Little girls tend to go to their fathers and sit in their laps for love and reassurance. When she becomes unsure of herself, afraid or upset, she will go sit in her daddy’s lap for love and reassurance. He is her rock, her unmovable Mountain that is always there and always accepts and loves her unconditionally. He makes her feel safe and comfortable. You should download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn the basics of approaching, dating & understanding what women really want in a man.
I remember a trip to the beach I took one time with a former girlfriend, her 7-year-old daughter and some family. During the day we were in the pool because it was hot. The father of my girlfriends daughter was never around very much. She was constantly disappointed by him. I remember the sad look on her face after her father would tell her he was not going to be seeing her when she wanted to see him. It made her feel like he did not love her. However, I was the father figure that took his place when he was not around, which was most of the time. As I was standing in the middle of the pool, my girlfriends daughter kept jumping from the side of the pool into my arms. It was more like she would fall into my arms so I would grab her and embrace her. She got in and out of the pool dozens of times to do this. She never tired of it.
I remember another time when I was picking up her daughter to take her for the day to Disney World, one of her favorite places. As I was driving to pick her up, she would call me to see where I was and how close I was. When I arrived at her grandmother’s house to pick her up, she said to me with a big beautiful smile on her face, “Stop! Wait there!” So I stopped as she started to run towards me. She jumped into my arms as I knelt down to catch her. I picked her up for a big hug and kiss. I loved that little munchkin, and still do today even though she’s almost 18 now! Time flies! She totally opened my heart and changed my life. Kids are our greatest teachers.
The important thing to understand about the love and relationship dynamic between little girls and their fathers and why it causes women to chase the men they desire, is they both crave the unconditional love and masculine presence of men they love or care about. When a woman contacts you by telephone, text, e-mail, instant message, etc., she is looking for you to communicate through your actions that she is loved, wanted and adored. When women become unsure of where they stand with you or when they miss you, they contact you so you can make it easy for them to get the love and reassurance they are seeking. So if a woman contacts you, you must assume it is because she wants you physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. She wants to be penetrated by you and your love. Obviously, little girls grow up and have adult relationships with the men they love. However, the dynamic of how women go about getting this love is similar to how they seek love and support from their fathers.
When a woman contacts you, she wants you in someway. If you really love and care about her, you will facilitate getting together. Women assume that if you do not facilitate getting together when they contact you, that you don’t care for them or want them. It does not matter what you say, what you promise in the future or what you did for them last week. If you don’t make a date or make room in your schedule for her right now, she will assume that you don’t love her that much anymore. When women do not feel that you love them, or love them enough, they will feel hurt and often become bitchy and resentful.
Think about what this means. Women will chase you if you give them the space to miss you by not chasing them. Your inaction will cause them to take some action to get confirmation that you care and desire them. In essence, all you really have to do is simply say yes to their advances. If a woman is chasing you, she can’t be getting rid of you. Why chase women when women not only are dying to chase you, but they’ve been training, conditioning, thinking, feeling and acting as the pursuer of masculine love & presence their whole lives? Men who chase women get rejected because the very act of chasing a woman, is a submissive feminine quality. Plus, it simply will not feel right to a woman if you chase her.
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