We Were Having Sex While Her Boyfriend Was Blowing Up Her Phone!

The shocking truth about how quickly women rebound with other men.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a new viewer whose ex dumped him after almost 7 years and immediately got into another relationship. He admits he took her for granted. Eventually she wanted to meet in person to exchange their dog instead of going through her dad. They hooked up after she dumped her boyfriend. However, she quickly went back to him and now he’s in no contact.

My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Oh, sounds a little spicy. So, in all fairness, this particular girl was the emailer’s ex-girlfriend, and she claimed that she was no longer with her boyfriend. I’m not sure if her boyfriend agreed with that, but anyways, they started hooking up, and then she went back to her ex, and now he’s in no contact again.

So he’s like, “What’s going on?” And he was with this girl for, like, seven years. And so she broke up with him and immediately got into a relationship with somebody else, probably a dude she knew.

And so when women do that, what they’re doing is they’re replacing one intimate form of intimacy with another. So usually they’ve got three or four of these male orbiters, guys that are nice, guys that have expressed interest. Maybe the guy from work, you know, that she says you don’t have to worry about.

And when she’s not happy, she breaks up with you and then immediately is with the other guy. More than likely, she lined him up while they were still together. So let’s see what’s going on here.

Viewer Email:

Hey Corey,

I’ve read your book twice and am on my 3rd read. My ex of 6.5 years left me a year ago and immediately jumped into a new relationship 2–4 weeks later.

Yeah, more than likely she already knew this guy. Who knows? Maybe she met some dude and it just clicked. But obviously it didn’t last because we’re—we got an email here.

We share a dog weekly.

Initially, I was dumped for taking her for granted.

So probably, like most guys, you stopped dating and courting her, and you didn’t make her feel heard and understood. And eventually, as the saying goes, if you don’t date and court your girlfriend or your wife, eventually somebody else will. In Tom Brady’s case, he got the jiu-jitsu instructor, ripped off his wife. She ran off with the help.

After a week of pleading, I went no contact. 2–3 months later, she requested moving dog handoffs from her dad (who hates the new guy) back to just us.

So when a woman does that, she’s, like, opening the line of communication. Remember? He begged and pleaded, but she was with a new guy. Probably that’s when he found out. So he’s like, “Oh.” And she says, “Just give the dog to my dad, and we don’t have to see each other.”

But she starts missing him because he goes no contact. She reaches out. Why does she reach out? Why does she open up the lines of communication? Because the new guy didn’t make her feel the same way he did in the beginning. Women care about how they feel about you.

She began sending paragraphs about wanting “us” again, but I mishandled the interactions and nothing progressed. I then dove deep into your content and started successfully dating other women (currently seeing two). However, I still want my ex back.

Well, this kind of monkey-branching behavior is—well, let me get to the good part. Let’s get to the juicy stuff because character is destiny. It sure looks like she lined up somebody else when she was with you.

The likelihood that she met some guy within two to three weeks and they were head over heels is suspect. More than likely, she met him when you guys were together. She felt something that she hadn’t felt for you in a long time because, as you said, you neglected her.

And he probably took the time to open her up and listen to her go on about her problems. She felt attraction for him. She didn’t feel much attraction for you because you were focused on other things. Doesn’t sound like she’s a very high-character person because she gave the other guy the green light—or she gave the other guy the green light, I should say.

Two months ago, she called me in the middle of the night after her boyfriend was screaming at her to come back to his house and got knocked out in the parking lot by bystanders.

Oh, so it sounds like her boyfriend was writing checks with his mouth his body could not cash, and he got knocked out. That’s not good. That’s just a dangerous situation. Sounds like he’s a hothead. She didn’t make a good choice. But then again, doesn’t look like she is known for making good choices.

She came over, claimed she was single, and we had sex while he called her 100+ times.

Damn, dude got knocked the fuck out, and she’s calling her ex going, “That’s it. I’m done with him.” I mean, so in her mind, it wasn’t cheating because she ended it.

So—but that’s what women do. That’s the monkey branching. It’s like they bring a guy in close, and then when it looks good, then they, like—in this case, it looks like she might not even have had a conversation with him. She may have said, “We’re done,” or who knows? She left, and in her mind she was done. And that’s what she told this guy. So they hooked up.

We hung out and cuddled twice more that week during handoffs. Two weeks later, I tried to set a proper date, but she backtracked, stating she was back with her boyfriend.

Oh, more good choices. So in a situation like this, if she broke it off and ran off with another dude, she’s got to do all the reaching out, and you just make dates. And so it looks like you probably started pursuing her. It wasn’t her idea.

Your job is to create the opportunity for sex to happen. However, we got the idea of her dodgy behavior. So if she’s available, she’s going to reach out. If she gets back together with the ex, she’ll also go radio silent. And you don’t do anything. Just let her be.

The ex will screw up again, and then as soon as he does, guess what? She’ll be ringing you up going, “What are you doing?” But you can see now you’re on the other side. This is probably exactly what happened when you were slacking off and she wasn’t sure about you. She’s probably calling and texting this dude and hanging out with him, and you had no idea that was going on.

So it looks like, you know, organically she just met somebody else, but probably she lined him up while you were still together. And then she ended it and ran off with that guy.

“We hung out, cuddled twice,” he says. So she says she’s back with her boyfriend.

To give her the gift of my absence and go no contact again, I moved the dog handoffs back through her dad. I know she hates this adjustment.

It’s like, well, I mean, you’re not going to—why encourage ratchet behavior? She’s back with her boyfriend. You guys shouldn’t be meeting because you don’t want to encourage any naughty behavior on her part.

So again, it’s—you could say, okay, well, she was talking to this guy but didn’t sleep with him until she ended it. Who really knows? Because for her, it’s fungible.

So the question is, like, now you know because you’re on the other side. This is what happens when you don’t date and court her properly. And I talk about this in the book. I talk about this all the time.

When things are not going well and you’ve gotten lazy, complacent, and you’re not dating and courting her, you’re neglecting her. You’re making her feel like you don’t care. How nasty is the breakup? How nasty is her moving on to another guy?

In Tom’s case, Tom Brady, she was hanging out with the jiu-jitsu guy who was actually training both of them at one point. And since Tom was away all the time during the season, he was just training her.

I’m sure at some point she was bitching and venting, and he was there for her because he was also from Brazil. So you’re speaking Portuguese, probably rolling around on the mat. He got a boner. She took advantage of it. Ended—it was—I mean, she was cheating for a while. We know that. I mean, you saw the roast, the celebrity roast.

So that’s what happens if you’re with a low-character woman. She’s not going to fucking care how it looks.

And in her mind, I’m sure, like Gisele just had a new book come out. She begged and pleaded with Tom to pay attention to them, and at some point, again, all women are going to tap out. And depending on their character determines how nasty or how nice they are about the breakup.

In this case, her boyfriend got knocked out, and she’s like, “Well, I’m done with that.” And so she calls her ex, who she was already kind of opening the door to, and jumped in bed with him. They hooked up, and as soon as he started pursuing, she went back to the ex. He should have just let her come to him.

But in a situation like this, you got to say, okay, if I’m a great boyfriend, she’s going to be happy and she’ll probably never do anything like this. But as soon as you slip up, you get lazy, you get complacent, you get a couple kids, you’re busy at work, your business—this is what happens.

She starts—she’ll call this guy or somebody else or the next-door neighbor or who knows? I mean, the bottom line is this is how this particular woman operates.

So is this what you want? When she’s happy, she’ll probably be loyal and faithful. When she’s not, this is how she’s going to behave.

My questions for you:

Was moving the handoffs back to her dad the right move to re-establish no contact, or should I be leveraging those weekly interactions to build attraction?

Well, what’s done is done. I wouldn’t have done that because, again, you let women come to you. And so if she wanted to continue the handoffs, she wants to get a little kissy-poo, you’re like, “Well, you’re back with your boyfriend. Does he know that we’re meeting now? I’m sure he appreciates that.”

But you gotta look at that and go, “Do I want to get into a relationship with someone like this, or do I just slide her into the fuck buddy, friends-with-benefits, sex-playmate category?”

Because you don’t want to be sleeping with one eye open. If you’re working late at night, you don’t want to go, “Is she hanging out at the neighbor’s house? Is she texting with some other dude? Has she got a dating profile somewhere?”

It’s like, do you really want that? Does that sound like a family-oriented woman? Me, I’d look at that and go—I mean, she kind of violated the trust. So you can have fun with girls like this, but you shouldn’t wife them up or marry them. But it’s your life. You do what you want.

Should I allow myself to be her late-night booty call/escape when her current relationship is rocky, or do I completely hold the line and wait until she dumps him for good?

Thanks for everything!

Bob

Well, you could look at it and go, “Well, she technically was my girl, and he basically ripped off my girl, probably.” But he probably doesn’t even know what she was really up to. Only she does. So it doesn’t look like she was up to anything good.

But at this point, if you’re going to treat her like a sex playmate, fuck buddy, friends with benefits, you’ll never reach out. You’ll never call. You’ll never text.

If she gives you a hard time about it, you’ll just say, “Look, I’m willing to hang out and give you a chance. But we were together seven years, and you broke up with me, and two weeks later you’re in a relationship with somebody else. You clearly knew that dude before. I find it hard to believe you just ran into him randomly after we broke up and you’re living happily ever after. It’s like, come on.”

“And I know what happened. You weren’t happy. Your boyfriend, he got knocked the fuck out, so you called me and slept with me. And I wonder if your boyfriend thought you were still his girlfriend. But obviously, in her mind, she wasn’t.”

So the question is, again, do you want to trust a woman like that? Or is she just a hookup girl? Because a family-oriented girl is going to want to communicate and work things out. She’ll break up with you and take time to heal. She’s not going to be with some other dude two weeks later.

But the girl that has a dude lined up, she’ll be with somebody else two weeks later, and guys are surprised by that. But the average hot girl is always getting approached. There’s always dudes. They can always go online, where 80% of the people on the dating app are dudes throwing their dicks at her, so it’s pretty easy.

Or her Instagram profile. Instagram is a great, great dating app. Better, in my opinion. I found that you meet a lot of really cool, interesting women from literally all over the world, and you can have a lot of fun. I did a lot of traveling. It was a good time.

But again, if you’re looking for a family, loyal girlfriend, I wouldn’t be giving this girl another chance. I would just—I’d wait to hear from her, invite her over, hang out, have fun, hook up. I wouldn’t even be really going out and doing anything with her.

And if she complains, “You never call,” or whatever, it’s like, “Look, it looks like you were cheating on me with this other guy. And we can have fun. We can be friends with benefits. But do I think I’ll ever get to the point where I trust you and want to be exclusive with you again after your behavior?”

“I mean, look what—I mean, your boyfriend gets knocked the fuck out, and instead of seeing if he’s okay, you call your ex-boyfriend and you hook up with him,” which is obviously him.

So let her be the one to convince you or try to convince you. But I would not be agreeing to get back into a relationship with a girl like this. Fuck buddy. Friends with benefits. Sex playmate. And look for somebody that’s just not going to do this stuff. Again, six and a half, seven years. That’s pretty shitty.

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