How to succeed and avoid the mistakes some men make trying to lose their virginity, get laid or get girlfriends. I would say the biggest hindrance to succeeding with women for men who are unsuccessful with women is, acting needy, weak, clingy or insecure. Men who are unsuccessful with women simply communicate through their words and actions that deep down they don’t deserve the women they want. They in essence communicate, “I know I am not worthy of you Your Highness, but I was hoping that you will like me anyways.” Women want to be with a man who feels and acts like he deserves her. Who wants to date someone who is constantly communicating that they don’t think they are good enough for you? It might be cute at first, but it gets old really quick. Most women have realized that men who act needy and clingy are also the same men who turn into stalkers, psychos and abusive control freak boyfriends. That is why when a man exhibits those kind of behaviors, most women will give him no slack at all on making those kinds of mistakes and reject him outright. Why? Women are simply not going to take the chance and put themselves into situations with men who may cause them physical or emotional harm by being forced to do something against their free will because they are physically unable to resist. The following is an e-mail from a 23-year-old virgin who wonders why he’s never had a girlfriend, and why it never seems to go anywhere with the women he dates. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
My name is Faisal, I am 23 years old and I am from the UK. In my 23 years of life experience, I have seen a lot. I have met many different girls. I just don’t understand how most guys my age even have solid relationships going on for them. I, at this stage of my life, haven’t found the right person. Is this normal? (You need to meet and date a lot of different women to figure out what you really want and what’s most important to you. Otherwise, you’re just buying into the myth of “the one.”) Let me put it another way. I have not even had a serious relationship with a woman. All my encounters that I have had, slowly died off. (That tells me you are doing something to turn women off. Therefore, your approach needs to change.) I haven’t had a serious, committed, long term, person in my life, ever? This worries me a lot, because I am going to explain why I think it is.
I grew up listening to Hindi music. In our culture a lot of the music affects us emotionally, and I think through listening to such music affected me in an indirect way, I am not sure. (That sounds like bullshit to me. You simply are not employing a successful strategy to help you seduce the women you like, and who like you.) Anyway, with the opposite sex Corey, if I do not have regular contact with a female, it affects me. (That is your problem. You act needy and clingy when you don’t hear from a woman. Therefore, you start to chase in order to gain certainty of where you stand. This communicates that you do not feel you deserve them. When you call or text a woman, you must have the balls to wait to hear from her. Some women purposefully wait to call you back to see how you handle it. You must outwait and outwit women.) I get upset, why is this? (You have been conditioned to believe and assume a woman will not like or want you. Therefore, you’re always looking for it to happen. When you become fearful, you chase and confront the women with an attitude of they’re purposefully doing this to you. This will turn any woman off and make her think you are a stalker. Act like a stalker, get rejected.) I feel alone most of the time if I do not get a call or a text from a girl. This is regardless of if I am with her. She doesn’t need to be a girlfriend, but as long as the communication is there, I am ok. Why is this? (Neediness, low self-esteem, cold unaffectionate parents who only yell at you when you do something wrong, but who never make you feel loved, lovable or special, etc. Therefore, you assume and never give the women you like a chance to develop feelings for you. Women fall for a man slowly over time. If you’re constantly calling, nagging her and acting needy, instead of hanging back like a man who is successful with women does, her feelings CAN NEVER develop because you are always making her feel uncomfortable by not waiting for her to get back to you. When she does, you’re probably usually pissed off she did not call you sooner. Science has proven that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear.)
I just do not understand. I am a mature guy for my age. (Not when it comes to acting mature around women. You act like a needy little boy who needs love. Not a man who has love to give.) I have a part time job which is sixteen hours, and I live with my parents. I do not think I am an ugly looking guy. I just do not know what it is about me. (Your approach sucks.) I would like to think I am confident. (Confidence comes from doing something you know how to do, and doing it really well. When it comes to women, you are a novice. Confidence comes from talking to women and other strangers to improve your social skills, getting phone numbers, calling to set up dates, going out on dates and seducing women at the end of, or during your dates.) I am not introverted or shy, but why Corey, why have I not met the girl yet? (You simply have not practiced what I teach on enough women to become good at meeting and dating the kind of women you want.) Why have I not found myself a girlfriend? (You need to change your approach because what you are doing is not working.) Being a virgin at 23 is crazy man! I need your advice! I am not asking for much. I am a good guy. I deserve a good girl. (You need to read my book ASAP!!! You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)
Please help me Corey,
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