Here’s why ex girlfriends start calling weeks after they broke up with you & how to respond so you get what you want. I get a lot of e-mail from guys who have been dumped or blown off by women they were dating. Universally I would say that most of them simply want to know how to get the ex back or rekindle things once they’ve gone cold. A lot of the situations involve a woman who is a cheater. When a guy gets dumped, he’s often not thinking very clearly or objectively. The bottom line is that when a woman changes the terms of your relationship that are not to your liking, the only thing you can do is say, “no thanks” and walk away and never look back. Nine times out of 10, a few weeks or even sometimes a few months later after you’ve completely walked away, you’ll get a call from her. The key to rekindling things when she calls is to be prepared on how to properly respond to the phone calls so she does what you want. The following is an e-mail from a reader who got dumped by his girlfriend a month ago. On top of that, she cheated on him. She’s recently started calling him, but he’s having a hard time getting her to commit to meeting up with him. In my comments which are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail, I detail the perfect texting techniques to get her to start coming over to his place and sleeping with him again with no strings attached:
I found out that my ex was cheating on me so we broke up. After a month she called me with the excuse that she saw a picture of me with someone else. She was saying that I deserved better and that I should look for someone else after a 15 minute conversation. (Translation: “Don’t get serious with someone else because I may want you back as long as you stop acting like a little weak bitch.”) We decided to meet up the next day. I wasn’t sure about that, but because I still had feelings for her I accepted. She told me that she was sorry for everything I went through, and that she didn’t know why she did that. (Bullshit! She did it because she had low romantic interest in you and she has no integrity. Girls with no integrity or loyalty will cheat on you when their interest level drops.) Since then she calls me once or twice a week to see how I’m doing. When I try to set a date with her, she just can’t make it. I have tried twice to meet her, but with no luck. I send her messages, but I get no reply. (Chasing women guarantees rejection. She cheated on you and dumped you. When you start chasing her you communicate that you are ok with the fact she is a liar and a cheater. This communicates to her that you are ok with how she treats you. She knows she can have you back and therefore she does not want you because you are not being a challenge. You don’t reward bad behavior.) I don’t call her at all. (You just said she does not respond to your messages and now you say you don’t call her, which is it? I think you are embellishing things to make yourself look better. I think what really is going on is once she started calling you, you started trying to force things by calling her. Therefore, she acts flakey.) She is the one calling. If she has no interest in me then what the hell is she calling for? (She may want to rekindle things, however, you are over-reacting to her calls and trying to make things happen faster than she is willing to go. Stop calling her and don’t initiate any contact. When she does call, respond a few hours later with texting ONLY!!! If it’s after 7 pm, then respond to her calls/messages/texts/etc. the next day. If she does not bring up getting together after 3 or 4 texts back and forth, then text this: “So I suppose you want to get together?” and wait for her to respond. If she says anything other than “yes,” then text, “It was nice chatting with you, but I got to run. Keep in touch.” and then leave the conversation. If she says “yes,” then text this: “What nights are you free over the next week?” and let her respond. Then, when she texts back the days she is available, pick one that you are also available and text this assuming for example she and you are free on a Wednesday: “Drinks? My place. Wednesday @ 7 pm?” and wait for her to respond. Then text: “See you then, I gotta run!” and leave the conversation. Keep it to texting, no calls. You’re busy. She’ll either agree to come over to your place, or she won’t. ALWAYS GIVE HER THE SAME RESPONSE. The phone/texting/messaging is only to set definite appointments. If she says she’ll have to get back to you, then always text this response to that BS controlling answer of hers: “Let’s just do it some other time when your schedule is more open.” When she comes over, after about five minutes of chatting say, “I think you need to come over here and kiss me.” Then close the deal in the bedroom.)
I’m trying to get over her by going out and meeting girls. (Awesome! Continue to do that so you can meet plenty of new ladies to practice your skills on and master all three methods of seduction.) I made out with a couple, but I’m still feeling empty and thinking about her a lot. (Keep hooking up with other women and stop worrying about your ex. She’s not good girlfriend, exclusive relationship or marriage material. Only friends with benefits or sex playmate material.) I’m going to the gym, taking some dancing classes, reading books, but then after a week when she calls, I go back to zero. (That’s why you need plenty of other women in your life.) I just feel like all of this time was wasted because when she calls, I just want to see her. (You need to hang back and outwait her while keeping yourself occupied with finding a high quality lady to have in your life which your ex is not. Repetition is the mother of skill.) I just started reading your book, but I need a straight answer. I really don’t know what to think of what she is trying to do. I’m a bit lost. Please, I need some help. (You just need to stop calling and initiating contact with her completely. If you clean your approach up with the texting approach I detailed above, you’ll get the power back and she’ll probably start coming over to your place and sleeping with you again. Don’t take her out on dates. Have her come over for drinks, cook dinner together and hook up only. Save your money for high integrity women who deserve it. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) Thanks Corey.
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