The Hidden Secrets To Turning Women On Instead Of Turning Them Off

The secrets that turn women on when it comes to attraction & romance.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who’s new to my work. He started dating a new woman he met online. Things were great for about two months. Then she became distant and seemed disinterested. After reading my book he realized what he was doing to turn her off and drive her away and all the other women he’s experienced this same pattern with previously.

Now she’s all over him again. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

This is an email from a guy who’s new to my work, and he started dating a woman that he met online like a lot of guys do these days. He says things are great for about two months. Then she started becoming distant and seemed like she was a little disinterested, which was kind of confusing. Then after he came across and read my book, he realized what he was doing to turn her off and drive her away and dry her up, for that matter.

He also realized that this is the same pattern he’s seen over and over and over again in his life. Hot and heavy initially in the beginnings. Then it fizzles, fizzles out after a while. So now this woman that he was dating, he was really into and then was distraught over the fact that she was not seeming like, “I just didn’t care anymore.” Now she’s all over him again, to the point where it’s almost annoying.

I say a lot. I love women, but they’re fucking annoying when they love you. They want your attention all the fucking time to the point where they’re gonna annoy the hell out of you. If you buy what’s in the book, that’s what you’re going to get. You want love. Love is allowing. I basically teach you how to allow women to love you. They’re already open to it. It’s just that we end up talking them out of it.

Viewer Email:

Hey Corey,

Thought I’d reach out because you’re spot the fuck on brother. I’ve read the book and became a premium YouTube subscriber after a weird interaction. After listening, I understand completely my history both good and bad. 

Well, it’s like it’s the cheat codes to the ladies.

I recently got involved with a woman from a dating app who was actually pretty great. Without knowing your content, I played it perfectly through the first few dates.

Well, every guy’s got a knowledge gap. Some guys, it’s bigger than others. Like mine was really big, obviously, when I was younger, but when you close that gap and you solve the knowledge gap problem, you come off as a charming James Bond or a charming Cary Grant.

Have you ever seen some of the old school Cary Grant movies? He was a Jedi master of playful banter. The slightly irritated look on his face, when in reality, he’s just fucking breaking their balls and teasing them because he knows they love it. It’s like catnip to the ladies treating him like the bratty little sister occasionally and fucking with him.

We slept together quite a few times, I crashed by her place on multiple occasions, her by mine as well. 

So from about two months of being very tight, texting everyday, talking dirty, she kind of stopped. There was a change. I noticed it. It was blatant.

Yeah, that’s the kind of thing. You over-invest, you call too much, she texted too much. In other words, like in the beginning, you got all the power. She doesn’t. As you start to care, the power kind of flips. Then when she realizes you care way more about her than she does about you, then her interest drops back down, and then you tend to freak out. As a guy, we’re like driven to figure out, “Hey, what have we got to fix?”

What is masculine energy? Purpose, drive, mission, succeeding, accomplishing, breaking through barriers, overcoming challenges. So when it comes to ladies and they back off, we think, “Shit, there’s something we got to do,” but in reality, our lives should not change and should not be affected by a woman’s changing emotions or feelings. We’re continuing to be laser focused, driving the fun bus. If she wants to get on, great. If she wants to get off, great. If she wants to get on again, that’s great too. In other words, you’re indifferent because the difference that makes a difference is indifference.

You got to understand that women are like cats. They spend a lot of time with you, they get familiar, and it’s almost like, “Wow, she seems kind of bored,” and you just got to let her be. She got her fill of you. You penetrated her emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically a lot. Then so she wants to take time to connect with her girlfriends, maybe her parents, her mother, her best friends, her female co-workers, and gush about you and talk about you. Then when a day or two has gone by, or maybe just a few hours and she’s like, “What’s he doing? I haven’t heard from him. Who’s he talking to? Is he thinking about me? Is he missing me? Is he wearing that shirt I bought him? I wonder what he’s doing,” and they reach back out. If you’re not used to that and you don’t know that, you’re gonna get upset. You’re going to get freaked out. You’re gonna think there’s something wrong, “I gotta fix this.” If you ask the girl, “Hey, is everything OK? Are we OK?” She goes, “Why is he acting this way? Why is he not sure himself?”

Women are attracted to confidence. When a guy gets it, one of these emotional flat spins, his confidence goes out the window. He acts indecisive. He acts unsure. He starts seeking her approval. In other words, “Is she happy? Is everything going great in the relationship or the courtship? Why is she not as interested as she was a few weeks ago?” A 3% Man, those things just don’t affect him.

Just like a woman’s interest is like this when she gets on her period around that time of the month, the emotions fluctuate. Sometimes she might even become unpleasant to be around. Since we love ourselves, we just go, “Oh, I’m going to go for a drive, honey. I’m going to go over to hang out with my buddy Bob. We’re going to have a few beers, shoot the shit, work on his muscle car or whatever. Hang out, talk about football,” or whatever it happens to be. Do some guy things. You know, go hang out in the man cave with your buddy. You’ll just go out and do things or, “You know what? You’re kind of cranky. The kids and I want to have a good time. So we’re going to go for a drive.” Probably take them for Dairy Queen ice cream or something fun. “We’ll be back later,” and you’re not bothered.

You’re not going to let a woman’s emotions, good or bad, affect you in any way, shape or form. They can’t. You’re the rock. You’re the mountain. You’re the immovable force. The wind blows around the mountain. The wind doesn’t move the mountain out of the way. So women have to move themselves around you. You don’t go anywhere. You’re just there.

In my logical mind, I called this out. I acted emotional when she was just more than likely being a kitty cat. 

Yeah, what happens when cats get a little bored? Cats jump up in your lap. They want to hang out. You pet them for a while and then they get their fill. They’re like, “Alright, see you, buddy,” and they jump out of your lap and they might look at you and you’re like, “I wasn’t done petting you,” and you want to go over and grab it, put it back in your lap. It’s not purring anymore. It doesn’t really like that. Then it really runs away. Then you might not see it for a couple of days because you acted needy. Then next thing you know, two, three days come by, the cat comes in, he’s like, “Oh, here I am. Does he notice me yet?” And you’re like, “What’s up, kitty cat?” And you just go about your business. You do whatever. The cat comes around, goes in between your legs, walking with his tail up, raising its butt. You’re just like, “I’m kind of busy doing what I’m doing, kitty cat.” The cat goes, “OK well, maybe make a little extra effort here.” Then the cat jumps up in your lap and then you start petting it, and then it purrs.

Women are the same way. It’s like “You stay, you go. I’m not bothered by it.” It’s her job to convince you to stay with her and be in a relationship with her. You just gotta hang out, have fun,and hook up, create the opportunity for sex to happen, and when she’s away from you, let her be doing her thing, you be doing yours, because she’ll be back soon enough. As her interest goes up, she’s going to be stuck to you like a sucker-fish.

It’s obvious, however, when you do such a thing how much they back away, LOL. “Who’s wearing the pants?” Type of thing.

Yeah, you put a woman in charge, that’s a quick way to dry her up, close her legs and cause her to go want to do something else that doesn’t involve you.

I acted like a chick. I got in my head, jealous and paranoid. This experience and most of my previous relationships have played out to a T, the way you describe.

Yeah, what happened was as soon as you really started caring, you started treating her differently. You became extra nice, extra compliant, less willing to stand up for yourself, less willing to call her out. If she did some kind of minor infraction she needs to be called out for, and you start displaying a softness and a weakness and deferring to her and putting her in charge, and she doesn’t like that. She doesn’t want to lead. She wants to be led by you. When you start abdicating responsibility, you’re going to dry her up, close her legs, and she’s going to go do something else that doesn’t involve you.

Since finding you, however, I’ve already fucked my ex multiple times and the phone is blowing up, to the point where it’s annoying, LOL. The stupidity and simplicity of all this is truly amazing, and thank you for teaching us. 

Keep treading kindly brother. Thank you, smart dude!

Bob

Well, I’m just good at connecting dots. While you guys are living your lives and doing other things, I was suffering, flailing, and connecting dots, and this is just what I do. It’s my purpose.

So the book gives you the cheat codes to life, especially when it comes to the ladies. Makes it really easy because if you got your personal life on autopilot, it allows you to focus on your mission, your purpose, and everything else that matters the most to maintaining and keeping a great life going.

So, if you’ve got a question or a challenge and you’d like to get my help, go to UnderstandingRelationships.com, click the Products tab at the top of your screen on any page, and book a coaching session with yours truly. Until next time, I will talk to you soon.