How to avoid friend-zoning yourself and falling into the gay male girlfriend trap when a woman you are dating tries to friend-zone you to keep you in a backup position, go back to her ex or because you did things to turn her off.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss two different emails from two different viewers. The first email is from a viewer who made the mistake of becoming good friends with a woman who was a family friend he wanted to date, but he never made any moves or communicated his interest. He has become her gay male girlfriend and can’t even date her because she now has a boyfriend. He asks how to back away from the friendship so he does not continue to torture himself by spending time with a woman he wants, but can’t have. He still wants to leave the door open in case she breaks up with her boyfriend in the future. The second email is from a guy who was dating a woman and ruining her attraction for him by acting weak. She friend-zoned him when her cheating ex-boyfriend who she still had feelings for came back into the picture. After her ex-boyfriend left the country indefinitely, she started contacting him again. Fortunately, he had been studying and applying what I teach by then. He was able to start hooking up with her again. Then she suddenly friend-zoned him again when her boyfriend decided to come visit her saying that she did not want her boyfriend to find out she was seeing him behind her boyfriends back. He asks my opinion on what he should do going forward. She continues to contact him and is persistent in trying to keep him as a back up plan in friends-zone.
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“Women often will put a guy they were dating into friends-zone and start treating him like their gay male girlfriend because they either acted too weak and unmanly, or they wanted to give their ex another shot at getting things right. Men have to see the reality of a woman’s actions as a true reflection of her feelings towards them, instead of projecting their fantasies onto women and assuming they feel the same way. Anytime a woman you are dating or want to date starts throwing around the “friends only” label, you should make it explicitly clear that you are not interested in being friends only, and to walk and never look back if her decision is firm. Any man who agrees to stick around as friends only when he really wants romance is deluding himself and willfully submitting to torturing himself emotionally as he hopes for another chance at romance.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne