Why having sexual chemistry and attraction are not enough to sustain a relationship long term. Why you must share similar goals and values with women you date in order to maintain the relationship long term.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss two emails. The first one is from a guy who has gotten dumped for the third time by a woman he was dating for about three months. He is agnostic and she is from a family of hard core Christians. She tells him that the reason is her pastor, family and her religious beliefs. He’s now entertaining going to church to please her, but she’s no longer sleeping with him anymore.
The second is from a guy who just had his first child with his wife of over a year and who he’s been together with for about 4 years. He says the power has completely flipped to his wife and she rarely wants to have sex with him anymore. He’s got a bad case of blue balls and the hots for the mother of his child.
“Long term relationships work when two people share similar goals and values regarding raising children, friends, lifestyle choices, career and family. The purpose of all relationships is that you go there to give, not possess each other so you can feel good about yourself and your ability to have someone stay with you. The divorce rate is now over 65%. Most people marry for the wrong reasons such as companionship, peer & family pressure, societal conditioning, lust, etc. The most successful longterm relationships are built upon a strong friendship, sexual chemistry, attraction, similar goals and values, good communication, focus on giving to and loving one another unconditionally, meeting each others needs, family life, loyalty, honesty, etc. If you are thinking about marriage, make sure you do it for the right reasons instead of what others or society thinks you should do.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne