Trying To Force Things

Why you should not try to force things in your relationships and instead give the other person the time and space to choose you. How to learn to recognize when someone is sincerely mutually interested in you and when they are not by looking at their actions.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss four different emails from four different viewers who are trying to force things to move along quicker than they otherwise would naturally. Therefore, things are not going the way they want them to with the women that they are involved with.

“When we fear that someone won’t love us who we want, we tend to try and force things. We call too much, show up at their place of work, send excessive emails and texts, etc., all in an effort to avoid the rejection we fear happening. When we try to force things, all we do is come off as needy, unworthy and inadequate to the other person. When we try to force things, we’re unconsciously inviting them to take advantage of us, take us for granted or mistreat us. The self loving thing to do that communicates confidence and value, is to bottom line their actions, notice their level of effort and allow them to chose us of their own free will. If they really want you, and you act worthy, you will allow them to come to you at their own pace. That is the only way you can be content that they chose you for you and not because you forced things, manipulated them or cajoled them into being with you. You deserve someone who loves you for you. Allow love to happen. Don’t try and force it. You’ll only demean yourself and end up broken hearted.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne