Wanting What You Can’t Have

Why wanting what you can’t have is not a healthy way to approach dating and relationships, and why you should instead focus on constantly circulating until you find someone who wants you back. Why becoming focused on, fixated on and obsessed with someone who is unavailable or who doesn’t want you, is just a way to avoid a relationship altogether.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss five different emails from five different viewers who are struggling with either wanting someone that does not want them, wanting and being hung up on women who are not single in hopes that they leave their boyfriend or trying to prove themselves to get their ex back by getting a job, etc.

Another single guy is dating a lot of women, but he’s upset that none of the ten women he’s been out with in the past month have turned out to be the one. One of the viewers is fixated on a woman who likes his attention, but does not seem to want to actually date him. Another guy is trying to save his marriage of ten years with two kids. She says she’s on the fence about divorce now, but he’s unsure of what to do going forward.

“Human beings tend to want what they can’t have and value what they have to work for. If you see life as a struggle and feel as if nothing ever seems to work out for you or that things won’t continue to work out for you long term, this can cause you to focus on and become trapped in situations or fixated on people who do not want you back. It then becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. You feel you don’t deserve what you want, and therefore become emotionally fixated on people who don’t feel the same way as you. The true way to an effortless life is to have faith that by continuing to search and seek, you eventually will find people and circumstances that want you to stick around and love you back unconditionally.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne