The Secret To Becoming Well Liked & Popular

The secret to becoming well liked & popular with everyone you meet.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who’s a recovering nice guy. He’s very smart and successful. However, he says he’s terrible at flirting and often while on dates he will talk too much about himself and bore women out of liking him.

He says he sucks at first dates and asks my opinion. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Well, I kind of talked about this in yesterday’s emails, yesterday’s free email newsletter as well as the Member’s Area. It’s kind of interesting to me how I could get emails from people from literally all over the world, different continents, and then they come in and it’s like the same three or four people that come in within a matter of hours of each other all having the same issue, and they could be on different continents. I always look at that. It’s kind of amusing and interesting how that happens.

So this particular email is from a guy who he admits he’s a recovering nice guy. He’s very successful. He’s got a lot of achievements that he’s accomplished. He’s only 36, he’s smart, he’s successful. However, he says he’s terrible at flirting, and while on dates he typically will talk too much about himself and basically bore his dates out of liking him. So he says he sucks on first dates and he asks my opinion. So let’s go through his email and see what’s going on here.

One thing I will say before I get into it is that one of the books I recommend in the recommended reading, if you go to my website on recommended products, it’s old, it’s over 100 years old at this point. It’s How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie because really being well liked, being popular in high school when you think about it, people that are popular in high school and everybody likes them, why is that? It’s because that person makes them feel comfortable. They can come over and they’re like, “Hey, what are you guys up to? What did you do this weekend? Did you go to that party? Did you do this? Did you do that?” And they’re smiling, they’re happy, they take a sincere, authentic interest in who you are. In other words, they’re not talking about themselves. They’re focused on you, asking you questions, and what you’ve been up to.

Obviously, you guys that are familiar with 3% Man know when you’re on a date, women should be doing 80%, 90% of the talking and you ask questions, ideally, you want to ask the kind of questions that they would enjoy answering. You don’t want to talk about the bad breakup that they just had, or the marriage that imploded, whatever happens to be, or their custody issues. You want to focus on positive things, especially if she’s had a recent breakup because you want her to see and most importantly, feel like you’re a fun date and a fun escape from her life and her problems and everything else that’s going on. You do that by focusing on things that are positive, that are fun, that are light topics, no serious subjects.

Especially like talking about politics other than maybe initially when you’re vetting her, if you are conservative and she’s a far left loon, probably better to get that out of the way and not waste your time with somebody. You want to make sure your goals and your values are aligned. That should be obvious, but any kind of topic that’s dwelling on over something negative, health problems, or stuff you got going on, maybe you got elderly parents you’re taking care of. It’s like you want her to go out and have a good time, because what’s most important with women is not what a great dude you are, how much money you have, how how handsome you are. What matters most is how they feel about you.

So if you think about it, when you run into people you went to high school with or an old friend, how does the conversation typically go? “Hey, how you been? What are you up to? What’s new? How’s the family? How’s the girl? How’s this? How’s that? Still driving that car? Still working that job? How’s that business going?” You’re asking them questions because you know them, you care about them, and you’re curious as to what the updates are and you’re excited to listen. That’s what’s most important.

Something I realized when I was younger, because I tended to be a pretty shy person, was that I was really good at listening to people and facilitating conversation. I remember one time, this was like in the early 90s, I was in my early 20s. We were having a problem with our laser printer and we had network computers. This guy comes in to work on it, and I just happen to be in my office, and I had a big plan table in there.

So I’m doing estimating, doing takeoffs on a project that we’re bidding on, and this guy just starts telling me his whole life story, telling me about his wife and the problems he’s having with her, and all he really started out was that, because I was curious about the laser printer and, “Hey, what’s caused this thing to go offline? What do you think it is?” Asking for his expert opinion. So he starts telling me about that, and because I was actually listening, because probably what happens most of the time I do go is to fix a printer or something like that. Most people, “Oh yeah, it’s in the front. Just go take care of it,” and they don’t want to be bothered, but because I was curious about the printer and why it potentially went offline, because I was also fascinated by technology, I had an interest in it and he was an expert.

So I started asking him about it, and he’s showing me some things, giving me some tips and alpha jams, or this problem or that problem happens, what it means. I just asked a handful of questions because I was really, genuinely, sincerely curious about this. Then the guy proceeds to tell me his whole life story and all the problems he’s having in his marriage. He’s not sure whether he’s thinking about staying with her or breaking up. Their sex life ain’t very good. This is my early 20s. I knew less about women at that point than he did, obviously, but just because I took a sincere, authentic interest in his expertise in his work, he’s like, “Wow, this guy must like me. He likes listening to me. Let me bloviate some more,” and it brought the walls down.

So he starts telling me other things that are going on in his life. That’s just something that I’ve always been good at. When I was younger, when I was in school, I’d ask girls questions without realizing that I was actually doing the right thing because I was curious. Then they would just talk my ear off. I didn’t know how to advance things beyond that when I was younger, but I was friends with a lot of the cute girls in school just because I liked asking questions. I was curious. I was interested in where they were at, where they were from, what they were interested in, if they were dating a friend of mine. I was curious what they liked and getting them to talk about it because I was interested.

If you go through How to Win Friends and Influence People, that’s what it really boils down to, taking a sincere, authentic interest in who they are as a human being. When you’re out and you’re socializing, one of the things that I did unknowingly that was really good, I talked about this yesterday, was that one of the things we would do in our keg parties in high school was I would like to be hanging out where the keg was because everybody has to go where the beer is. Usually we had like one keg at a time. Maybe we’d have two kegs if it started floating and I would just be sitting there pumping and pumping the keg up, making sure there was plenty of pressure and pouring the drinks for everybody like a bartender. “Hey, what are you girls up to? How’d you do in that test the other day? What do you think of so-and-so talking about the teachers or whatever?” The girls were just chit-chat and share a bunch of things. It was a great way to meet people. Even people that I went to school with, that maybe they sat across from me in a class and I didn’t really have time to talk with them one-on-one, but just asking them questions about a class we had or how they did on a test or whatever, and I didn’t really have much to say because I didn’t at the time. I didn’t think I had much to say.

What was always interesting is that everybody was always excited to talk to me, and that’s part of how I became good friends with one of my best friends, who was probably the most popular guy in our class, and his mission in life is, “I just want to have a good time.” He’s always the life of the party. He wants to have fun no matter what. He’s not into drama. He’s not the type of guy who goes out, gets drunk, and wants to start fights or anything like that. Sometimes he drinks a little bit too much. He says things sometimes just to challenge people and fuck with them a little bit, but he can always tell when he takes it a little too far. He says, “Hey, I’m sorry. I’m drunk. I’ve got a buzz. I’m just being a jackass. Don’t mind me. I apologize. I didn’t mean to upset you. Let me buy you a drink,” and he’s always great at defusing situations as well.

Like I was talking about yesterday in one of the videos, one of the things that they do in their neighborhood, they moved up there from South Florida about 15 years ago after the last crash happened, moved to this really nice neighborhood. He’d see people out cutting their lawn. He’d walk over to introduce himself, start asking them questions, what they do. He’d tell them about himself, his wife, his kids, and “Hey, we’re grilling out tomorrow. We’re having some kids and friends over. You guys should come over and hang out,” and they’d come over, they’d hang out, they’d be grilling out, they would project a movie onto the side of the wall of the garage, and they’d have tables set up and games and stuff for the kids, and the kids would be playing so the parents could keep an eye on them. The parents are drinking and eating and having a good time. It’s just basically like a neighborhood party.

Every weekend everybody’s over at their house grilling out and hanging out. They literally know everybody in the neighborhood. They got a golf cart, they drive around, they’re always waving to their neighbors. It’s kind of like old school, the way things used to be, where you kind of always knew your neighbors, because they’re friendly, they’re outgoing, and they’re happy to engage and invite people to come over, hang out, and join the party because again, his whole thing is, “I want to have a good time. I want to enjoy my life.” Like when we go out and we hang out, he’s just, “Hey, where are you guys from? What are y’all up to tonight? Are you from down here? Are you on vacation?” And they go, “Oh, we’re on vacation. No, we live down here.” “Oh, what do you guys do for fun when you’re not hanging out here?”

I remember last time he was down, we were talking to this couple. It was an old couple. They’ve been together. They started telling us about their lives. Then he started telling us that he works with a lot of vets, he’s an attorney, and he works with helping the veterans get their benefits. A lot of them that have benefits that need medical issues or whatever, maybe they got PTSD or they’re suffering from depression, they don’t want to go to the VA and tell them that, because the biggest thing they’re most concerned about is losing their guns and their gun rights, because if they got mental health issues, oftentimes it gets reported and then they’re not able to pass a background check anymore, and they don’t want to get their guns taken away. So they’ll suffer in silence because the number one most important thing to them is their gun rights. Especially guys from the special operations community and stuff like that.

He really went through a bunch of cases and situations where guys were really ill and they had kidney problems or this or that. So they’re not getting medical help because, in other words, they would rather die than lose their gun rights. That should tell you something about those guys and how they think about our country. It was a really interesting conversation because the guy’s doing really great work, and they were older. He’s like 75, 80 years old. You think a guy should retire and do nothing, but he’s so passionate about it, and he loves the vets so much that it’s like his passion and his calling. Even though he should be chilling on the beach and enjoying himself, he spends a large part of his life serving other people. It was a really interesting conversation. You never know who you’re sitting next to or who you’re talking to. Just taking a sincere, authentic interest, whether it’s your waiter or somebody’s waiting tables, your bartender, just asking people questions. If you been the kind of person that’s never been very outgoing wherever you go, you should engage people in conversation. Even if you’re just in an elevator ride for 30 seconds, practice that. Take a sincere, authentic interest in other people because that’s what disarms people.

I used to teach sales to all of my agents, my mortgage brokers, and my realtors, especially people that came right out of college, and teach them how to create rapport. We used to do what was called a buyer’s consultation with our buyers. I made it a point to where it’s like you’re not selling them a mortgage or a house. You are trying to become their friend. Once you are friendly with them and they like you and they trust you, then you can focus on the mortgage product and the real estate, but first and foremost, the most important thing is you got to create rapport, because if they don’t like you, They’re not going to trust you. If they don’t trust you and they don’t like you, they will not buy anything from you, even if you got the best deal in town.

So first and foremost, spend the first half hour, 45 minutes just talking to them. Ask them about their kids, their family, what they do for a living, things they do for fun, where they grew up, and it’s totally disarming. People are coming to a sales pitch and their guard’s up, they’re already distrusting. Instead of talking about mortgage products, then what happens is you watch some guy comes in, he’s got his arms crossed, he’s got his glasses on, his legs are crossed. You can tell he’s not really open to you. You just get him talking about himself, his wife, his kids, his business, where he went to school, and the teams that he loves. You notice that the legs uncrossed and his arms uncover his emotional center. He takes off his glasses, lays them on your desk, and he gets real comfortable. After you spent 20, 30 minutes listening to him, he says, “Well, I’m sorry I’ve been talking so much. Tell me a little bit about you.” Then the law of reciprocity turns around, and now he wants to know about you.

So you spent some time telling him about you and some of the same things, where you’re from, all that kind of stuff. Your family, friends, where you went to school, what you love doing for fun. Then you can go into your sales pitch and talk about facts and figures, and by then, you’re not the salesperson that’s trying to take advantage of them, you know? Everybody has their guard up naturally. Now I’m talking to an old friend, somebody I feel like I’ve known forever. Sometimes they would say that, “God, I feel like I’ve known you forever.” So their guard’s down and they trust you implicitly. They’ll even say things like, “I just trust you. I know you’ll take good care of me,” because you made a friend first.

When I would have sales agents, because this would pretty much happen with all of them, they get really good, they get a bunch of deals in the pipeline, they make a bunch of money, and then what happens? They get really busy. They start cutting corners instead of doing an hour-and-a-half, two-hour buyers consultation, they’re doing it in like 30 minutes. Then all of a sudden, they’re having all these buyers consultations, nobody’s buying from them, and some of these people are disappearing, ghosting them or deciding that they go with another realtor, another mortgage broker. Then now that all their closings happened, they spent a lot of their money, and then they got their rent coming up, and they got nothing in the pipeline, and they sit down and they go, “Well, tell me about your buyers consultations.” Every single time, “Well, I cut corners because I didn’t have time and I had this appointment and that appointment. I’m so busy.” I was like, “The fundamentals are the fundamentals, my man. You got to get back to the basics,” and I get them back on track. I point out how they got to spend the time creating rapport, because that’s everything. You don’t take the time to create rapport, you’re not going to get a sale or you’re only converting like 10% of them, and that’s going to affect your income. Obviously, if I’m buying the leads, paying for the leads, and giving it to them, I want them to convert more of those leads because they’re expensive to generate in the first place. So you don’t want to burn leads just because they’re lazy and they don’t want to take the time making a friend.

So first and foremost, the most important thing about being well liked is really, it’s not about you. It’s about them. It’s about serving them and getting to know them. Making them feel comfortable, making them smile. It’s the same thing you do on a date with a girl. You want her to be happy. You want her to talk about things she likes, talking about subject that she’s excited about. Something that’s always good to talk about on a first date is, “Well, tell me about your relationship with your dad. Are you guys close? Do you love your dad? Would you say he’s your rock?” If you start hearing things like, “I hate my father. He’s a narcissist. He’s an asshole. I haven’t talked to him. I never knew my dad.” Girls that come from broken homes, typically most of the time are just not good women to date for a long-term relationship. Not in all cases, but in most cases. Like you guys that have been following me for years, when I go through these emails, guys that are having the biggest problems, it’s always with a chick that comes from a broken home and doesn’t have a good, strong, masculine father in the background. That’s just a fact of life. If the dad’s a beta male, everybody walks all over him, and nobody respects him, she grew up not respecting her dad, and she doesn’t respect men in general, obviously she’s not going to respect you. For the most part, it’s just getting the girl to talk, taking a sincere, authentic interest. You don’t really have to do anything.

Most guys that don’t understand this go out on dates and they’re terrified like, “What do I talk about? What do I say to her?” It’s not what you talk about or what you say to her. You want to get her to talk, because that makes her feel like, “Oh wow, this guy really cares about me.” Women understand when a man cares, he asks questions. If he doesn’t care, he doesn’t ask. So if she’s hot and all you’re thinking is you want to bone her and you start talking about yourself like this like this guy tends to do, he starts talking about his accomplishments, he’s a little nervous, “I did this. I did that,” by the end of the date, the girl thinks, “This guy’s selfish. He just talked about himself the whole night. He never asked me one question. He didn’t even cared who I was, where I was from, what I was interested in, or what I was looking for. It was all about him.” Then they won’t want to go out with him again.

So the most important thing is and what makes this easy is you just got to take a sincere, authentic interest in the person that you’re sitting across from. If you really like her, if you’re really interested in her and you’re fascinated by her, you’re going to be asking questions. You’re going to be really curious. What do you really want to know about her? What makes her tick? What are her dreams? What are her hopes? What are some of her best memories? What are her best friends like? What kind of things does she do for fun when she’s not working? Because again, if you’re talking about things she likes and she enjoys, you’re going to elicit good, happy emotions and feelings in her, and she’s going to associate being with you with good vibes and good feelings. If you’re talking about things that are a drag, you’re getting her to drone on about all the guys that dicked her over because she just had a breakup, and you get her talking about one bad relationship after another, you’re making her feel all of those negative feelings, and she’s not going to want to go out with you again because you made her feel the same way that all the bad ex-boyfriends made her feel. Whereas if you let her talk about that for a little bit, and then you change the subject to something else that’s more positive and more fun, she’s going to have positive feelings and emotions towards you.

So the most important thing is whoever is asking the questions is the one running the conversation. So as a man on a date, to take all the pressure off yourself, just focus on getting her to talk and be interested in what she’s got to say. That’s assuming she is interesting, because sometimes you’ll go out on dates and some women are just fucking boring. You don’t like listening to them. They’re hot, but they got nothing going on between their ears.

Viewer Email:

Hey Corey,

First off, big fan of your work man. Thanks so much!

So I found you six months ago after I got dumped by a girl I was really into. Looking back, it’s comical how many mistakes I made straight out of your stuff. I was the “nice guy.” Came off as totally weak. It’s funny because it’s really not my personality.

Yeah, because you’re more focused on seeking her approval and getting her to like you, and you’re worried about what she thinks about you instead. It’s a process. The process is laid out in the book, and if you’re new here, the book is free to read at UnderstandingRelationships.com. Just subscribe to the email newsletter. You’ll see the email sign-up box as it’ll open up as soon as you land on the website and you can read the book.

So there’s a process you take women through, and the process is designed to bring out the best in the best, and to bring out the worst in the worst. So you can dip if they’re a little nutty or you don’t click or whatever it happens to be. So it’s a process of causing women to feel safe, to feel comfortable with you, when you go for the kiss, when you go to seduce him, what you do on dates, what kinds of dates you do, where you take them, how to know when to move forward, how to know when to back off. So what the woman experiences is her feelings continue to go up, and it’s like a love story. Like something out of a movie. All she knows is that she feels amazing. So that’s what you want to do. You want to elicit the good feelings.

Some bio on me:

• 36 years old, live in my own one bedroom in Manhattan.
• I’m an airborne ranger in the army reserves, bronze star recipient from combat deployment in Iraq. I’m command of an infantry company of 120 soldiers.
• Co-founder, CEO, and AI engineer of my own company. Profitable AI startup with 35 employees. Net worth in the 7 figures.
• MBA from Chicago Booth and Masters in Machine Learning.
• I’ve been to 75 countries, I snowboard, surf, and am getting my private pilot license.
• I’m 5’9” above average looking, and am in extremely good shape. Like six-pack, biceps, etc. I say this for context, not to gloat.

Corey, I have absolutely ZERO game ha ha. I’m a very motivated person as you can see from the above. I spent my 20s chasing all these goals and not spending too much time with women and now I’m prioritizing this part of my life. I’m very social and comfortable talking to anyone, but my habits are naturally “the friend.”

So that’s where the book can fill that in, because I was the same. Like when I was younger I’d think, “I gotta talk to this girl for a few weeks before I get around to asking her out on a date.” So we would talk, and we would talk for hours and hours on the phone. Then three or four weeks go by and I go, “OK, now I should ask her out on a date,” but by that point, I had already friend-zoned myself because I talked her out of liking me. The conversations were good, but they should have happened in person, and I didn’t realize that attraction is not a choice.

Women know within three seconds if they would date and sleep with you or not. If you spend three or four weeks talking on the phone, then by the time you finally get around to asking them out, they’ll say, “There’s no chemistry. There’s no spark. Hey, I just want you to know, I just want to meet as friends.” You’ll get that kind of shit. It was very frustrating. I could never understood why, but the women I wasn’t that into, I’d make a date right away. We’d go hang out, have fun, and hook up, and I couldn’t understand why the girls I really liked weren’t that into me, but the girls that were like ehh, we’re all over me, and it’s because I treated them completely differently. Obviously you’re doing the same thing.

So the idea is, it’s your job is to create an opportunity for sex to happen. To hang out, have fun while you’re hanging out, and hook up when the signs are there, she’s ready to be touched, ready to be kissed, ready to be seduced. Again, all this stuff is laid out in the book for you. So you just got to take them through the process, because the process stimulates their emotions and makes them feel safe and comfortable. Typically, most women in the West take about four or five hours on a date before they’ll be ready to sleep with you. Most women sleep with a guy by a second or third date. That’s why you go to two or three different places on your dates, because it speeds up the process of creating rapport and making them feel safe and comfortable with you. Like you’ve been out at a bunch of dates already and they’ll feel like, “Oh, I feel like I’ve known you forever,” because when they feel that way, all the resistance drops and they just let you have your way with them, which is really nice and makes it very easy. It’s like they just open the door and all you got to do is walk through.

I’m hard wired to see a goal I want and go after it and achieve it. And with women this always comes on too strong and pushes them away.

Yeah. The interesting thing is in the high achieving masculine world of making things happen in business, if somebody is not super excited, you keep the pressure on. You keep moving forward until you convince them to give you what it is that you want. You got to be a little aggressive. With women, you really have to kind of back off and facilitate making it easy for them to talk and open up to you, because as they do that, it disarms them. It makes them feel like they’re talking to somebody they’re already close to. Once they start feeling attraction, they play with their hair, they touch your arm, they lean in to close, their knees are pointed towards you, they bump into you as you’re walking down the street, they stand too close to you, or they’re bumping you or touching you. They always find reasons to get near you. Then you can do the kiss test. If she looks at your lips while you’re doing the kiss test, well obviously she’s thinking about kissing you. Then you can kiss, you can make a move, and then invite her back to your place to finalize the seduction. It’s just a nice, easy process that for her, it just looks like something and most importantly, feels like something out of a movie.

This is another reason why I say you got to read the book 10 to 15 times, so you know the process backwards and forwards that you don’t have to think about it, especially if you’re a guy like this dude and you’re always overthinking things. If you understand the process that you take women through, it takes all the pressure off, and the fear of like you have to perform. So in this case, it’s really about her getting her to talk, open up, and feel comfortable. Then you escalate things as her level of comfort and attraction rises.

So this is me participating in my own rescue. I’ll get better at this, I know I will. I’ve gotten better since following you already. I’ve read the book three times, and listen to a video of yours every morning. The phone is for setting dates. Always have a plan and lead, etc. I still suck at first dates though.

Well again, the process that’s laid out in the book, once you learn that and you memorize it, you don’t really have to think about it anymore. It just comes off as natural and you give women the experience like being in a love story out of a movie.

I’m smart and interesting and always want to talk about these topics I like, but they are so not sexy and I end up just describing stuff that I’ve done when they ask about it. I’m not flirty at all. 

Well, 90% of the time, you’re the charming James Bond, as the book says, and 10% of the time you’re kind of breaking their balls and teasing them a little bit like a bratty little sister.

I’ve also gone mostly off the apps. They are bad, I know, but in NYC it is a major source for meeting people. 

Well again, that’s the way I would look at dating apps. It’s just a source of leads, and you need leads because you need to practice. The only way you get better is to practice the things that are in the book, meeting women face-to-face.

I honestly just need help on the charisma side. I feel like I’d be a catch for any of these girls if I can get past the first two date part where I stink.

Well again, if you do the things I just spent the most of this video talking about, it’ll be really easy because right now I can tell you’re in the mindset of, “How do I get these girls to like me?” When in reality, what you should be focused on is making them smile, making them laugh, making them feel comfortable, and asking them things that they really enjoy talking about, because that’s what’s disarming. That’s what causes the attraction to grow. That’s what gets her turned on, because it makes her feel like you really care about her, because if you care about her, you’re going to ask and you’re going to want to know. If you don’t, you won’t ask those things. You’ll just talk about yourself.

Also for what it’s worth, I’m pretty conservative like yourself which limits the options in NYC. There are plenty of girls, don’t get me wrong, but I do get asked my politics as a deal breaker often ha ha. Those girls are saving me time. Dick hard, not life hard, right?

Hey, I’m with you. Especially in this day and age, people on the left just get absolutely fucking triggered. If you’re on the right and they react the same way they see people on TV reacting, which is not too good. They get really upset. They get really butt-hurt. It is what it is. It’s better to date somebody that shares the same goals and values.

Would love some advice. Honestly, it might just be better to do a coaching session. Let me know what you think. And thanks for all your help man.

Bob

Well, if you do the things that I suggested, then your dates will go much better because you don’t really have to be good at flirting. You have to be good at listening. That’s really what it boils down to, being a really good listener. Take a sincere, authentic interest in listening to her and asking the kind of questions she would enjoy answering. For the most part, shut your mouth. The only time you’re going to really talk about yourself is if she asks, which is another thing right out of the book. Women want a guy that’s a challenge. They want to have to work to get to know you. So instead of volunteering things as if you have to prove yourself to women, let them ask. If they don’t ask, they don’t know, and it helps you remain mysterious. Especially with your background, you really kind of are like a James Bond type of dude. You’re a dangerous, but kind man.

So when she finds out, “Yeah, I’m in the Special Forces,” and you say things like that, she’s going to be curious about that, but you’ll tell her a little bit of information just enough to give a good response. Then you’re going to turn right around and ask her another question. That helps you remain mysterious. So the only way she gets to know you is by asking you questions instead of you volunteering everything about yourself. If you do that, your dates are going to go a lot better.

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