In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who asks about about what the tone of your voice communicates. He says that sometimes when he speaks in a deeper tone of voice he felt like people would not like him.
He therefore spoke in a softer less confident tone in order to gain their acceptance. He asks my opinion on how he can be more comfortable speaking in his natural tone of voice so people accept him for who he is.
“The expression that says “it’s not so much what you say, but how you say it” is very true. Two scientific studies in the late 1960’s determined that 55% of what you communicate is determined by your body language, 38% is determined by the tone of your voice and only 7% is determined by the actual words you use. That is why women are able to see through a man’s hollow apology so easily. They can tell by his body language and the tone of his voice that he does not really mean or believe what he is saying. Therefore, it’s best to internalize the feelings, intentions and emotions of love, compassion, humor, humility and understanding when speaking to other people, to more effectively communicate, influence, get what you want and get your point across.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne