The Quickest Way To Lose A Man Is Constant Disrespect

Why men lose interest quickly when women are constantly disrespectful.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who got involved with a woman he wasn’t that into. She started getting mad and abusive. She called him names and was constantly disrespectful. Despite the continued abuse he’s still considering trying to fix things with her. He asks my opinion. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “The Quickest Way To Lose A Man Is Constant Disrespect”.

Well this particular email is a short email, but it really illustrates what quite frankly, a lot of men in this world are putting up with and living with when they really shouldn’t. And so this particular viewer, he started dating. And that’s the other crazy thing how rejection breeds obsession. This guy started, he got involved with a woman that he wasn’t really that into.

And then she started getting mad and abusive and calling him names. She was constantly disrespectful. And despite this, despite the abuse, he’s thinking that he wants to consider trying to fix things with her. I see this all the time. You want a woman who’s easy going, easy to get along with, and most importantly, she’s got to be nice to you. And this girl is not being nice.

And so the email brings up things about our self-perception and how we view ourselves. If we think we’re a steaming pile of dog dung, then when a woman comes along and treats us that way, we’ll put up with it and think that, this is our lot in life and this is the way things are, be or should be or supposed to be. And we make excuses for it.

How many of you guys watching this video know friends that are married or in relationships with women that are just constantly browbeating them, constantly disrespecting them, constantly condescending to the guys. Constantly in the attitude “You can’t ever do anything right.”

They’re constantly bitching and moaning and nagging, and the guys just are like beat down dogs and they just put up with it. This is the kind of email, if a woman treats you like this and you barely know her, you’ve got to eject. Easygoing, easy to get along with. And most importantly, she’s nice to you. This girl is not a nice person. A girl who’s raised right is going to be respectful. She’s not going to treat you this way.

So it’s a good email of what to avoid.

Viewer Email:

Dear Coach,

I fucked up. I met a Greek girl over the summer, and we had sex a lot during our six weeks together. I didn’t think much of it at the time, great sex why should I? However, she quickly became madly in love with me, and I didn’t feel the same. I went home to America, and she really wanted to come visit.

So I guess he was on vacation or something, or traveling. So he had a nice little romance while he was traveling. Didn’t think anything of it. Came back to the States and he’s like, “Eh. Maybe she can come visit.” So this is interesting. You know, there was a story in um, I think it was “The Power of Intention”, by Wayne Dyer was talking about this.

And he was talking about like, what happens when life puts pressure on us. What comes out. Calmness, happiness. What’s good about this? Optimism? Or do you get real angry and nasty and pessimistic? And he’s like, what happens when you squeeze an orange? What comes out? Orange juice? Well, why? Because it’s an orange. There’s orange juice inside of it.

So what happens when life squeezes you? What comes out? And so in this case, the woman is getting squeezed emotionally and she doesn’t react too well. And so that shows you that in her family, if you were upset or you were hurt, well, you use nasty language and words to belittle and berate the other person that you feel did you wrong. So she got squeezed and didn’t react too well.

I went home to America, and she really wanted to come visit. I told her to come around Christmas, so she booked her flight. She kept calling me every day, and I was really busy with work. Every time I called back, she was pissed at me and would call me names like a dick and an asshole.

Yeah, that’s disqualifying right there. First time it happens, you say, “Don’t talk to me like that.” And if she keeps doing it, well, that’s how she was trained. That’s how she was taught by her family. So you’re not going to fix that. You’re not going to change that. So the best thing is to eject. But if you feel you deserve it, then you’ll put up with it and you’ll rationalize it and you’ll make excuses. You’ll blame yourself and you’ll put up with it and you’ll make excuses for the abusive behavior. Meanwhile, your friends are going to be watching this going, “Dude, just dump that bitch.”

Because I didn’t read your book, just watched your videos, I took them to heart and kept asking why are you calling me these names. I got really mad and told her not to come anymore, bad mistake.

Well, quite frankly, that was what I would have done. I was like, I don’t want to see you. If you’re going to break me every day, you can go on down the road.

She got even more pissed. I blocked her, another mistake.

Well, you’re trying to cut the abuse off. You want a woman that makes your dick hard, not your life hard. And she’s calling you names. You clearly had some discussions about it, and it looks like she just continued doing it. Because again, that’s how she was raised. That’s normal for her. That’s abusive.

It’s verbal, emotional and mental abuse. Remember easygoing, easy to get along with and nice to you. She makes your dick hard not your life. And this woman is the opposite. This is the kind of woman when you see these red flags, you’ve got to eject and dip. Because it typically doesn’t get better.

And she kept texting me from unknown numbers.

So that sounds like she’s a little cuckoo as well.

She keeps sending me pictures and calling me names to make me feel like shit. I didn’t want this relationship to end on a sour and bad a note but I am not sure how to proceed?

I wouldn’t proceed at all. I would just block her every where and not respond. If you see a phone number you don’t recognize, just let it go to voicemail.

Do I just walk away at this point and never respond?

Yes, that’s the best way. Self-care. If you love yourself and value yourself, you’re not going to put up with this. But again, like I was saying in the beginning, if you think you’re a big steaming pile of dog dung, you’ll rationalize this and blame yourself for her behavior, when in reality this is her dad’s fault whether he was in her life or not. Bottom line, dad did a shitty job of raising her. Sounds like she grew up in a chaotic environment where they’re just fucking nasty to each other.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Since this whole fiasco, I have read your book six times in four weeks. I now understand how I should have dealt with this situation beforehand. I am going to read it 50 times this year.

Thanks,

Bob

Well, I expect a really great success story in the future. Because guys that take the book seriously and read it that many times, they get to know it so well, they can teach a class on it. And then they’re just they don’t really have to think about things. They just they naturally understand the philosophy. It’s the guys that cherry pick and only go through the book once or twice that really struggle. So but again, you’ve got to see reality as it is.

This woman is the opposite of what I say you should want to be with. If you’re looking for a long term relationship. Easygoing, easy to get along with. She’s nice to you. She’s flexible. She’s a giver. Has a good relationship with her dad, loves her dad, admires her dad, respects him. Communicates like an adult. Calling you dickhead an asshole is not communicating like an adult.

That is acting like fucking trailer trash. And I would not put up with it Dude. You’ve got the book now. The idea is the book brings out the worst and the worst really fast and brings out the best and the best really fast as well. And so again, like the analogy with the orange, as soon as she got under pressure, look how she responded. And from what you shared in the email, it doesn’t look like it’s changed at all and it doesn’t look like it’s going to change. That’s just who she is.

So if it was me, I’d block her everywhere. I would never respond because being with a woman like this is very bad for your mental health. Because she’ll be gaslighting you and making you think that you’re the problem. And that just has nothing but bad outcomes. If you stick around or you allow people like to sustain your life.

Life is too short, man. Again, she’s got to make your dick hard, not your life. There’s nothing redeemable about this girl. And I think it was great that you had sex for six weeks. But again, as soon as a little pressure got applied to her, look what came out. Dick! Asshole! You suck. No thank you. Hard pass for me.

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