How to change the way you look at things & approach your interactions with other people from a position of strength, so men want to be your friend & women want to sleep with you. How to make friends & get both men & women to like you so you can have a great social life! It’s no fun to want to talk to women, but to be so afraid, insecure or socially awkward that you don’t even know where to start. It also can be very challenging if you have a hard time simply making friends out of total strangers. Even though I have the mindset and attitude that all women want me, I know the reality is, that most women do not.
Attraction is not a choice. You either meet a woman’s minimum standards of attractiveness, and therefore have a chance with her romantically, or you don’t. Even if I find a woman attractive, and she feels the same, there is a 97% chance that after talking to her for a few minutes, that she will turn me off and I will lose interest. Why? I’m picky as hell and I have very high standards. When success with women was elusive to me when I was younger and inexperienced, I was simply happy to get laid.
As I gained more experience, seducing beautiful women in bed was my goal. As it became easy for me to meet, date and seduce the type of beautiful women who had eluded me when I was younger, I really started to crave a deeper connection with a woman who I actually enjoyed spending time with and who didn’t bore me to death. The more successful I became with women, the higher the value I placed on quality instead of quantity. The following is an e-mail from a reader who has a hard time making friends in addition to his struggles with women. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
Thanks for your videos! They are always very helpful and full of lessons. I have a concern for you today; It’s not about girls, but about myself and my relationship with other people in general. The problem is, I have hit the same walls pretty much all of my life when socializing with my peers; Men and Women. In the first scenario, we hit it off pretty well, but then our relationship fades away.
Most of the time, they start making fun of me. They lower their level of respect towards me, and just behave totally indifferent with me. (It sounds like you care too much about what others think about you and that you seek the approval of others. This is weak thinking! When you seek the approval of women or others, you are communicating that you do not feel you are worthy of their presence and time.) Then I find myself kissing people’s ass, (No one likes an ass-kisser or suck-up. It’s phony and inauthentic.) or I feel lonely again and simply misunderstood.
They would usually like me I think, but not respect me at all. (They don’t respect you because you tolerate their bullshit, and hang out with people who do not appreciate you for you. “A friend is someone to whom you can speak aloud.” ~ Dr. Wayne Dyer. Go where you are wanted and appreciated. Keep searching until others want you to stick around. As you become more successful with women, all men will start to respect you and seek your counsel.) Then, I tend to stay away from them on my own. However, I need friends and I think everyone does. (You don’t need anyone or anything outside of yourself.
All you need is within you already.) In the other case, I don’t usually seem to make connections with most people easily. (Talking to people in general is easy. Improving your social skills becomes easy with time and practice. Trying to talk to people who you have nothing in common with, people who don’t want to talk to you or people who bore you is hard.) It can be hard to make friends.
Sometimes, I get to know them, but our relationship stays very basic and standard even though I can see and tell that we have much in common. But the connection just doesn’t seem to happen. (That’s ok. Don’t try to force it. Like women, you must let people come and go as they please. Don’t take it personally.) I don’t know what it is with me, but I’d like to hear your take on that and possibly advise me on what I need to do to better that situation. I want to be able to make friends and enjoy my life by totally remaining myself and get the respect that I deserve.
PS: I’d like to get the Network Chiropractic Adjustments you talk about in your videos to improve my confidence and overall quality of life. I have found two specialists here in Chicago, Illinois, but it seems very expensive and I’m just a college student. (Usually, adjustments cost between $45-$65 each depending on the doctor.) What can I do? (If it’s really important to you, then get a part time job. Find a way to earn the money. Don’t be a cheap-ass-taker looking for handouts and expect everyone to give you something for nothing.
It costs money to run a business. Pay people what they are worth, or don’t hire them.) Do they have an option for people with limited income? (You need to ask them. Each Doctor who is trained/certified in Network Chiropractic determines their own rates. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)
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