Why An Abundance Mindset & Infinite Patience Leads To Success With Women

Why an abundance mindset & infinite patience leads to success with women.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who has been following my work for five years and read 3% Man over 10 times. He shares a success story of how having an abundance mindset, talking to multiple women and being infinitely patient helped him to date and hookup with the hottest girl in class that every guy wants.

My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

So I got a success story. It’s Friday and I’m going to share this with you guys.

This particular emailer has been following me since he was 17. I assume he was in high school and he’s 22 now and he’s in college. So he shares he’s also read 3% Man 15 times or 10 times so far, which I mean, if he’s been following me that long, quite frankly, he should have been through it a little bit more than that, but he’s got a great success story to share because the guys that do well long term, they usually go back through the book at least once or twice a year just to keep it fresh.

Again, I say this a lot, is that whatever you observe, you participate in. So if you’re only observing traditional TV and movies, whether you realize it or not, you’re getting propagandized by dysfunctional archetypes and ways that are unnatural to men and women to act. So the things that I teach are innate, and that’s why they feel so natural when you really get it. If you’re constantly consuming dysfunctional archetypes, even if you’ve been through the book 10 or 15 times and then four or five years goes by, it’s like you’re going to slowly kind of go back to sleep partially and kind of revert because you’re going to identify.

The other thing you consider is the music, the emotions of the scene and what’s going on with the characters. You get emotionally anchored to thinking and feeling and therefore acting a certain way. So we tend to move towards things that feel pleasurable and away from things that are painful. Whether you realize it or not, when you consume this dysfunctional nonsense that’s piped into our homes and over the airwaves as media, you literally can’t help but become propagandized and emotionally anchored to dysfunctional ways of being and thinking that are incredibly inefficient and they go against our very nature and what’s innate with men and women.

So this particular guy, he shares a success story of how having an abundance mindset, talking to multiple women, not getting hung up or attached to any one particular girl until you notice that she’s really into you. He shares how he basically got the hottest girl in class who every guy is trying to date and hook up with to date and hook up with him. For me personally, what I love seeing is that, I mean I wish I would have had a book like mine in high school because there’s so many beautiful opportunities that I missed out on as I got older. Especially, I got into my early 30s and I connected all these dots. I just thought back in my life over the past 15, 20 years and all the things I missed out just because I didn’t know what the hell I was doing. So a guy like this at 17 can read my book, follow along in the videos and go through college and just be killing it on a level that was going to take me personally another 10 or 12 years. So this guy at his age is 10 or 12 years ahead of where I was in my early 30s, I think that’s pretty awesome.

The earlier you start, the more your life is going to be all about reaching your full potential and experiencing the things you’ve always dreamed of, that most people will sit and be observers of. So the more people that know this stuff and exhibit it, it influences everybody around them. They influence their friends, they influence the women, and it just presents a much better archetype for those that you surround yourself with because it’s healthy, it’s innate, and it’s natural. It feels natural when you really embody this stuff and you own it.

Viewer Email:

Hi Corey!

Greetings from Europe!

I’ve been following your work for the past five years and read your book over 10 times. More importantly though, I’ve adapted the mindset of respecting myself and valuing my time on this planet. One can read the book a 100 times, but if they got nothing going on in their lives and they’re not applying the principles, failure is inevitable.

Well, you got to give yourself permission to fail because you learn more from failures and things that don’t work out than the successes, because the successes can make you cocky, it can kind of lull yourself to sleep, you get full of yourself. Especially when it comes to business, one of the things you always have to do in business is you always got to innovate, because if you don’t innovate, your competitors will come by and smoke your ass.

I’m lucky to have found your work as early as age 17, and after years of trial and error and learning trough experience, at age 22, I feel I’ve made great progress.

Well, success is making progress in life. So if you’re able to look, especially this guy now, he’s got five years of history of applying the stuff that’s in my books and in my videos and he sees himself making progress and starting to accelerate beyond what his peers are doing, the word lead means “To go first.” When other people see you succeeding at the highest level, you give them, whether you realize it or not, unconsciously, you give them permission and hope to go for what they want in their own lives because they see you doing it. A leader leads by example.

I still revisit your material once in a while to keep it fresh in memory.

I would say ideally once or twice a year at least, and that’s taking your time to really go through the book.

I wanted to write in a success story in the making since I think I’ve finally met and bonded with one of those ”1-3 times a decade,” women. 

In early August, we met on the first day of student orientation as we both began studying law this fall. I noticed her constantly glancing my way so I walked over and we started talking. The conversation was flowing and within two hours she was playing with my ear and rubbing my thigh.

They’re not even on a date. They just met in class. It’s kind of like an instant date happened.

As she was looking at my lips, I went in for the kiss.

No date. He didn’t even have to ask her out. Attraction is not a choice. He sees her, she sees him. He doesn’t do anything stupid or unattractive, so her attraction and her interest grows.

Interestingly enough, she didn’t kiss me back straight away and she whispered, ”Not on the first day.” I teased her about it and just hanged back. Less than half an hour later, I had lipstick all over my face.

That’s because he was unattached, he was indifferent, he could take it or he could leave it, he didn’t get butt-hurt, he wasn’t upset. Probably just offered the James Bond smirk. The little smile that Daniel Craig has been so great at, and what happens? Woman says, “No way I’m sleeping with you. I would never date you if you’re the last guy on Earth,” and he just smirks at her. The little side smile which says, “I’ve heard that like a thousand times before,” and what happens later in the evening? She’s in bed with him. She says, “Not on the first date,” but yet half an hour later, she’s all over him and he’s got lipstick all over his face.

On the first week, we had an event every night. I made a lot of friends and therefore talked to many other girls too. Every night at some stage she would put herself in my orbit so I really didn’t have to work at all and unsurprisingly, the indoor Olympics happened later that week.

I’m shocked!

See how easy that is? I mean, this is natural. This is the way things are supposed to work. When two people like each other, when you consume all this bullshit that’s on TV and the movies, it just gets in the way of what’s natural and beautiful between human beings.

During the first few weeks, we saw each other a lot but I kept the the vibes playful and let her do almost all the pursuing since her attraction was 7-8. However, during a dinner event one night, she pulled me to the side and said she thinks we’re moving too fast and that she’s not ready for anything serious.

You’re going to be indifferent. You’re not going to be bothered, you’re not going to be upset, you’re not going to be alarmed. You’re going to be amused. You’re going to be enchanted. Again, the smirk, “We’ve all heard it before, right?” And then what happens?

I kept being playful and polite, but pulled back a little: I didn’t attend as many gatherings and didn’t initiate texting either. I went on a couple of dates with other girls.

So what happened was they met and this girl is probably hooking up with this guy faster than anybody she’s ever met, and it’s moving fast, and she’s a little freaked out about it because it’s happening so quickly. Emotionally, it feels right, but mentally, this doesn’t seem right. It’s never happens like this.

Needless to say, One day I got the ”Heeeyy,” text…

It’s like, women all over the world, they do the same shit, which is amazing. They could be speaking a different language, “Heyyy,” in their other language.

…From the girl in my class and set up a date.

So she basically, “We’re moving too fast.” It’s like, all it means is, “I’ll just pump the brakes a little bit. I’m not going to get mad. I’m not going to get butt-hurt, I’m not going to be alarmed, I’m amused, I’m enchanted, and it’s my signal to make sure I’m talking to some other ladies, because maybe there’s another girl who I click with, maybe even on a better level,” because these things tend to go in twos and threes when you meet one like this. Shortly thereafter, you meet one or two more. That’s always been like that.

It’s just like getting a speeding ticket. You get one speeding ticket and it seems like you get one or two more shortly thereafter, and then you go years without any infractions. It’s just kind of weird how the universe works. You go through a dry spell, then you meet one girl and then another girl, and then another girl within a matter of days or a couple of weeks, and if you’ve done the work ahead of time, as Confucius said, “Success depends upon prior preparation, and without said preparation there is sure to be failure.” He spent five years practicing the material, so when he meets this girl, it’s just easy and effortless. She’s feminine. Energy is chaos. She’s freaking out a little bit about how she feels and how things are moving, and he just goes and spends time with other girls and other people. He’s not alarmed. He knows you’ll be back. The kitty cat will return when it misses him.

We did the three H’s and from there her attraction has been rising steadily for the past month. Once again the state of abundance has helped me navigate trough this whole process and it feels great to be sleeping with perhaps the most beautiful girl in our class.

Well, it’s your birthright, my man. This is how it’s supposed to be. It’s not supposed to be a once in a lifetime event or something. That just never happens. Or that only happens in the movies. If you know what you’re doing, you get your shit together, your game is tight and you’re totally in your masculine, you will make women fall at your feet and turn her into butter. They’ll be putty in your hands in a good way.

Obviously she has a lot of other guys hitting on her, but in the early 20s age bracket, there’s not much competition for a 3%er.

I mean, this guy’s been practicing this for five years.

Whether this evolves into a relationship or not isn’t my main focus.

Remember, as the book says, your job is just to create an opportunity for sex to happen. Hang out, have fun while you’re hanging out, and hook up when the signs are there that she’s ready to be touched, ready to be kissed, ready to be seduced. It’ll be easy and effortless, and it’ll feel totally natural. This is what makes your confidence as a man explode.

I’m living my purpose and having great experiences thanks to your work and my own efforts to improve.

Once again thank you for the work you do!

Bob

P.S., TRUMP 2024!

For those of you guys, we got to vote. We got to get your ass off the fucking couch. What’s interesting is, women tend to vote more than men. So if you’re watching this, you need to move your fucking ass and come Election Day, you need to go vote. You don’t get what you deserve in life. You only get what you negotiate. If you sit on your ass, I can’t remember who said it, but the only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing. Part of the problem with elections is men just typically don’t move their ass and vote. So if you care about the country and you want to have good people running the country and not a cackling fool, get off your ass and go vote, because it does matter. If we have enough people voting and the margin for victory is big enough, then whatever kind of cheating, shenanigans or fraud that’s going on, it happens in every election, but it’s just too much to make up with fraud. So move your ass and go vote!

I’ve been ride or die with Trump since he came down that escalator in June. I’ve talked about the COVID stuff. Wasn’t happy about that at all. He turned the country over to Fauci and Birx and the rest of these ass clowns, but I’m really excited about Bobby Kennedy getting involved. Really super excited about Elon Musk getting involved. It’s like a once in a lifetime opportunity to really shrink the government and get rid of a lot of incompetent people that don’t belong there that are just gumming up the works and getting in the way and making life hell for the rest of us. So move your ass!

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