What an alpha female really wants in a man, and how you use this wisdom to attract and keep an alpha female.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a woman who’s a high achieving, self-described alpha female who shares how guys who have so much potential blow their chances with her when they act exactly like I teach not to in my book. A guy she had high hopes for when she first started seeing him is still dropping the ball and turning her off, even after she told him that he needed to watch my videos.
Her email provides another real time, real world example of the typical mistakes most guys make that ruin their chances with women, so you can learn from them and avoid making them yourself. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of her email.
I’ve watched other videos, not yours, offering advice to men, and they crack me up, because their advice is terrible, but YOURS… damn, dead on.
(I might not always be right, but I’m never wrong.)
I’m a very good-looking woman, and I’ve always been able to get any guy I want, but I know hot chicks are everywhere, so it’s my other qualities, in addition to my looks, that makes me a damn unicorn. I make close to $200k a year, a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets, AND I’m pretty fucking funny, if I do say so myself, ha-ha.
All of this makes it very tricky for guys to navigate me successfully. I can sense a lack of confidence a mile away, and even when I do have interest, guys always shit the bed!!
I started dating a guy that I really wanted to like, and he started dropping the ball with me, doing everything you say not to do! Ugh. I wanted to like him, but damn he was making it so hard, and I have to be really blunt here… I already have pussy, so I’m not looking for another one.
Because he had some valuable qualities, I decided to help him out a little,
(Remember, women help you when they like you),
and I directed him to your videos, Lol.
(It’s like the quote I shared in my book from Adam Carolla, “When a woman likes you, the doors start opening, then all you have to do is walk through them. But if the doors start shutting in your face, then you just turn around and walk away, and you find somebody else who wants to open the doors for you.”
You like him, you’re trying to help him out, you’re giving him lots of chances, but every time you give this guy a chance, to prove he’s an alpha, and he believes he deserves to be around her, he does the opposite.)
The guy had every reason to be confident in himself, so act like it for god sake!
As that hot and successful woman, I’m here to say that your advice is 100% accurate, and you couldn’t get any better validation than that. Well, except for the “let’s play hide the salami” word track, Lol. I would be like really?! Ha-ha, had to bust your balls a little.
Oh brother, he just texted me!!! Watch the videos homeboy.
(This is a prime example of what I talk about in the book. Women either like you, or they don’t. They either find you attractive enough and they give you a shot, or they don’t. In this particular case, there was a mutual attraction, the guy took some action to make something happen, and then because of how he perceives himself, he’s constantly acting weak and doing things that communicate he doesn’t feel worthy to be with you.
After awhile, we want somebody who’s an equal teammate. We’ve all met people in our lives who are very insecure, who are very weak and tend to put up with being talked down to, made fun of, and they constantly communicate that they think they don’t really have much to offer. And eventually, you just don’t want to hang out with that person, because you start to question yourself and start to think, maybe something’s wrong with you.
I talk a lot about dating somebody, having the kinds of friends, or even business partners for that matter, where you share the same goals and values. Not only is it hard to find women to date that are on the same level of success, but who also have the same belief in themselves. In other words, when they decide to do something, they just go off and find a way to make it happen. But the average person is coming up with excuses that get in the way. Not a lot of people will think the same way.
Remember, you’re going to become exactly like the five people who you are going to spend most of your time with. That includes who you date, your friendships, as well as people you go into business with or work around. Because if you’re surrounded by people who don’t have the same high standards, the same goals, the same outcomes, and aren’t trying to be their best like you are, eventually, their attitude, their mindset and their belief system is going to weigh on you.
It’s important to be careful about who you let into your inner circle. The idea is, you want to hang out with people better than you, smarter than you, more successful than you, and like Warren Buffet says, when you do that, you’re typically going to gravitate into their direction.)
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“The average western male has been so beaten down mentally and emotionally by the time they reach adulthood, that they are mostly convinced they have nothing to offer a high quality woman. When they do encounter the type of woman they dream of, and she has initial mutual romantic interest, it quickly evaporates when they inevitably act, speak and think like they are unworthy and completely talk women out of liking them. High achievers act and think like they are or are becoming and are deserving of the best that life has to offer, and they take actions that are congruent with this premise and never settle. With enough time and repetition, they become and attract what they aspire to. Your self talk and your actions determine your reality.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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