When To Call Her Back

Feb 27, 2012 by Coach Corey Wayne

How to respond to her phone calls, texts, emails & messages when you’ve got a definite date set already. If you follow what I teach and treat every woman you meet the same, over time as you do more and more things right, the women you are dating and sleeping with will start to call, text, e-mail, message, etc. more and more frequently. All of these phone calls/messages will then create another challenge for men who are not used to this behavior of women calling and chasing them. The temptation will be to spend hours talking, texting, etc. especially when you really like the girl. However, the more available and quick you are to respond, the less you will appear as a challenge to women. Remember, women are like cats and they stick around only as long as something is mysterious and interesting. When they get too familiar with you, they will get bored and get busy doing other things. When this happens, men who do not understand women will start to chase and call them more. This simply causes the women to pursue and chase less. If you keep it up, eventually they’ll start breaking dates and not returning your phone calls or messages. Some women get pissed at me when I say this, but, it’s always better if she thinks that she likes you more than you like her. The more a woman thinks that you like her more than she likes you, the less interesting and attractive she will find you. As I discuss in my book, the idea is that you only contact a woman you are dating or interested in, in order to set up definite dates. The following is an e-mail from a reader. He wrote me previously and after taking my advice, the woman who was blowing him off and breaking dates with him, is now calling him even though they have a definite date set up. He wants to know how to remain a mystery and a challenge so she continues chasing him and how to deal with all of her phone calls/messages. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hi Corey,

She called me the next day, Friday. We talked, and made plans for Wednesday for our play date. Great. But now, she wants to call me every day. Do I ignore that and not talk to her when she calls / texts? Or just let her come here Wednesday, like we planned? Letting that sexual tension build? Or talk to her when she initiates contact? (If you were a busy successful man who was striving to create the life of his dreams, you’d be busy as hell. Let her calls go to voicemail, and take your time responding to her texts. You’ve already got a date set up. Just be busy with your life. Think about it this way: If you were dating and sleeping with several other women who were calling and chasing you like this girl is now starting to, you would not be able to respond right away. Why? You might be working, hanging with friends, or maybe even on a date with another girl. It’s really none of her business what you are up to. She’s not your girlfriend, your warden, your boss, etc. She is a friend with benefits who lives with her boyfriend who does not care if she cheats on him with other men. You’ll get back to her when you’ve got time. The phone, email, texting, etc. is for setting dates. Not giving out information or chit-chat. If she contacts you after 7 pm, text her back the next day: “Hey, got your message. Was busy last night, but I’m looking forward to seeing you Wednesday!” That’s it. Be brief. Why? You’re busy dammit! Plus, she’ll wonder what you are up to when you don’t respond right away like you always used to. This is mysterious and causes her to wonder about you; this raises her level of interest in you. It also causes her to have to work for your attention. This causes her to chase you more. Why? Women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. If you are busy and unavailable most of the time, women will appreciate their time with you more. They will want to make it count so they can get you all to themselves!) Your advice has been SO helpful. I am halfway through your book, meaning I have read it 6 times. It’s great. (You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Thanks

Tom

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Published on February 27, 2012

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  1. Hey Corey. First let me thank you. Your material is spot on and I was amazed at how much I knew but did not trust. This stuff often seems counter intuitive. Listening to you has given me the confidence to TRUST this knowledge. Im 40 yrs old and been out of the game for awhile. I am recovering from a 20 yr heroin addiction so have been working on myself, getting clean etc. I have been making good progress and recently met a girl (28yrs old) and from the first time we met I had a gut feeling she was interested. I had been reading The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene and studying your material. With this info at hand I managed to ratchet up this girls interest level to where she is doing 80% of the chasing. So far so good! (This stuff REALLY works guys if she’s interested!)
    Here’s my issue…because of my drug past I am in real bad shape but this girl is STILL interested. I just don’t get it. I’m an average looking guy but I have lost a lot of weight and my teeth aint that good. (Any long term opiate addict will tell you the same). I have no job and am still detoxing off methadone, although by xmas I will be clean. (methadone is a heroin replacement therapy) Basically I look and feel like shit but she still seems interested. Physically iv never looked worse and I have little energy for dating but I am doing well with the mystery and challenge part. I am not in a rush to get physical until I have worked out some of my health issues, ie more weight and a trip to the dentist or two! What I’m worried about is her loosing interest or feeling I’m not into her if a don’t make a move soon. I know she is a slow mover so for now she seems happy to just bumble along together but she’s a gorgeous girl with many guys on her tail. I’m also wondering why me and not Mr perfect teeth and Mr universe body with a steady job, whom she has plenty of attention from. Any thoughts I would appreciate, and don’t spare the Corey Wayne honesty! I can take it!
    Thasnk you, Mike.

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