White Knight Finds Out His Girlfriend Isn’t So Innocent

Why you should evaluate women based upon their actions, character & how they treat you.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a 26-year-old viewer who has been following my work for six years and read 3% Man 15 times. He says he waited a long time to sleep with girlfriend out of “respect” for her. Her dad is a preacher. He started exploring her sexual past with her and found out she lost her virginity at 21. She slept with five guys before him and now he is self conscious about it. He feels like she gave it up too easily to other men while he made her wait to have sex.

He is learning the hard way that being a white knight and thinking she was so innocent was just a projection of his delusional Disney fantasy about women. He asks my opinion. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

This particular email just brings up the issue of like, man, these are just not good conversations to have. So this guy started dating this girl. He’s 26, but following my work for six years and read 3% Man 15 times. He said he waited a long time to sleep with his girl out of, “Respect for her.” I don’t know if that was his idea or she made him wait, but he says her dad is a preacher, so I guess she didn’t lose her virginity till she’s 21. They’re both 26.

She’s been sexually active for the last five years of her life. So she slept, I guess five different dudes before him. What he’s upset about is one of the guys was kind of like a one night stand, and she was raw dogging it with him. It’s like, why would you even go into that? What you’re really trying to evaluate in the vetting process is character. Character is destiny. Just because she’s a virgin and you’re the first guy that slept with her, or in this case, you’re the sixth guy that slept with her, does not mean she’s going to be loyal and faithful. I mean, her dad is a preacher, by the way, and preacher’s daughters, they tend to be a little boorish, quite frankly, because dad is just too much of a religious nut or a control freak to the point where the daughter just hides everything and lies to him and is dishonest. Unfortunately those things happen.

So you’re trying to find out, is she going to be truthful with you? Is she honest? Does she respect and admire her father and really like her dad? Is dad the ultimate authority in the house? Does she respect him or is she always hiding shit from him because he was a Bible Nazi, if you will? When parents are too controlling, the kids just hide things from them and then the kid gets killed wrapping their car around a telephone pole because they were drinking or doing drugs or whatever. Meanwhile, the parents are like, “I didn’t even know my son or my daughter drank. I didn’t even know they would do those kinds of drugs.” It’s because you don’t have a good open relationship with your child. Your child had to lie and hide everything because you come down on him all the time.

If you’re a parent, you have to create the conditions, especially when kids get to be 12, from that point on, you’re like a trusted advisor. All you can really do is advise them. Sometimes you got to let them hit the wall and fuck up because it’s the pain and the fucking up that makes them realize, “Oh shit, I should have listened to dad. Should have listened to mom. They were right.” Again, when they get to be 12, they’re going to start to question your authority. If you just come down on them or constantly punishing them for everything, then they’re just not going to tell you stuff. That’s where real tragedies happen, is people don’t have good relationships with their kids, and the kids just lie and hide shit from them. Then the parents find out what’s really going on when they’re not around, when it’s too late.

In this case, especially when you listen to the red pill dunces, these guys think that because a girl’s religious or she’s Christian or she’s Muslim or she’s Catholic or she’s Jewish and her parents are very religious, that shit doesn’t matter. Character is destiny. I went to a Catholic high school and I saw all kinds of ratchet shit happening from the wealthy, successful elite and their offspring. I mean, I’ve talked about this in the past in many videos. You got to evaluate people based upon how they’re showing up. When I was growing up, stuff I thought was common sense, it’s clear it’s not so common, and it’s just delusional to think that because a girl is religious or her parents were religious or she’s a Christian or whatever kind of religion, that she’s just going to be the perfect woman, always going to be loyal and faithful to you.

You don’t know what you don’t know. Unfortunately, sometimes the preacher’s daughter is a fucking whore. That’s just reality. Doesn’t mean so in this case, but as a man, you have to have an open mind. Just not, “Oh, I’m dating a preacher’s daughter. I hit the lottery. Woo Hoo! I got a mostly virgin, and she’s going to be loyal and faithful my whole life.” Nah, if you act like a bitch, women are going to treat you like a bitch. If she walks all over you like a doormat, if she walks all over her father treats him like a doormat, doesn’t respect him, if the mother doesn’t respect the father, she ain’t going to respect you. That is just a fact of life.

So when you first start dating, people are going to hide who they are for about the first 90 days, and you should not be allowing yourself to get in La La Land with your emotions, because that’s going to completely blind you. Then you won’t find out until eight to 10 months, 12 months down the road after the honeymoon period that you got into a relationship with a girl that ain’t loyal to anybody. So you got to check yourself before you wreck yourself.

So this guy is all upset about the fact that his innocent little child, his innocent little girlfriend had sex with other dudes. What’s happening is he’s all self-conscious about it now, “How could she?” It’s like, women do stupid shit. They have one night stands, they drink too much and they sleep with somebody they shouldn’t have slept with. It’s absurd to listen to these red pill dunces that think they understand women, and all they did was get their noodle wet once or twice. It’s like, we’re sexual beings. We all got here through sex. If you’re watching this, congratulations. You’re here because your parents fucked. That’s what happened, and your dad slipped one past the goalie, whether it was on purpose or not, whatever.

At the end of the day, you have to evaluate a woman’s character. If you’re thinking about getting into a relationship or being in a relationship and getting upset about the dudes that she slept with because she told you all the gory details, these are just not questions that you need to know. You just need, was she loyal and faithful to her previous boyfriends? Like I’ve talked about, the average girl, if she’s just sleeping with two or three different dudes a year in high school, most women become sexually active typically freshman year. They date a guy for two to three months, they’re going to probably sleep with them because all her friends are doing it, they’re looking for love, they’re naive, especially if they’re hiding everything from their parents. They don’t know.

So it’s pretty easy for the average cute girl to be sleeping with two to three different dudes a year. Not because she’s worn herself out, but maybe she dated a guy for two or three months and slept with him, and then he fucked it up afterwards, or she found out he was cheating on her or whatever. So they broke up. Then she starts dating somebody else. It’s like, that’s just how it goes. So by the time the average girl has graduated college, it’s pretty easy for her to have slept with 20 different guys. That really upsets most men, but those are the numbers.

Again, I went to a Catholic high school. I just saw it, and these were the wealthiest, most successful, most religious families in South Florida. If I told you the names of some of the families’ children I went with, you’d be like, “Whoa!” So when I see these idiots, the red pill guys, getting all upset and bent out of shape about this stuff, it’s like they’re just naive and delusional about the way women really are. You just have to find out, is she going to be loyal and faithful to you? Granted, you’re not going to want to wife up a chick that slept with 500 guys, but five dudes by the time she’s 26? I would say the body count, that’s pretty low. Surprisingly low, to be honest with you.

Viewer’s Email:

Hi Coach Corey,

I am 26-year-old male and my girlfriend is also 26. I have been following your work for the past six years. I have by far ready your book over 15 times and I love your work. Absolutely phenomenal, you changed my life. I have recently come across a situation that you haven’t discussed in your book and I need your help to figure out what to do next.

My current girlfriend, I have known since I was seven years old.

So this is someone he’s known his whole life. He’s known this girl for 19 years. Most of his life he’s known this girl. They grew up together, so he’s gotten to see her up close and personal. Was she loyal and faithful to her boyfriends in high school or middle school or whatever the fuck it was she started dating? Was she loyal and faithful to her boyfriends in her 20s? Those are the questions you need to know. Does she trust her father? Does she admire her father? Does she respect her father? Does she trust his leadership? Is his decision the final one in the house, or does she constantly countermand him and talk shit to him and walk all over him and treat him like a doormat? However she treats the father and however the mother treats the father is typically how the girl is going to treat you. That’s just the way it is, because that’s how they were trained and taught.

She was my first crush ever as a child, however she did not like me growing up.

Oh naughty, naughty, naughty!

I would often see her as a child choose other guys over me.

Well, when I was growing up, when I was in high school, 20% of the dudes were fucking 80% of the women. When you look at the dating apps, it’s still the same thing, 20% of the guys are fucking 80% of the women. That’s just the way it is. That’s the way the world works. Alphas are getting laid and the cowardly betas are fucking rosy palms and her five friends. That’s the way it’s always been.

She’s been a part of every stage of my life, from elementary, to middle school, to high-school, even to post college. Now that she is my girlfriend, I have found out a few things about her past that kind of bothers me.

No guy likes the idea of his girl or the thoughts of his girl fucking some other guy. At this point in my life, I have so many friends who have kids that are adults, and then when we’re hanging out and having beers, and me and the guys and the girls start talking about other people they used to date or have sex with. Even though the kids are adults, they don’t like hearing about it. They get up and they go in another room. They don’t want to hear about mom and dad and who they used to fuck or whatever. It’s kind of funny, but this is just not something you really want to broadcast.

As a man, you’re just trying to find out, is she loyal and faithful? I mean, she’s been with five other dudes. You really want to know all the gory details of it? It’s not going to help you. It will help you evaluate her character to know if she was loyal or not, but this guy’s known her his whole life. Since they were children, they’ve known each other, so he’s been able to observe her through most of her life and see what her character is like. So now he’s like, “Oh my God, my girlfriend had sex with other men and actually enjoyed it. I’m shocked. Shocked, I tell you!”

She spent a year sleeping with three different dudes. She had sex with one guy in a week raw, and another guy she dated for eight months, then immediately after breaking it off with him hooking up with a different dude in their second week dating.

Yeah, because she was in a rebound. This is normal. This is what human beings do. Listening to a bunch of red pill incels with guys that just don’t fucking have a clue about women telling people how they should be or thinking that, “Oh, you got to have only a virgin.” This is so ridiculous. Guys that talk like that, they just are not experienced. So you listen to a bunch of fucking incompetents give you advice.

My issue here is that I waited so long to sleep with her…

Well, that’s on you.

…As a way to show her respect.

Come on, man. You’ve been following me all this time. “I’m going to be respectful.” They’re all a bunch of fucking whores. If they weren’t a bunch of fucking whores, we wouldn’t exist.

However, after learning that she was so easy to sleep with in the past, it kind of makes me feel like she was rather cheap and just gave herself away.

Again, what’s happening is you’re coming up against the reality of the real world, not the Disney fantasy that you projected onto your girl. This is so unsurprising to me. It’s like water is wet, the sky is blue. Oh, she had a one night stand because she was brokenhearted over a breakup. Oh, she slept with a guy after a week or two, “No! Oh my God, it’s the end of the world!”

She is a preacher’s daughter and waited until she was 21 to have sex for the first time…

That’s pretty unusual.

…But since then she has become very hyper-sexual and had allowed about five men to easily sleep with her.

Well, you’re the sixth guy. Congratulations!

Again, compared to the Catholic girls I went to school with, they came from much better families and wealthier and successful families than anybody. It’s like, water is wet. The sky is blue. Anybody crying over it is a fucking incompetent with no experience.

I’m struggling with this because I had never imagined her to be the type of girl to give herself away sexually the way she has.

Five dudes. She slept with six men by the time she’s 26. In this day and age, that is shocking that it’s so low.

What should I do?

Shut your fucking mouth! Stop worrying about it. Get over yourself, dude. It’s not going to help your relationship if you get butt-hurt, because all it’s going to do is make you look insecure and make you look unattractive, and then she’s going to test you more. Why would you do that? Why would you willingly throw a hand grenade there? Maybe because she rejected you your whole life, and now that you’re with her, you still feel inadequate, like you don’t measure up? Or maybe you’re consuming too much red pill nonsense that’s very nihilistic, and it just causes men and women to hate each other?

I got an email the other day from a guy that was at some kind of event, and he said one of these red pill guys that got up and in front of this whole, I don’t know, couple hundred or a thousand people, was in there and just berated women, “All women sucked. They’re horrible.” I mean, this guy got dicked over by a couple of women that he dated. Now he’s angry, he’s pissed off and he’s bitter, and his whole shtick is trying to convince that all women suck.

So this guy starts talking, and what happens? Almost all the women got up and fucking left when this guy started running his mouth. That is not somebody that is charming or that women like. If you’re giving a talk and a lecture and almost all the women in the room leave, you’re a fucking douchebag. You’re a douchebag that doesn’t understand women. If you listen to douchebags who get on there and they go on those red pill podcasts and they talk that nonsense and they do nothing but berate and belittle women, it’s because their balls are the size of bees. If they’re getting that upset and that butt-hurt over women and how they are, that dude’s got some serious fucking mommy issues, and he’s fucking a lot of dudes up that have the same problems as he did. You should not listen to people like that because they’re idiots and they’re incompetents.

I always appreciate your advice and look forward to your response.

Thank You,

Bob

There’s no reason to talk about it. Again, the more you harp on it, she’s your girlfriend now. If you stay with her and you live happily ever after, you’re going to be the only dude that she sleeps with, hopefully for the rest of your lives. Is she being loyal and faithful to you? Can you trust her? Is she giving out her phone number to other dudes or not? That’s what you’re trying to evaluate. Does mom respect the father? Does she respect her dad? Does she listen to her dad? Does she love, admire and look up to her father or not? Does she think her father is a bitch? Does she hate her dad? Does she have daddy issues? What is she like? What is her character? Can you trust her word, or do you catch her in lies all the time? That’s what you got to find out.

Getting upset over the fact that she slept with five other dudes and raw dogged it? Pretty much every guy that’s ever existed has, at some point, got his heart broken and went and typically hooked up with a girl that he maybe regretted later because he was on the rebound. How many of you guys have hooked up with women that are just devastated over a breakup? Women know instinctually that the best way to get over a bad breakup is to meet somebody new and to hang out, have fun and hook up. Women typically understand this better than us guys do, but the guys that can’t get laid or ain’t getting laid or haven’t been getting laid, they’re the ones that get the most upset about it and are crying the most about how much sex women have. If you’re listening to dudes that are constantly bitching about how much sex women are having and complaining about it, it’s because they ain’t getting any pussy and they’re incompetent. So you should unsubscribe and stop following these fucking morons that don’t know what the hell they’re talking about.

You’ve got to evaluate all the people in your life based on their character and how they treat you. That’s it. If you project your fantasy, “Oh, I got a virgin. Oh, I got a girl that’s only had two boyfriends her whole life. She’ll never cheat on me,” then you’re going to be one of those dopes that finds out 10, 15 years later that half your kids aren’t even yours because you married the fantasy and you didn’t remain objective until it was too late, and you ignored all the red flags and the lying and the devious behavior thinking that, “Oh well, her body count is low,” or at least what she told you seemed low. It’s just ridiculous.

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