Why They Don’t Care About You

How to determine if someone really cares about you, or if they are just telling you what you want to hear so they can continue to get what they want from you.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss three emails from three different viewers. The first email is from a viewer who met a woman at his previous job. He initially intended to simply get laid and create another “notch in his bedpost,” but he developed feelings for her. Once he did, he started acting like a woman, talking about his feelings and trying to lock her down to a commitment. Shorty thereafter, she asked if they could lose the relationship label. Then a few days later she told him it was over. He also lost his job. Since then he has gotten a better paying job, lost 70 pounds and started dating a new woman. However, he still thinks about her and has a hard time getting over the fact she dumped him.

The second email is from a viewer who made the mistake of giving a woman he was dating unsolicited advice about her ex-husbands and sister, instead of simply listening. She promptly hung up on him and later sent him a nasty email. He asks what he should do now since she has blocked him on facebook and disappeared. The third email is from a woman whose boyfriend moved in with his ex-girlfriend. The ex-girlfriend claims her five month only baby is his. He says he will not tell his ex-girlfriend about her being his current girlfriend because he does not want to ruin his chances of getting money the ex has promised him. She understandably feels disrespected and is upset. She asks my opinion.

“People often will put up with all kinds of rude, disrespectful, manipulative and unloving behavior out of their desire to be loved by the person they love. Men and women both tend to project their high attraction level and romantic fantasies onto the person they desire. Out of their desire to be loved they will often ignore the fact they are being taken advantage of, used, and their affection and love are not reciprocated. They delude and lie to themselves hoping things will one day change, and their imperfect lover will magically become their ideal lover. The reality is, no one will ever do or say anything to you that you don’t invite them to do. When you put up with bad behavior and mistreatment, you are communicating that this is acceptable. When you stand up for yourself and are permanently willing to walk away from people who mistreat you, only then can you create the space for someone who is ideally suited for you, and who will treat you the way you want, and deserve to be treated.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne