In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who has been following me for about a year. He first found my work after his wife took off with his kids to Asia and left him. He was very distraught and trying to get his family back, but he also realized his marriage was over and he needed to move on with his life. He started applying what I teach, and he shares a recent story of how he was with several coworkers in an elevator, and a beautiful woman who was an eleven on a scale of one to ten walked into the elevator. His male coworkers froze, but he confidently engaged her in playful conversation, revealed her attraction, made her feel safe and comfortable, and got her phone number. On top of that, she even volunteered what days and times were best to reach her. He did a masterful job of being playful, charming, and quickly getting her phone number. He shares exactly what he said and did to be successful and how you can use this same approach to get a beautiful woman’s contact information in seconds to later call her to make a date.
I have to tell you a story that happened yesterday, I think you will like.
I was headed down an elevator from a business meeting with a couple of my friends. The last three floors of this building is a high-end mall connected to a parking garage on floors 4 through 10. My friends have noticed over the past year that my success with women has been through the roof and they were asking what my secret was. (Your friends see the change in you and want to know your secret. And here is your opportunity to show them how easy and effortless it is to talk to women.) Out of pure serendipity, just then, the elevator door opens from the parking garage and in steps an 11. This woman was smoking hot…supermodel good looks, looked to be about half my age, I’m 48. While they stood there in shock, I kept my cool and studied her, objectively looking for something to connect with. (Use your surroundings or the way she presents herself to create something to talk about.) Then I noticed she had her toenails painted purple, which was in contrast with what she was wearing. So I said, “Purple toe nails… interesting, doesn’t exactly go with what you are wearing.” She gives me this, ‘Who the fuck are you look’ — all I did was smile back. Then she says, “I’m going to the LSU game tomorrow.” I knew LSU was playing Alabama, so I said “Roll Tide!” Btw, I’m not a Bama fan, but I wanted to tease her a bit. She got this surprised look on her face and gave me a little smile. (Playfully teasing her communicates you’re attracted to her and interested in her, putting off the vibe you’re comfortable with her and with yourself.) I didn’t give her a chance to say anything after that and just said, “Well, if you’re going to deck yourself out in the losing team’s colors, you’re going to need some gold to go with your purple toenails.” She then said that was the reason she was there — to shop for something to wear. (Women put a lot of thought and effort into looking good and getting attention.) I said, “Well, just about anything you put on that hot body is going to look great, so it must be easy for you to shop.” (That effortless, authentic compliment is rare to her and she will appreciate it.) Reading her body language, I could tell I peaked her interest, so I said, “Give me your number because you’re going to need someone to console you after Bama kicks y’all’s ass.” She said, “You have a pen?” I said, “I don’t need a pen. I always remember things I want.” So she gave me her name, number, and told me the best times to call the next week. The door opened to the floor she was getting off, she turned around and gave me a ‘I’ll see you later’ look with this HUGE smile. (If a woman likes you, she will help you get a date with her.)
After the elevator door closed, I pulled out my phone and put in her contact info. Then, I looked at my friends, and they were literally standing there with their mouths open in complete shock. I told them, “When you get to a computer, Google ‘Corey Wayne Understanding Relationships’ and learn.” (You will rarely miss when you show up like this because women are dying to meet a man like this.)
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“Most men mask their feelings of attraction for a woman instead of being honest, authentic and boldly asking for a phone number or a date right on the spot. Weak men try to fly under the radar, act like they are not interested when they actually are, say they want to be friends only when that is not true, belittle or put the woman they like down, etc. They do this to avoid rejection, feeling uncomfortable, looking foolish or because they simply lack the confidence to go for what they want. The reality is that women know that if you approach and talk to them, then you are most likely interested. Only the most confident men immediately risk rejection. Why? Attraction is not a choice. Inauthenticity and hesitation is what really makes a man look foolish, weak and pathetic in a woman’s eyes. If a woman likes you, she will help you get a date with her. If she doesn’t, she will offer resistance, make excuses, stall or reject you outright. Even when you get rejected it’s a win. Why? At least she will respect you as a man because you had the guts to show up, be present and do what most men are too weak, shy and timid to do.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne