Why Race Doesn’t Matter In Dating Unless You Have A Victim Mentality

Why race doesn’t matter in dating unless you have a victim mentality.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer whose mindset has become corrupted by the woke mind virus. He is obsessed with race and that being the reason why most white women don’t want to date or sleep with him. The ones who do only treat it as a novelty and short term hookup according to him. However, I discuss the harsh reality of why women choose to date and sleep with one guy over another and how his mindset is ruining his vibe. Victim mentality is weakness and makes excuses for one’s shortcomings and blames others for their lack of success. This makes taking corrective action impossible. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Members Only Newsletter is, “Why Race Doesn’t Matter Unless You Have A Victim Mentality.”

So this particular viewer, he’s been following my work for a while now, I assume he’s a black guy. And the problem that he’s running into, he says, is that the majority of white women. So I assume he likes white girls and he’s trying to date white girls. He says 80% of them do not date interracially, and he says the ones that do, it’s a novelty and a quick hook up, but they don’t stick around. They certainly never introduce him to their parents or their family. And so, you can tell this guy’s gotten seduced by the Hegelian dialectic.

We’ve done videos on that in the Members Area. You guys can check those out. So that’s from Hegel. If you’ve ever studied the Hegelian dialectic, it’s basically problem, reaction, solution. And that’s what the elite do. The globalists, the Marxists, the communists. It’s all about the accumulation of power. And so, the fault lines in society, they really just do this with all kinds of issues to keep the friction going. And one of them is, especially ever since Barack Obama came into office, they talk about race constantly, whereas before Barack Obama came into office, it’s like nobody really gave a shit about it anymore.

It was not a big deal. You can even look at the stats on it. Where race was an issue and then how it’s an issue. Now you can see it just shoots right up after Obama came into office. And you know, when you study Marxism, when you study Engels, I mean, we did a documentary on that called, “Why Socialism?” And you can see how going back over the last century or so, how the elite. Because really, when you look at the history of communism, Marxism, socialism, it was really created and financed by the trust fund babies of a bunch of rich people.

So these kids grow up with a silver spoon in their mouth, and they want to help everybody in society. And all what they really want to do is they want to rule. They want to run and regulate every aspect of people’s lives, because one of our six human needs is significance. In other words, they want to feel important. I mean, all you got to do is look at the Rockefeller family. Grandpa Rockefeller, the original one, Standard Oil, he was the one that made all the money for the family.

And then his son continued it. And then the five grand sons, you know, David Rockefeller being the most famous and infamous. You know, he was basically third generation Rockefeller born. He went to the best schools and just looked down at his nose through all of the unwashed masses and the little people. And he wanted to bring everyone under one world, one government, United Nations, do away with the nation state. And basically him and his other fellow trust fund babies would run and regulate every aspect of our lives.

All we got to do is look at the World Economic Forum, which is the current incarnation of the accumulation of power by the global elite, and they’re very good at causing problems in society and it causes a reaction in the population. And then they go, we need a solution. And of course, they always got a ready made solution, which means we lose more of our freedom and we give up more of our power to them. And so, we see this a lot. You know, even Elon Musk talks about this. And so, this particular emailer has kind of fallen victim to the woke mind virus.

And the the problem with communism, Marxism, socialism is that it all plays upon the envy and the greed and the jealousy that human beings have, and it seeks to accentuate that. And blow it up and make it a bigger issue than it really is, because the Marxist wants to run and regulate every aspect of our lives. And so therefore, in order for us to willingly give up our freedom is that they have to convince us that we’re powerless to help ourselves, that we’re powerless to shape and change our destiny.

If we can’t get what we want, it’s because we’re of the wrong race, or we have the wrong skin color. If we can’t become successful, or have the money that we want, it’s because the rich people are hogging all the resources. And so, when you adopt this philosophy and this mindset, which it feels a lot better that way, it’s much easier to be lazy. And 80% of the population is just lazy people. They’re really not willing to do very much to help themselves. So it’s very easy to convince the masses that the reason they can’t get laid, or they can’t get a good job, or they can’t make the money they want to make, is because they’re disadvantaged and they’re stuck in some victim group.

And therefore only Marxism, communism, socialism, collectivism is going to save them. And so what that does is causes them to give up on themselves. And they don’t really do much to shape and change their destiny. They just kind of float along. And so whatever you believe about yourself and your capabilities, that’s going to become your reality. In this particular case, this guy has adopted this belief because he’s probably going through the university system, that the reason most white women don’t want to go out with him is because of his skin color.

Despite the fact that our society is full of interracial couples and very successful, very wealthy interracial couples. Despite that, there’s evidence all around us of people that that didn’t matter. If you adopt that philosophy, then the vibe you’re going to give off is the same vibe that the beta male is going to give off. “Oh, there’s something wrong with me. I’m not good enough. She’s probably not going to like me. I’m a loser.” And before you even start talking to a girl, you’re already defeated. You’ve already given up. So with that in mind, let’s go through his email.

Viewer’s Email:

Hi Corey,

I have been following your work for awhile now & even read your book a few times. I understand that the book is fundamentally universal to attract women of all types but I think that race/culture plays a bigger role in dating than you acknowledge.

That’s totally fucking bullshit. That is weak ass thinking. You have been hypnotized by the woke mind virus. Now, not every woman is going to be attracted to you and it doesn’t matter what her fucking skin color is. The bottom line is, most women that you’re going to be into are not going to be into you. And so what you’re doing is you’re starting to say, you’re starting to believe because this is what you’ve been taught, that the real reason most of the women don’t like you is because your skin color. And that is the mentality of a loser.

And that is exactly what the jerk offs at the World Economic Forum and everybody else want you to think. Because they’re going to come save you with DEI. Diversity, Equity and Inclusion. Didn’t earn it basically is a new acronym that people are calling it for. And all it does is piss people off. I mean, what’s happening now is the economy is going the other way. All these D.I. Departments, everybody’s getting fired, because they don’t add any value to the company. All they end up doing is making people in the company hate each other because of their race.

Because when you focus on people’s differences, whatever you focus on is going to expand. So if you want to focus on and be a victim and be a bitch, then yeah, adopt this philosophy that the reason that white women, most white women don’t want to date you is because you’re a skin color. Now, maybe some of them don’t. Who cares? At the end of the day, maybe some women don’t like you because you got a big fucking nose, or you got big ears. Or you got big feet, or you’re short or you’re bald or you’re ugly, or your eyes are too spaced far apart, or you have too many freckles on your face.

I got teased mercilessly when I was a kid by anybody and everybody. It didn’t matter what the race was. Everybody teased me about my freckles. “Oh. I can connect the dots. Oh, I can draw a drawing on your back. Oh, I can draw on your arm.” And girls would sit in class and do that. They would connect the dots on me. I didn’t really care. But when I was young, that really affected my self-esteem because it made me think I was ugly and nobody wanted me. Well, if you think you’re ugly and nobody wants you, and then you go talking to a girl. And what are they most attracted to? Confidence.

And what are you communicating? You’re communicating the opposite of confidence. So they’re not going to want to be with you. And so, if you’re approaching women and you’re assuming, “oh, they’re not going to like me because I’m black or I’m a different race” or whatever. You’ve already lost. You might as well not even approach. You’ve already given up on yourself. All you’re really trying to find out. “Does she like me enough to want to go out and date me?” That’s all you want to know. “Are you in or are you out?” And most of them are going to be out.

And if you start adopting this bullshit mentality, then you’re shooting yourself in the foot and you’re not going to have any success or not very lasting success. You have to learn how to act attractive. Again, if what you said here, this nonsense that you put in this email, if that were true, you wouldn’t see interracial couples that do very well. They’re everywhere. They’re everywhere you look. I live in South Florida, and anybody and everybody pretty much dates each other. I don’t give a shit. A hot woman is a hot woman. And some, most girls are not going to like me. Most girls have always not liked me.

I don’t take that personally, but all I want to know when I’m single and I meet somebody is like, “does she like me enough to want to go out and date me? She in or she out? Do we connect? Do I like her? Is she nice to me? Is she easygoing? Easy to get along with? Is she fun? Is she playful? Does she have a good attitude? Is she optimistic and positive and fun? Or is she an insufferable cunt?” That’s all you really want to know. But when you start adopting this kind of mentality, this is going to wreck your life.

This is going to prevent you from achieving the things you want. Because if you adopt this philosophy and you like white women, well, you’re going to have a hard time dating white women. And then that’ll probably spill over into the jobs that you’re going, “oh, I didn’t get hired for that job because they don’t like my skin color.” Maybe they just didn’t like you because you’re not a nice person. Maybe you weren’t very charming and playful. Maybe you didn’t come across as competent and confident.

Based on the stats, the majority of white women over 80% do not date interracially.

From my experience the white women that I have hooked up with & dated never wanted anything more than that or want to bring me back to the family due to the parents being ultra conservative.

I would say what happened is, if they were willing to date and sleep with you, and it didn’t go any further than that, then the attraction, instead of going up, it went down. That’s what happened. And so, this is your cope. This is your excuse for the fact. This is what keeps you from improving your game, because you’re like, “oh, well, they only stuck around for a short period of time. It must be because of my skin color.” Well, what does that do? That causes you to give up, that causes you to stop really looking at your game and how you’re interacting with women.

And the fact of life is, attraction is not a choice. If they’re attracted to you enough to sleep with you and date you, and then eventually they disappear, well, their interest went down instead of up, so it went in the wrong way. And so you have to figure out what you’re doing and saying to turn women off that were originally willing to sleep with you. Because this sentence here is just a cope. That’s a cope that keeps you stuck. And that’s what they want. That’s what the elite want. They want you to give up, and they want you to be defeated. Because then you’re really easy to manipulate and control, and you’ll believe whatever the fucking TV tells you to believe.

I understand it is a numbers game no matter who you are but being a minority, the game is two times is hard because we are already stereotyped before we open our mouths.

Well, again, that is total bullshit. I got teased mercilessly because of my skin, because of my freckles. From the time I was a little boy, even as I got older. So it’s like, give me a break. You can say people messed with me because of my skin color, because my skin doesn’t look like most people. I got freckles everywhere. And some girls are like, “they’re so cute.” But ones that don’t like my freckles. It’s like, whatever, what can I do? They don’t like my eye color. They don’t like my nose. They don’t like the sound of my voice. Whatever, I don’t care.

And, you know, being a guy that grew up with dudes that were really successful with women, it was very frustrating to see that. Because we would go out and girls would throw themselves at them. And me, I wasn’t as outgoing as they were. I wasn’t as charming, wasn’t as playful, wasn’t as fun natured, wasn’t as confident. I learned to be that as I got older, when I started learning what the subtle nuances were that made them successful. Versus me being unsuccessful at the time.

But the fact that I was willing to learn and willing to recognize as, remember what Confucius said, “real knowledge is to know the extent of one’s ignorance.” And that’s something that you should really be contemplating. What is the extent of your own ignorance on these things? What is the extent that you’ve been hypnotized by propaganda that’s caused you to already give up on yourself, being as young as you are? I can tell you’re young. He’s in college.

Being in college and going to parties I would have to work twice as hard to get the same girls my white peers would get.

Well. I had to work ten times as hard to get the girls when I would go out my friends. And it’s like within a matter of minutes they’d be making out with a girl. And when I was younger, when I was your age, I didn’t understand what the fuck was going on. That would happen to me every once in a while. And what was my story? “Oh, I must be ugly. Oh, it must be because of my freckles. They must not like me because of my freckles.” It’s like, no, it wasn’t acting like enough of a man. Granted, if I was even better looking than they were. I would have had a better chance.

But at the end of the day, I had friends that were super good looking and they were great at getting their foot in the door. But after a few weeks of dating, the girls would figure out that they were just a bitch and start walking all over them. And then they would lose respect and either dump them or cheat on them. So good looks, money, they get you in the door. But if you act like a bitch, women are going to treat you like a bitch. And that’s universal. It doesn’t matter what your skin color is, but if you want to adopt that limiting belief, then that’s going to wreck your life. So are you going to be okay with going to your grave, going, “oh, the reason I couldn’t get laid is because white women don’t like me.” That’s absurd.

Being in college & going to parties I would have to work twice as hard to get the same girls my white peers would get & would make me feel like there was a sense of prejudice.

Again, this is what your TV’s been pumping out ever since 2008, when Barack Obama got sworn in office and started focusing on everybody’s differences. It’s all over the media and TV now. It’s one of the reasons why I love Dave Chappelle so much, because he don’t give a fuck. He insults everybody. Don’t take yourself so goddamn seriously. We’re all going to fucking die anyways.

How can I have abundance dating outside my race if most of the women I interact with write me off without them even getting chance to know me?

Thank you

Bob

Well, you should listen to what Morgan Freeman said about stop talking about. You’re focused on race because the propaganda got you focused on that. And you’ve been brainwashed and you don’t even realize it. And that is going to prevent you from reaching your full potential if you don’t let go of this bullshit belief. There are racist people in the world that aren’t going to like you because your skin color. So what? They won’t date you, they won’t fuck you. They won’t hire you. They won’t invest in your company. So what?

There is evidence all over society of people that had every disadvantage that you claim to have, and yet they’re fucking billionaires and dating people from other races. So the fact that you say this is again, this becomes your story, this becomes your cope for the fact that you’re not successful. It makes it easier for you to understand your world and live in it, because it’s not your fault. It’s the race thing. But at the end of the day, you’ve been dating and sleeping with white women. You just haven’t been able to keep them around. And if you’re not able to keep me around, that tells me you don’t really know The Book backwards and forwards.

Because if you knew The Book backwards and forwards and you’re getting women to sleep with you, they’re not leaving you because of race. They’re leaving you because you act like a bitch. That’s why they’re leaving you. You don’t act confident. You don’t act charming enough. You’re not able to sustain the attraction. Again because you got a victim mentality. You’ve already been defeated before you play the game. And as Sun Tzu said, “every battle is won before it is fought.” That’s definitely something to think about, Dude. You’ve already lost before you even enter the arena to play the game.

Because that’s in the back of your mind. “Oh, she’s probably not going to like me because I’m black. Oh, she’s probably not going to like me because I’m Latino or I’m Mexican or whatever the fuck, or I’m from the Middle East or I’m Indian.” I’ve heard it all before. At the end of the day, it’s all your mindset. Like attracts like. People that like the same things tend to like each other. And if you’re getting white women to go home with you and sleep with you, but then they don’t stick around for very long, you’re doing and saying things that are turning them off because women vote with their feet.

All they care about is how they feel about you. And so they started feeling pretty attracted to you in the beginning. But somewhere along the way, they no longer were attracted to you. So there’s something you’re doing and saying when you’re interacting with women that are turning them off. And I would say it’s not just the white women, it’s all women in general that you’re turning them off. And this is a common thing that heterosexual dudes have. It’s a common thing that lesbians have, and it’s a common thing that gay dudes have. If the sexual polarity is not there and it’s not balanced, you’re going to repulse the other person eventually. It’s as predictable as the sun coming up in the East and setting in the West, even if you don’t like it.

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