How standing up for yourself, what you want, your values, your goals and dreams by learning to use and become comfortable with saying the word “no,” can radically alter how women and people in general treat you and cause them to start to respect you and your wishes.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who broke up with his girlfriend who had Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). When they were still together he did what ever she wanted, waited on her hand and foot, gave her money, was a pleaser and basically became her doormat. She constantly was making up and breaking up with him.
After coming across my videos when he got dumped again recently, he has realized the error of his ways. He says he basically never said the word “no” to her and now he realizes how much trouble this created for him. He’s learned his lesson and now knows what he needs to do in his relationships going forward by putting himself first, instead of last.
“One of the most powerful things you can do for yourself to cause other people to start to respect, appreciate and value you, is start using the word “no.” Too many people go along with things they do not like or want to put up with out of their desire to be accepted and loved. When a man won’t say no to a woman he is dating or wants to date, and instead allows her to walk all over him, she will quickly lose all respect for him and reject him. People who are not really your friends, users, takers, manipulative people or people who don’t really care about you, will accuse you of being selfish. Say no anyway. The right people will respect you and stick around. The posers and phony people will simply find others to leech off of and manipulate, thereby freeing you up to attract even better quality people into your life.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne