Why repressing your true nature and feelings in order to get what you want from another person will only leave you feeling empty, sad and angry with yourself. Why prostituting your emotions, feelings and desires to maintain an illusion of a good relationship can destroy your happiness and self-respect.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who used what I taught him to get into a relationship he really should have ended after two weeks of hooking up. He settled for mediocrity because it was easy.
A year later he is disgusted with himself because he led this woman on and she became a semi-stalker, showing up at his work and home after her tried numerous times to dump her. He wonders why he feels so lousy when he should be happy.
“When we give our power away to another person in order to maintain a relationship built upon deception and/or compromising our values, it will most often lead to our feeling sad, angry, empty and ashamed of ourselves. Many times people are not honest with themselves and their lovers because the fear of being alone or telling the truth seems more real, risky and painful, than risking losing everything in order to create the life we want or to attract the kind of person we know we really deserve. You should never bullshit yourself or another in order to maintain a mediocre or unfulfilling relationship. In the end, you will only make yourself miserable and delay or prevent the arrival of what you really want and deserve.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne