The Painful Consequences Of Taking A Liar & Cheater Back

The painful consequences of taking a liar and cheater back after they betray you.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who was dating his now ex-wife for a few months. One night she got dressed up and went out to meet a male “friend” from France who was in town. He said not to go or he’d leave. When she got back she admitted she slept with him. He packed his stuff and left in the morning. She begged and pleaded and he caved and came back.

They had a daughter together and now he’s not sure if it’s even his. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

This is for all you passport bros that think if you just marry a woman from another country, then your problems are solved because all modern women suck. This particular guy, he got married to a woman from Thailand. She cheated on him. She lied to him. He said he was leaving. I mean, the whole setup for this, what transpired? They were only dating for like two or three months. I don’t want to spoil the surprise, but there’s some obvious things here that any person with common sense would go, “Well, you shouldn’t have stayed with her. You shouldn’t have gone back,” but the thirst is real. The girl was really super hot and all of the waterworks worked. He gave her another chance and it ends predictably, as it should because character is destiny.

Doesn’t matter whether the girl’s from the United States or Thailand or wherever you find her in the world, if she’s got shitty character, you shouldn’t be surprised at what you get and just because you think you’re going to marry a perfect girl from another country that she’s going to be honest, loyal and faithful? Here’s another email where a guy was doing that and it didn’t work out too well for him. Now he’s wondering, is his child is even his child at this point? So you don’t want to be in a position that this guy is in. So hopefully you guys will listen, especially you red pill dunces.

Viewer Email:

Hi Corey,

The story of my ex wife, the Thai woman: 

We had been together maybe two or three months, living together maybe longer there in Bangkok, before we married. 

Bangkok has a reputation for a reason.

One night, out of nowhere, she dressed up in a skimpy skirt, top and high heels.

If it’s your girlfriend or your wife, it’s late at night and she’s getting all dressed up, especially if she’s dressing in a way that she doesn’t even dress for you, well she’s dressed to look good for somebody. That should be an obvious red flag, which he saw.

It’s late, maybe 9 p.m. already, and I’m not sure what she’s doing. She says she’s just going to see, “A friend.” I said, “What friend?” She tried to avoid telling me who. I keep asking, she finally says it’s just a friend she knew from a long time ago from France, a guy that she met a long time ago and he just came back to Thailand and wants to see her. She says he’s, “Just a friend.” I said, “Yeah right.”

I was telling her if she goes, I’ll leave and not come back.

The strongest negotiating position is being able to walk away and mean it. If you tell a woman something like that, if she leaves, then you’re not going to be here when she gets back, then you go back to her, well you’re a bitch. Plain and simple.

Sorry, that’s harsh, but you got to be a man of your word. You got to be congruent with your words. If she’s going out to get laid or get dicked down by some other guy and expects just to come home after two or three months of dating, it sounds like they were living together already, and she goes and then you put up with it, what do you think is going to happen? You’re telling her it’s OK that she can get away with it because she’s hot. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a guy simping in America for a girl that does this or a hot girl in Thailand, it’s still the same low character issues. That’s why I think it’s humorous the guys go, “Oh, I’ll be a passport bro. Dating women from overseas are so much better.” Yeah, right.

Character is destiny. If you don’t evaluate based on character, you deserve what you get. If you act like a bitch, women are going to treat you like a bitch. Plain and simple. That’s the way it is, even if you don’t like it. I’m not here to blow sunshine up your ass. I’m gonna tell you the way things really are in the world.

She ignores me and says, “He’s just a friend. Nothing’s going to happen.” It was at night, so I didn’t leave. I needed to sleep and she left even though I told her this is it, I will leave if she betrays me.

Probably one of the reasons why she left is she knew you didn’t really mean what you said. You weren’t going to be congruent with your word anyways because you were acting like a beta male already. I mean, she’s living with you. It seems like after two or three months, “I’m gonna leave if you take off and go see that guy!”

She leaves, went to see him. She came back before dawn and I’m still sleeping. She seemed different.

That’s because she got the hot beef injection from Mr. Chad “From France” Thundercock.

I prodded her if she did anything with him and she lied and said no at first. I said, “Just tell the truth.” She kept lying. Finally since she was lying and I knew it, I said, “Come on, just tell me the truth. I won’t get mad, I just want to know the truth,” and then she admitted she had sex and she even described to me the acts she did. Very degenerate.

Character is destiny. This is who she is. As Maya Angelou said, “When somebody tells you who they are, believe them the first time.”

This was before my daughter came into existence, before we married.

This guy still thought it was a good idea to marry her.

At first my heart dropped, like what you feel when you get betrayed. Then I asked her why she did this when she was my girlfriend and she just laid there tired and not giving me much of a reason.

Yeah, because she didn’t respect you, because she knew you were a bitch and you’d put up with it. That’s the real reason why she went and fucked that guy, because she knew you wouldn’t stand up to her.

So I stopped asking her things and packed my backpack and started to leave and she started begging me not to go and apologizing saying she will never do anything  like that again and that she wants me to stay, “Please don’t go!” 

Like KC and the Sunshine Band. “Please don’t go!”

I was a little surprised…

“Babe, I want you to know. Please don’t go. Don’t go away.” Don’t you guys love my singing?

…That she acted desperate and was so attached to me by that point that she acted like that. Tugging at my arm…

She’s a good actress. She knew knew you were going to fall for it hook, line and sinker because you’re a bitch.

…Crying, pulling me as I brushed her aside, and ignored her. She followed me down the elevator, into the street, doing this in front of people. Begging me to stay, apologizing, crying, pulling me.

Oh yeah. She’s sorry now.

I kept walking.

If you were a real man, you would have kept walking. Would have said, “Look, I told you. You left. We’re not together. Go call your French boyfriend. We’re done.”

Finally I was away from her with her still crying behind me. Thai people are around on motorbikes, the taxi guys and they’re all watching curiously the scene. I’m getting farther and farther away now and down the street and I start to think, “Now I’m alone. It’s OK, but my girlfriend is regretful of cheating on me…”

Dude, really? You bought all that bullshit?

“…She still wants me. She’s crying and remorseful for her actions.”

She’s only remorseful that you’re actually leaving. Well, it seemed like you were leaving.

“Plus, she’s sexy and beautiful.”

As the late, great Doc Love used to say, “A beautiful woman is like Kryptonite to the average guy. She has the power to make him fall apart.” So you knew you should have left.

I turned around and went back to her.

It’s like, “Bro. Bro. Dude…”

Then I warned her not to ever cheat on me again or it’s over forever.

Yeah, you said that the first time and you didn’t mean it, so of course she’s going to cheat on you again because you were a bitch and you took her back. She knows you don’t mean what you say. Your words don’t mean anything. You can’t behave this way with women.

One of the things the red pill guys complain about is like, “Who’s going to hold women accountable?” You got to! You’re the man. You set the standard. Here’s a man telling a woman not to go because he knows she’s probably going to cheat on him. She goes and does it anyways. Then he turns around and goes back to her. This is why they get away with it, because there’s one guy after another lining up, so desperate, so thirsty for a hot girl, that he’s willing to put up with it. Most of you guys ain’t ever throwing a hot girl back to the streets like that.

And that’s how my daughter was born. However, there is a question. Could my daughter be that other dude’s kid and not mine?

Or maybe some other guy.

Only a DNA test would know!

Bob

Well, if you were smart, which quite frankly, it doesn’t look like you’re very smart. I don’t know how much time has passed, but at some point, after all this time has passed, she’s not your wife anymore. So I assume you got divorced at some point. Even despite all that, you still haven’t done a DNA test. That is called a chump. You’re being a chump, dude. I want to say I feel bad for you, but dude, you totally did it to yourself. If you were a real man, you would have kept on walking and never looked back.

The strongest negotiating position is being able to walk away and mean it. Women must know that if they push you too far, you’ll walk and never look back. You turned around and you went back to her. So everything that happened after that, that’s on you now, dude. Totally on you. It’s disappointing, but again it just goes to show, maybe this is a red pill passport bro. He didn’t listen. He thought, “Oh, she’s from Thailand. She’s got to be good.” I don’t know, but anybody reading this can go, “Well that’s pretty obvious. Duh! Character is destiny.” You think just because you date a foreign girl that she won’t cheat on you? That’s one of the most insane, ridiculous things that the passport bros just gloss over. “Oh, I’m dating a girl from another country. It’s going to be so much better.” No, it’s not. If you don’t vet her properly, if you act like a bitch, she’s going to treat you like a bitch. Now you don’t even know if your own kid is your kid. That’s so sad.

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