What Are We?

How to determine when to be exclusive, if a woman wants you as her boyfriend or whether or not you should bring up the topic of dating and relationship labels. How to know when to back off if you come on too strong by pushing for a relationship or pursuing too much to the point that the woman you are dating stops responding or starts to lose interest.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss three different emails from three different viewers. The first email is from a viewer who has been dating a woman who has recently been referring to him as her boyfriend, but they have not had a talk about what they are to each other. He wonders how to approach the subject.

The second email is from a viewer who met a gorgeous tall blonde on Match.com and was immediately smitten. He started to act dopey and she started ignoring him. He found my work and backed off. Two weeks later she finally started reaching out to him again. He wonders what to do next. The third email is from a viewer who was living with a woman who asked him, “What are we?” Shortly thereafter she moved 9 hours away to live with her parents and told him she did not want the relationship anymore.

“Men often fall in love through their eyes and can instantly feel like they want a woman they just met or started dating as a girlfriend. Women on the other hand, tend to fall in love slowly over time through their ears. If a guy handles the courtship properly as I talk about in my book, ”How To Be A 3% Man,” it usually takes until week 7 for the woman to get to the place emotionally where she feels safe and comfortable enough to bring up the topic of dating exclusivity, boyfriend/girlfriend and relationship commitments. It’s always best for men if they let the woman bring this topic up first and then ask really high quality questions such as, “What do you mean?” instead of assuming she wants them as a boyfriend; since most guys tend to act and think that becoming exclusive is a mad dash to the finish line instead of a beautiful love story that evolves slowly over time. When a guy starts talking about relationships and exclusivity on the first few dates, 99% of the time the woman will quickly disappear from his life.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne