Why I don’t care what you or other people think about me, why you should learn to think, live, and act this way in your own life, and how being this way will enable you to reach your full potential, love, and value yourself.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who doesn’t know me, yet he thinks he has a right to impose his narrow-minded, short sighted, archaic, bible-nazi dogma on to me, so I conform and act the way he thinks I should. He has obviously adopted somebody else’s belief system regarding what words are, and are not, appropriate to use. He has a typical spiritually arrogant attitude of religious people who tend to think they are better than everyone else who doesn’t believe what they believe. He tries to use condescension, insults, and the religious views he was given by someone else, to convince me of why I need to change who I am so he doesn’t feel uncomfortable.
He has simply foolishly adopted someone else’s belief system, and he goes through life trying to get everyone he meets or encounters, to conform to his worldview and belief system. I lower the boom on him and let him know why and how his attitude and approach is inappropriate, uninvited, and unacceptable. As I have addressed this topic before in my newsletter titled, “I Have A Potty Mouth,” I discuss the importance of knowing yourself and resisting the influence of other weak minded people like him, so you can reach your full potential and live your own truth, because you can’t be happy when you try to live your life according to other people’s expectations.
My name is Bob, and I’ve been following you for a couple of months and have watched a good number of your video coaching newsletters. Let me first off say that you definitely know what you are talking about when it comes to understanding women and helping guys to be able to attract and keep quality women. Following your advice has led me to several “A-ha!” moments, has helped my dating life considerably in just the last month, and I am very grateful!
I know that you might possibly get pissed off if one of your subscribers were to offer you advice in return, but to quote Proverbs 9:7-8, “Do not reprove a scoffer, lest he hate you. Reprove a wise man, and he will love you.” I’m hoping that you are the wise man. (I don’t care what you think. If you don’t like what you are hearing, change the channel. I appreciate the people who are grateful, and those are the people I like to help. I’m building a community of like-minded people. If you apply the things I teach, you’ll see that they’ll work for you.)
When I first started watching your videos, I would watch perhaps 2 per day. I find them to contain a lot of good content. After a while though, your consistent use of profanity began to wear on me to the point where I rarely watch anymore. (Somebody imposed their narrow-minded belief system on you, and you were too gullible to believe and follow it. The bottom line is, you’re here looking for validation, and you’re not getting it from me. I know what I’m talking about. What I teach works.) My circle of friends is not one that uses profanity often, and I know plenty of guys who I would like to be able to recommend your channel to because I think it would benefit them in their ability to effectively interact with women, but I know that they would feel the same way that I do, stop watching, and ultimately negatively judge me for recommending your channel. I believe as a life coach and a professional, you would benefit tremendously from greatly reducing, or even eliminating, your use of profanity in the content you produce. (Yet my business continually grows at 20% a month. I’m sorry, but the evidence just doesn’t back up that bullshit.) In my opinion, since you present yourself as a professional life coach, the frequent use of profanity, while it does make things casual, undermines some of your professional image. (This is how I am. I am authentic and real, and people appreciate the way I am. People will love you for being bold and real. You shouldn’t live your life according to someone else’s expectations.) Now, I am not some preachy saint, and that’s not my angle here. I’ve had my moments. My main motivation for writing you is admittedly selfish. I would find your content a lot more enjoyable and therefore useful. I also think your viewership and visibility would be greatly increased in general. Despite my saying this, I will continue to follow along and am happy to have found your channel.
I hope to hear from you, and would greatly appreciate your thoughts on this. Thanks again for all of your help! (At the end of the day, I don’t really give a fuck what you think about me. Either love me for who I am, and apply the things I teach, or go somewhere else. You don’t believe in yourself, and you don’t believe in what you believe, and that’s why you are testing me and trying to see if you can change who I am. You must be who you are. What you should be is not important.)
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From my heart to yours,
Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Coach, Entrepreneur
“You must be who you are. What you should be is not important. Words only have the meanings that we give them. Most people tend to speak and use profanity freely when they are around people who are closest to them, and who know them the best. Political correctness is a bunch of bullshit created by a small minority of weak minded and inept people who think that, by forcing their shallow and narrow minded view of the world onto the rest of society, that somehow they’re going to make the world a better place. Like Sun Tzu said, thousands of years ago, “A leader leads by example, not by force.” Truth is self-evident. It simply is and needs no validation or explanation. It’s superiority is ever present. Like Ghandi said, “You must be the change you want to see in the world.” If someone believes their way of living is so superior to everyone else’s, then they should live it and lead by example. If their way really is superior, then eventually enough people will show up and choose to live the same way. If people don’t support and accept you for who you are, the way you are, and instead try to change you or get you to conform to their worldview, you should give them one of two choices: 1) either love and accept you the way you are, 2) get fucking lost. True friends and people who truly love you, will love and celebrate you as you are, without trying to change you.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne