to.

(Translation: “It’s your fault I am jerking you around because you don’t know what you are doing like most guys.”) She has only had one real boyfriend and had a bad experience. My question is, is she just really insecure about herself or hesitant about dating again? (Probably both.) Or is it something I have done to make her uninterested and she is just making excuses to get rid of me? (She have may initially liked you, but you did too many things wrong that turned her off and trained her to flake on you because you keep coming back and chasing her. Chasing women guarantees rejection.)

I have now backed off on texting her as much and let her text first. We use to text all the time. Now I hardly text and when I do I usually wait for a while. Today I haven’t texted her today and neither has she. This is probably the first day we haven’t texted in a few months. (Texting, calling, instant message, email, etc. is to be used only to set dates. You spend more time texting & chatting on the phone than you do in person. That is not good!) What are your thoughts? (Forget about this girl. Stop chasing her! You’re wasting your time & getting nowhere.

You need to start meeting & dating some new women so you can practice your skills of seduction. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Thanks!

Bob

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Published on July 14, 2012

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  1. Hey coach. is it possible for someone to be so ugly physically that nobody wants him/theguy, because like you said attraction is not a choice so what if no one wants you.

  2. Holy Shit! Where has your advice been my whole life. I’ve been watching your videos, and its made me realize so much about myself. I am definitely a pleaser and aim to chase, which has only ever blown up in my face. I’m incredibly happy that I found your site… all of your advice is incredibly fitting.

    Thanks for sharing all of this.

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