They Both Belong To The Streets!

Why people who lie and cheat on their partners with each other belong to the streets.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who says he’s a long time listener. He’s in his 30’s, engaged and he is cheating on his fiancée with a female coworker he’s been friends with for 20 years, but she has a boyfriend of 18 years. He complains that’s she’s hot and cold, but has zero self awareness of his total lack of character and low integrity for the fact they are both cheating on their partners. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Members Only Newsletter is, “They Both Belong To The Streets!”

So this particular email is from a guy. He says he’s been a long time listener. He’s in his 30s, he’s engaged to his fiancée, and he is cheating on his fiancée with a female coworker that he’s known and been friends with for 20 years. And she, the one he’s cheating with, has a boyfriend of 18 years. And so he writes in. He’s complaining that she’s hot and cold, but he has like zero self-awareness that hello, he’s totally dating somebody and is just showing the fact that he’s got low character and integrity, and so does she. I kind of wonder if maybe they’re both in law enforcement.

Man, I’ve been doing this for 20 years, and the people that are the biggest liars and cheaters and whores are people that work in law enforcement. And that’s disappointing because the police, the people that work in law enforcement, they’re supposed to be the ones that are upholding the law. Right? What does it say on the outside of the Supreme Court building above the steps? It says, “Equal justice under law.”

And so the people that are supposed to be making sure that we have equal justice under law are the biggest liars, the biggest cheaters and the biggest whores and their relationships. That’s unfortunate. Just total. I mean, every time I talk to one of these guys, it’s like we laugh about it, but they’re like, “I know. I know, Coach. I know.” But they’re still doing it. That’s just disappointing. And when you look at all the Russia-Gate hoax and people like John Brennan, who was a top guy in the CIA. I mean, he was a paid liar. He’s paid to lie. He’s a spook. He was a former spy.

And yet he’s on CNN all the time. And I remember all that Russian collusion hoax and all that. “Oh, yeah, I’ve seen the evidence. There’s real strong evidence of it.” That cocksucker, when Barack Obama was in office, he, Director James Comey of the FBI, Peter Strzok, Susan Rice, who was the national security adviser, Barack Obama, Joe Biden, greasy Joe Biden, which has always been his nickname because he’s historically been a dirty ass politician his whole life. I mean, I you know, I’m older than, I guess, a lot of what you see in the news.

And it’s like it was common knowledge. He was a liar and he was a dirtbag and he was a slimeball. But you had all these people in the FBI, and. Oh, and James Clapper, he was there, the director of National intelligence as well. And this was before just a few weeks before the the election. And they’re like, “hey, all this Russia collusion stuff or this Russia, Russia-Gate. Russia, Russia, Russia. It’s actually Hillary Clinton’s campaign operatives and just trying to paint Donald Trump as a Manchurian candidate, that he’s controlled by Putin to try to make him look bad so she can win the election.

Well, all of them are Democrats. And so they’re all on this meeting, and they’re all basically I think Brennan was the one running it. And because this all came out in the Horowitz report, the Durham investigation, and you can go and look all this stuff up and see it yourself. It’s just absolutely appalling. I know this is a little sidebar here, but this whole email is about lying and cheating and especially people in law enforcement. And so you basically got our top cops, the director of the FBI. Oh, and Andy McCabe, he’s there too.

The deputy director of the FBI. And remember, Andy McCabe was in charge of Hillary’s email investigation. His wife was running for Senate, and Hillary Clinton did his wife a nice solid by giving her, I should say, one of her PACs. Her political Action Committees funneled a nice big campaign contribution to his wife’s Senate campaign, she still ended up losing. But if Hillary Clinton does your wife a solid trying to help her get elected and you’re the guy in charge of her email investigation, well, you’re not really going to be an unbiased source.

You’re not going to really be able to perform equal justice under law. And so he didn’t do anything and all that shit that was going on the whole time that Trump was in office about the Russia, you know, Trump is going it’s a hoax. And I mean, it’s going. “Oh it’s not it’s totally true. You did it. You’re on Putin’s side.” It’s like he had hookers peeing all over you and in Russia and all this, it was all BS and they knew it was BS. Barack Obama knew it was BS. Joe Biden knew it was BS. James Clapper knew it was BS. John Brennan knew it was BS. James Comey knew it was BS.

Andy McCabe knew it was BS. And yet all the time those dickheads all went on TV and lied. And lied. “Oh, yeah, I’ve seen the evidence. It looks pretty damning.” And they knew it was a hoax. They went through the whole Mueller investigation, knowing the whole time it was the truth, what the truth was. And so they did that to hamstring Trump’s administration just because they hated him, because they were Democrats. And he was a Republican and they wanted him to lose.

It’s like and even to this day, Brennan is like he’s still full of shit. He’s still lying. Nothing happened to these dickheads. They all committed high treason and nothing happened to any of them. That certainly doesn’t feel or look like equal justice under law. And even Horowitz said that Director Comey should be referred to the Justice Department, and he should be prosecuted for what he did. And I remember when he was being interviewed on I think it was CNN, and they said, well, what do you think about Horowitz saying that you should be prosecuted?

I remember his eyes got real big, and you could tell he was like, whoa. He was a little afraid. He was a little scared in that moment. But what happened? Nothing happened because he was part of the Democrats. He was part of the team. And so you look at stuff like that, people at the top of our law enforcement and our intelligence agencies are lying dirty cops.

Character is destiny. It is what it is. Luckily, in the past, the Mueller investigation, that’s all this shit started to come out was because when he started looking in it and he came across Peter Strzok’s text messages, the lovely Lisa Page’s text messages and all this stuff.

It’s like they all got booted out of office. Eventually they got booted out. So the system worked. It purged the dirty cops, but there was no consequences for the dirty cops. And unfortunately, we have to live in a society with these kinds of people that just. They don’t follow a law even when they don’t. If you’re high enough up in the food chain, nothing’s going to happen to you.

As a matter of fact, you’ll get a nice book deal and CNN will give you a cushy job and pay lots of money. And the whole time they even to this day, they still lie and they still cover it up. That’s what a bunch of dirt bags these people are. But that’s besides the point. So with all of that in mind and the fact that I’ve been doing this 20 years and the biggest liars and cheaters and hoe bags are people in law enforcement.

It’s so unfortunate, but that’s the world we live in. And so this guy writes in here, zero fucking self-awareness. He’s cheating on his fiancée with a woman who’s had a boyfriend for 18 years, and he’s going, “she’s kind of hot and cold, Coach.” It’s like, come on, man.

Viewer Email:

Hey Coach,

Long time listener first time caller here. I’m a guy in my early 30’s casually seeing a coworker in her mid-thirties. I’m in a strange situation and would really appreciate your expertise. We have known each other for over twenty years but only started working together around a year and a half ago. We have always had a flirtatious friendship with mutual attraction, but she has been in a relationship for the last eighteen years and I have always been in one relationship or another, so nothing ever happened.

Well, you should never mow another man’s lawn. Because occasionally when you do stupid shit like that, you come across a guy who’s just a psycho. And I live in South Florida, and because of many people I know in law enforcement friends, I have people I train with. It’s like we have laughs. There’s something that’s called a Hialeah divorce. And whatever reason, it typically involves people in the Latin community, which I absolutely love. All my closest friends are Colombians, Venezuelans. It’s like it’s just part of the culture.

And Murder/ Suicide is a big thing. And it’s every just about every night you can turn on the evening news in South Florida and some shit’s going on in Hialeah. Some dude found his wife that was fucking somebody from work or whatever. And so she’s going to leave him for the person at work or whatever, or the, the next door neighbor, and he decides to show up and take her out and then take himself out. Sometimes the woman lives, sometimes the guy lives. Most of the time they both die.

But it’s kind of like a running joke of people that work in law enforcement in South Florida. It’s like, you know, this is why this is in the Members Area, by the way, because it’s just the world we live in. And so, you know, I see one of my buddies is like, “hey, man, you look tired. It’s like another fucking Hialeah divorced last night.” It’s like really? And it’s just pretty common. So, you know, if you’re going to mow another man’s lawn and fuck some other guy’s Guys, girl. It’s like you do that enough, especially if you live in Hialeah. It’s like dudes down there.

They don’t take too kindly to that shit. And they take the law into their own hands and they do bad things again. That’s all you have to do is turn on the evening news. If you guys live in South Florida, you know what I’m talking about here. It’s Hialeah all the time. Hialeah. It’s called the Hialeah divorce. That’s what the joke running joke is in law enforcement. The Hialeah divorces, it’s basically murder suicide type things. And so it’s not pleasant. And you just should not do those things.

You shouldn’t be fucking around with somebody else’s chick. Because, you know what happened to one of my brother’s friends when he was in college, and he just happened to go home with one of the cute hostesses that they work with, and my brother’s friend had no idea that she had kind of a psycho ex-boyfriend, who was just kind of spying on her, and trying to see what she was up to. And he confronts my brother’s friend and his girlfriend and murders my brother’s friend right there kills himself in front of her, and he says, “see what you made me do?”

And he turns the gun on himself. Then he blows his brains out in front of her. And it’s like, in that case, like my brother’s buddy, he had no idea. It was just like 19, 20 year old kid going home with a hot hostess, he’s trying to get some. And there was some psycho that she had dated that was spying on her and stalking her. And it cost him his life. And so it’s just not smart to fuck around. But it’s like, man, I see it all the time. People in law enforcement fucking their partners. And, like, they’re both married.

It’s like, oh, man. Or you got a girl who’s married and she’s, you know, fucking five different guys in an apartment. It’s like the stuff that goes on. It’s just so disappointing, you know? It really is. So the people that you are supposed to keep us safe and look out for us, especially the people on the left, are always like, oh, the police should have guns. It’s like, have you ever trained with the police? It’s like they’re the most dangerous and incompetent people with pistol and rifle.

And as a matter of fact, the stats are that the police are three times more likely to shoot an innocent person than somebody that’s got a concealed carry permit like yours truly. And why is that? Just because I’ve had way more training. I mean, most of the average cops get four hours of firearms training per year. They’re shooting at paper targets on a gun range. Pistol, probably an AR style and maybe a shotgun.

You know, like one of my family members who worked in a prison system for 25 years. Once a year, pistol, a AR15, or I should say, an M4 style rifle. They’re actually, you know, they had an M16 and a shotgun. And I’ve, you know, when you see their targets and you’re like, Holy shit, man, bullets are all over the fucking. They’re terrible. They’re terrible shots. And especially they never do any kind of force on force training, which is, you know, with UTM style rounds, for the most part, it’s it’s just bad. They’re just, you know, it’s a low use, high consequence tool that’s on their tool belt.

And most of the police are totally incompetent and dangerous. It’s amazing to me that they don’t shoot themselves in each other by accident more often. But that’s beside the point. So when I hear these idiots on TV going, oh, the police should have guns, it’s like most of the police are totally incompetent and dangerous as hell, and they can’t shoot for shit. And especially when they get stressed. That’s why you see, in police shootings, the guy empties his magazine, he does a mag dump and doesn’t even hit the dude once. Because he’s. Anyways, I digress, back to our regularly scheduled email here.

Over the time that we have been working together, the flirtation that we shared became more and more bold until in January one thing led to another and we started having an affair. As you say, attraction isn’t a choice.

I am currently engaged to a woman that I have been with for almost a decade.

Man. Ten years.

And after it happened the first time, even though we only fooled around at work (kissing, oral etc.) I felt an incredible amount of guilt over my actions. That guilt lasted around two weeks until it happened again.

Yeah, he felt guilty until it happened again. That’s why I was reading this. I was like, this guy’s probably a cop. He’s probably in law enforcement, probably some shit like that going on. Because again, it’s like when I hear these stories and I do phone sessions with guys, I still love them. I still appreciate what they do. It’s a dangerous ass fucking job and we need people to do it. I got lots of friends and family that have worked in it. And spent their careers in it. But it’s like, man, the people that you think are should be the most righteous are the some of the biggest dirtbags and hoe bags that are in our country. Anyways.

Since then, for the last six months me and my colleague have been in a strange on again off again pseudo relationship where we make out, send pics, occasionally meet up outside of work. Although we haven’t actually hooked up, only fooled around.

Okay, so he’s not actually giving her the meat missile. Apparently he’s just fooling around.

And she has admitted that she has feelings for me and gets jealous when I flirt with other women at work. I am not sure how to navigate this, because she is profoundly hot and cold.

You shouldn’t be navigating it at all, dude. Pull your fucking head out of your ass because she is profoundly hot and cold. So here’s what’s going on. Whatever you’re part of her Frankenstein boyfriend project. So whatever her husband or her fiancée or her boyfriend is not doing, or when he’s falling down, she’s going to be calling you and wanting to hang out with you. And so if she can’t get her needs met from him, she’s going to get him met from you. And when the boyfriend is doing good, she’s going to be cold towards you. When the boyfriend is doing bad, she’s going to be hot for you.

I mean, this is like, right out of The Book. You don’t get involved with somebody that’s in the middle of a divorce or in the process of breaking up. You want them to be done with their previous relationship. You want somebody that’s ready, willing, able, and open to having a relationship. Because what this guy is doing, you can tell he’s thinking he’s got her. Because he’s known her for 20 years. That somehow they’re going to live happily ever after. But statistically, again, I share this with cops all the time when I do phone sessions with them, 95% of the relationships that come from cheating, they end in cheating.

So if if the two of you are both cheating and then you get together and after you’re cheating on your previous partners. Ends those relationships at some point when you’re not happy or she’s not happy, they’re just going to fuck somebody else. That’s because character is destiny. Character is destiny. It’s that’s why John Brennan is such a fucking dirtbag. And he’s still, even to this day, goes on CNN and lies his fucking ass off. Every fucking time. There’s no respect for that guy he belongs in fucking jail. He’s a dirtbag, and nothing ever happened to him. And that’s disappointing.

Because it’s not equal justice under law. It’s fucking slime ball that gets away with everything. And that’s wrong. It shouldn’t be happening. That’s the kind of shit that causes people to lose faith in their government and lose faith in the justice system. And and that’s the kind of thing that causes Hialeah divorces to happen. That’s what happens. But I digress because it communicates, hey, if you’re well connected, it’s like even James Comey, Horowitz said in his report, should be prosecuted. He’s committed crimes. Even they confronted Comey about that. And he had a deer in the headlight look on his face. Nothing fucking happened to him. Durham. Same thing.

I think he did one prosecution. He brought the case in DC, which is mostly lefties that live in DC anyways, and so they just look the other way, and you know, let the guy off. And so he’s probably like if I try to prosecute anybody else it’s going to go nowhere. So he just looked the other way. Same thing with Barr. William Barr was the attorney general. And Trump he just looked the other way. He didn’t fucking care. He’s protecting his buddies in government so he can get his book deals and everything else. Another fucking dirty cop. It’s just is what it is. That’s the world we live in.

Nothing happens to those people. All it takes is one good person in law enforcement to prosecute those cocksuckers. All you need is one good attorney general, one good guy in the FBI agent, or some other law enforcement agent or the intelligence agencies to hold those fuckers feet to the fire and make sure they get prosecuted for the crimes they’ve committed. But I guess good people are in short supply. So the bullshit continues. It goes on and on and on and on and on. Anyways, I’m pretty fired up about that because emails like this just irritate the fuck out of me. It’s like, anyways.

One day she will be all over me, touching me, flirting hard with me, and the next she will seem completely disinterested. To be honest I am developing feelings for this girl, and I would love to know what I can do to make her actions more consistent if possible. Any help would be greatly appreciated, and thank you for all of your good work.

Bob

Well, how about having some fucking integrity, dude. You’re trying to rip off some other guy’s chick, and so you’re risking a Hialeah divorce. Why would you want to do that? You haven’t even fucked this girl yet. Yeah, you’ve known her for 20 years. The only way anything is going to be possible is if she leaves her boyfriend and you leave your girlfriend. If you’re not happy with, I’m sorry, your fiancée, if you’re not happy with your fiancée, you should leave her. Not because potentially you could be with this woman, but because you could be with a woman you really want to be with.

That’s what you should focus on. You should focus on your outcome. It’s not fair to your fiancée for you to be living a lie, stringing her along while you’re trying to see if you can basically hook up with your friend of 20 years and start a relationship with her. You’re risking your life. You’re risking your career. It’s like no piece of ass is that good? I mean, the book says woman of your dreams, not how to steal some other guy’s chick. And that’s what you’re basically asking me.

And it’s is disappointing that you write in and this kind of an email, but again, it’s the only way if you’re in a situation like you shouldn’t be dating her in the first place, the right thing to do is to say, “you know what? We both have feelings for each other, but this needs to stop. The only way this should continue is if you’re single and I’m single at the same time.” And so if you’re not happy with your fiancée, you should leave her. And so she can find the right guy for her.

And so she can live happily ever after with somebody that actually wants to be with her, instead of you wasting her time and then pulling the plug later, if it looks like things are going to work out with this particular girl. Because what you’re doing is this woman is never going to leave her husband if you keep doing what you’re doing because she’s got you and she’s got him, and she can bounce back and forth, and you are the one that is facilitating this. You are the one that’s making this infidelity possible. It all begins and ends with the dude. And so character is destiny.

So if you want a good, loyal, faithful woman who will be loyal and faithful to you and you’ll have a good relationship, well, you can’t be a guy that’s cheating on his fucking fiancée. It’s like, how can you not see that? And if you don’t love your fiancée enough to go through with the wedding, then break it off. And let her move on with her life. That’s the manly thing to do. That’s the honorable thing to do. That’s the right thing to do. That’s the righteous choice. And then you can just tell this chick you work with. It’s like, “hey, I love the connection we have, and I would love to date you and make love and everything else.

But as long as you’re living with your boyfriend of 18 years, it’s like we can only be friends. That’s it.” And then you start dating other women. And when she’s like, “oh, I want to get together, I miss you.” I was like, “I’m sorry. And until you’re single, you can’t ever touch me. It’s just not appropriate. I’m not going to be your sidepiece. I’m not. It’s just not right to do that to your boyfriend. And it’s not right for me to do this to my fiancée, and I’m stopping it altogether. That’s the only way it’s going to happen.”

You have to create a space in your life for the right person to come in and fill, whether it’s this woman you work with or whether it’s somebody you haven’t met yet. You’re clearly not satisfied with your fiancé, and so it’s not fair to her to keep stringing her along. It’s just wrong. That’s just those are the actions of a bitch. That’s not a man. That’s what a bitch would do. So stop being a bitch. Be a man, do the right thing. And become single. And the right girl that will knock your socks off will come into your life.

And what happens if you do that and you’re single and you start dating, I mean, we already know this woman gets jealous of you being with other women. So now if you’re single and you’re dating and you’re hooking up with other women and she’s jealous, it’s like, “well, until you become single and leave your boyfriend. It’s like, it’s really none of your business. If you were single, I would totally date you and I would absolutely ravish you completely. But as long as you stay with this guy, he’s like, nothing can happen between us.

I’m just not interested.” And you got to hold your hold their feet to the fire. And one of two things will happen. You’ll either meet somebody that’s perfect and you’ll live happily ever after, or it will bother this girl so much that you’re dating and fucking other women that she doesn’t want to take the chance on losing you to somebody else. As crazy as that sounds, that’s what’ll happen. She’ll blow up her relationship and she’ll leave him. And then you guys can start dating and just start a normal courtship and start a normal relationship. I would not keep doing what you’re doing. It’s fucking wrong.

The word lead means to go first. You got to do the right thing. The world needs more high character people. God knows we got enough dirtbags and psychopaths in our government that do shitty things. I mean, that whole Russia collusion thing with Comey and Obama and Joe Biden, greasy Joe Biden did to him, and Hillary Clinton is like, that was fucking wrong. They all should have been prosecuted and nothing happened. They all got book deals.

They got nice cushy jobs on CNN or MSNBC. They got all these paid speaking gigs. It’s fucking wrong. They got rewarded for their incompetence, their treasonous behavior, their stupidity, their dishonesty. And all it does is show to other people on the outside that there is no equal justice under law. And if you’re a well-connected dirtbag, you can pretty much get away with everything and anything. It’s fucking wrong.

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