Why Men Need To Put Women In Their Place When Necessary

Why men need to call out and put women in their place when they misbehave.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email success update from a viewer whose previous email I answered in, “Canceled Dates, Flaky Behavior & Inconsistencies In Her Stories.” He shares how canceling Valentine’s Day plans with her and backing off caused to her have an attitude change and thank him for putting her in her place because she was out of line. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne, and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “Why Men Need To Put Women In Their Place When Necessary.”

Well, this particular email is kind of a success update. I did a video Newsletter I think it was a few weeks, probably after, Valentine’s Day. And so this particular guy, that email/ Video Newsletter was titled “Canceled Dates, Flaky Behavior & Inconsistencies In Her Stories.” And so in that particular Video Newsletter, he was kind of getting jerked around by this girl, and he just decided to cancel Valentine’s Day with her, and kind of went into No Contact to give her an attitude change.

And so he shares how he basically put her in her place. And not only that, she actually thanked him for that. She respected him because he was willing to stand up to her and let her know and she was out of line. And he does Jiu Jitsu/ MMA. He works out. And so she also said that makes her feel safe and like he can protect her. So it’s a good email to go through because you don’t want to be a doormat. You don’t want to let women walk all over you.

You don’t want to be soft and squishy. And the problem with the nice guys is the nice guys put up with this. And then what happens is the behavior just gets more out of control because you never set any boundaries, and you never put a girl in her place and let her know that she’s out of line with her behavior. You see this a lot with really liberal women and that there’s just so much boss girl energy because they’re just with squishy dudes, even though they’re attracted to conservative guys.

They can’t deal with it. They can’t deal with dealing with a man. And so they have all these beta male orbiters and nice guys that are not sleeping with hanging out. And then they go and they hook up with Chad Thunder Cock, and then they complain about them to the beta males it’s pretty funny to watch. I see videos on Twitter all the time. These feminist style boss girls, they’re all Democrats and they just talk like men and what they’re really dying for is for daddy to put them in their place because they don’t have strong men.

They don’t have men that have more masculinity than they do in their lives, and they’re dying and crying out for it. That’s why they make these videos on Twitter to get attention. They’re looking for a real man. So this email is from a guy who behaved like a real man. Put this girl in her place and she’s purring like a kitty now.

Viewer Email:

Hey Coach, 

Just a quick update on an email you made a YouTube video about. The name of the YouTube video was “Canceled Dates, Flaky Behavior & Inconsistencies In Her Stories.” Ten days passed since I canceled the Valentine’s date with her. She texted me to see how I was doing.

So they didn’t talk for ten days. That was No Contact. He canceled Valentine’s Day. I can’t remember specifically what he said. You can go back and watch the Video, it’s on my Website with the Email Analysis, it’s all laid out there. And so he cancelled it so he didn’t hear anything for ten days. And back when I was connecting all these dots, I remember the one girlfriend in particular, one of the great loves of my life. The one who had the little girl when we first started dating.

She’s almost 30 now, which I can’t believe. But I remember like when I would do things, I’d act too beta, too soft, too unwilling to stand up to her. I mean, you gotta remember she grew up with three older brothers. They were always breaking her balls and teasing her and calling her out and not putting up with her bullshit. And when you act soft and squishy. And then her dad was a cop. Her cousin’s a cop. Two of her brothers are cops.

It’s like everybody in her family was in law enforcement, worked for the local government, fire department, those kinds of things. So she was used to being around really strong men. That didn’t take any bullshit from her. And when a guy doesn’t know any better, he really likes the girl, he’s extra nice to her because he doesn’t want to lose her. He doesn’t want to upset her and drive her away. But sometimes you just gotta put women in their place when they’re out of line. Because if you don’t, they’ll keep doing it. They’ll keep misbehaving like a child, always trying to see what they can get away with.

Ten days passed since I canceled the Valentine’s date with her. She texted me to see how I was doing, and she said she wanted to see me.

An attitude change, jerking him around, blowing him off to, “I want to see you.” And so my ex girlfriend, I forgot to mention, she would hold out for about 12 days. That was like the max. And of course when that had happened, I was like, “man, I haven’t heard from her. Is she ever going to reach out again?” And that was the worst feeling in the world. But when you go through that enough and it happens enough times, you kind of get numb and immune to it and unattached. And then when you see that she always comes back when she’s out of line, then when she comes back. She’s always more attractive, more attracted to you, more submissive, more playful, more girly, more willing to do what you want and not to be a pain in the butt.

She came to my place, and we had the Indoor Olympics. 

Hang out, have fun, hook up. That’s it. That’s a simple formula. A man’s job is to create an opportunity for sex to happen.

The following week she brought getting together again and we met. Here comes something I want to emphasize because you preach about it a lot. She asked me what are 3 things I loved about her. I responded back by asking her the same question.

Remember what’s in The Book? Whoever is asking the questions is the one leading the interactions. You’re the boss. You’re leading things. That’s why it’s always better in a case like that, answer a question with a question. It helps you be mysterious. And in another way, it’s you’re doing what you want. In other words, you’re saying she’s asking you a question, but you turn around and you basically ask her the same question. You tell her what to do. You are daddy. You’re her daddy. You’re her daddy now.

She said these exact words “I love that you put me in my place. Sometimes I start acting out and you tell me no.”

That’s what daddy does.

I need to be put in my place.

These are her fucking words. So let me do this in girls voice.

“I love that you put me in my place. Sometimes I start acting out and you tell me no I need to be put in my place”. I was thinking to myself. Fucking Coach, he was right again. 

Well, might not always be right, but I’m never wrong.

She also said she loved that I worked out, did martial arts and she felt safe with me. She felt like I can protect her. 

What a compliment. He’s acting like a man. That’s the polarity. That’s what attracts us to one another. That’s why these liberal women are all crazy ass cat ladies.

The third thing she loved about me was that I wasn’t affected with some difficulties I had at work because she wouldn’t know how to handle it. 

I talk about that a lot. You know how women are. “You gotta talk about your feelings. You know. You gotta emote.” We’re just not built like that. And here you have a woman saying, “I don’t know how to deal with it.” In other words, don’t make your girl your momma or your therapist. Don’t bring your fucking problems to her.

Share them with your therapist, your psychologist, your psychotherapist, and your guy friends who you are certain that they will keep their fucking mouth shut and not tell anybody. If you’re feeling weak or scared or you don’t know how to handle things, don’t tell your girl. Here you have a woman admitting I don’t know how to handle it because she’s a woman. She’s not built to handle it. You’re supposed to handle it. That’s the masculine role in the relationship.

So Coach, she confirmed some things you talk about, which are:

1. Put her in her place

Set and enforce healthy boundaries. If she’s out of line, tell her she’s out of line. If she’s doing things that are inappropriate, you need to tell her to knock it off. And if she doesn’t stop, she gets the gift of missing you. You go and do something else with other people. You hop in the car and you go for a drive. Go hang out with the boys. Go to the gun range zero your pistols and your rifles.

Do guy things. Go to the gym, go train, go do Jiu Jitsu. Jump out of a perfectly good airplane and skydive, hang glide. Go surfing. Go mountain biking. Do masculine things. If she treats you right, she gets the gift of your time. And if she’s an ass, she gets the gift of missing you.

2. Make her feel safe

We did a video, myself and The Girls, it was probably about a year ago right now. It was about a woman, I think she was a therapist or something like that. And she was doing a video, like a TikTok style video. It was only a couple of minutes long, and she was saying, the reason why us women don’t want to sleep with you guys is because you don’t make us feel safe. We don’t feel safe. Because in other words, you’re not acting masculine and manly enough. You’ve got to be more masculine than she is. Again, they’re attracted to the differences, the polarity.

3. Be her mountain, nothing can move you

Again, that’s why you solve your own problems and then after the fact, you can tell her about the challenge you had and how you overcame it, and how you came up with a solution. When you’re going through the shit don’t tell her, “I don’t know how to handle it. I might lose my business. I might lose my job. I don’t know how I’m gonna pay my bills. Oh my God, I’m so afraid. Mommy, let me suck your boobies.” That’s unattractive. They don’t like that. Don’t do that. You’d say, “babe, you know, I was worried there. There was a lot of shit going sideways in my life last week, but meditated, made some phone calls, contemplated, hung out in the man cave, had a little whiskey, a cigar, and poof, the solution hit me.

So I implemented it. And now things are working even better.” She’s like, “oh, you’re so amazing and brave.” Oh, I got two of the girl puppies with me. And I don’t know if you guys can hear it in the mic, they’re “argh”, they’re play-fighting. I was going to bring them here and so you could see one of the other ones. She is really pretty and spotted, but they’re still (puppies & training) pissing and shitting all the time. So I just don’t want to deal with that making videos. But they’re cute and they’re a lot of fun. But it’s a lot of poop. A lot of pee. They’re six weeks now.

Anyway, nothing of what she said changes the fact that she is dishonest.

That was another thing.

I am not planning to take her on dates anymore, but she can come to my place when I don’t have other things to do.

Thanks, Coach, for everything. You are the best!

Bob

So this particular woman, you know, like I said, I can’t remember the specifics of this Video Newsletter because it was probably close to a month ago or maybe longer. And so now he says that it kind of jars my memory a little bit. And that was part of the problem, because, again, that title of that Video Newsletter is, “Canceled Dates, Flaky Behavior & Inconsistencies In Her Stories” So she’s jerking them around, canceling dates, blowing them off. That’s why he canceled Valentine’s Day, because he was trying to give her his time and attention. And Valentine’s Day is a special thing.

That means that you’re the most important girl in the world, or she’s the most important girl in the world to you. And then the inconsistencies in her story. So we know she’s a liar. But fuck buddy, friends with benefits, sex playmate. Wear your raincoat. Practice safe sex. Don’t want to be slipping one past the goalie. And so with a woman like that, you don’t call, you don’t text, you don’t reach out. There’s no reason to take her out or do anything. It’s just hang out, have fun, and hook up when she reaches out. Simple as that. It’s good practice for him because the woman that he’s going to really end up with, if he’s looking for a long term relationship, this helps him spot them.

This helps him understand which girls are for fun, which this one, she’s for fun. And then there’s other girls that are for family and long term relationships. But you can have a hell of a good time with a girl like this, and she’ll adore you. But because she’s a liar and she’s displaying a lot of low character behavior, you got to be able to separate the two. So good job, Bob. On turning things around, putting her in her place and now she’s kind of eating out of your hand. But now you know what you’re dealing with. Now you know that you don’t try to turn the hoe into a housewife. That’s just a fact.

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