Why Is She So Flakey?

Why women act flakey by asking to see you, making plans but then flaking at the last minute and canceling. What to do when a woman has repeatedly flaked on you, but continues contacting you saying that she wants to see you.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss three different emails from three different viewers. The first email is from a viewer who got dumped by his girlfriend about 18 months ago for acting like a “dickhead” in his own words. She does all of the pursuing now, but she flakes and cancels their dates about 50% of the time. I diagnose what’s really going on and what he needs to do to tweak his game.

The second email is from a viewer who mistakenly believes men should not apologize to women when they screw up. I discuss when it’s appropriate and how to handle it so you don’t look weak and needy. The third email is from a woman who has been using what I teach on the men she is dating with great results. Other coaches and authors whose work she studies, teach that the woman should let the man do all the calling and pursuing. She has had experiences where she has pursued men in the past, but they lost interest. I discuss how to strike the proper balance so she gets what she wants.

“People who are emotionally messed up, afraid of commitment or who have self esteem issues, will often display signs of high attraction and interest in you. They may even push for a commitment and ask to spend time with you, only to flake out on you at the last minute. This behavior will be exacerbated and only made worse if you have previously made a lot of mistakes, acted needy and desperate, and said and done things to hurt them emotionally. In other words, if you finally fix your bad habits and bad behaviors, they may have become too emotionally anchored to the negative way you used to be to get past, believe and accept the way you are now. If you have negatively emotionally anchored a present or former lover to the way you used to be, who also happens to be a bit of a fruit loop and messed emotionally themselves, it will be almost impossible to have any kind of healthy or effortless relationship with them. In that case, it is best to move on and start fresh with someone who does not know you so you can do everything right from the beginning.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne