Why being successful in the game of love requires that you allow the other person to be who they are and come and go as they please without any unreasonable expectations, trying to change them, asking them to modify their behavior so you don’t feel insecure and learning to love and accept yourself as you are without trying to become something you are not.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss four different emails from four different viewers. The first two viewers caused the breakup of their relationships because their women did not match their expectations. The first viewer tried to control his girlfriend and who she hung out with. Eventually she tired of his controlling ways and broke up with him.
The second viewer is incredibly insecure, jealous and acted like a total jackass by constantly breaking up with his girlfriend because he accused her of cheating on him constantly. The second viewer is wondering what to say when he asks out a woman he’s going to see when he visits her office. He wonders what to say and do on their first date and if he should ask for a second date at the end of their first. The fourth email is from a viewer whose ex is now coming back to him after he drove her away with his feminine weak behavior.
“Winning at the game of love is about freedom. It is about two people who love as their gift to one another without any attachments to any particular outcome of their giving. The purpose of all relationships is that you go there to give, not to manipulate or to try and either become something you are not, or to force the other person to become something they are not in order that you may feel whole and complete yourself. Love is about two awesomely spectacular human beings coming together to share and relish in each others divine magnificence and completeness. If you come from a place of sharing your completeness, you’ll never feel incomplete or that you lack something. Total self love and acceptance is an essential prerequisite to being able to love another for their completeness and so that they feel free to be themselves.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne