Why Women Seem To Understand The Dating Game Better Than Men

Why women seem to understand the dating & seduction game better than men.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who asks why it is that women seem to understand relationship dynamics better than most men. He wants to know what the cause is for most men being clueless on how attraction works and why a woman will choose one guy with less to offer over another who has money and looks.

My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

This particular email is from a viewer who wonders why men seem to be completely lost when it comes to women, and how women always seem to have the upper hand. Like one of the things we were talking about a few weeks ago in the live stream was how one of the girls got on, I think the Hinge dating app, and within like three days, she had 800 likes in her pictures. So I asked the guys because the reality is there’s way more dudes on dating apps than there are girls, because the average pretty girl, if she’s got a decent social life, she grew up in the area, she’s got lots of friends, lots of family, and she just meets men naturally as a part of her social life because guys approach her, whereas women that maybe are new to the area, maybe they’re a transplant, they moved there for a job, a career or whatever, they don’t know anybody or they come from a broken home and they’re kind of messed up, there’s a high incidence of them on the dating apps.

You gotta understand, most guys are lazy. They want the easy man’s way to sex and romance. They don’t really want to have to work too hard. They want to go on a dating app and swipe, swipe, click, click, boom! They’re on a date and then they’re getting their dick blown. Whereas it’s much easier for women because all they have to do is say yes.

When it comes to breakups, why do women seem to get over it quicker? Well, if you think about the average pretty girl, even when she’s in a relationship, guys hit on her, ask her out, “No, thank you. Sorry, I’m in a relationship. I have a boyfriend. I’m married.” She says those kinds of things. So that’s always going on. Then as soon as she’s single, she just now says yes to the invitations that are always there, whereas us guys, what do we do? We’re focused on the girl. Then we have a breakup after a couple of years together. You get to start doing approaches again. You got to be social again. It’s on a man to take the initiative, to go find a woman that he likes, open her up and get her on a date and start dating and courting her properly.

So like the average guy, it’s a lot harder because if you haven’t approached anybody, you haven’t been going out on dates other than being with your girlfriend for a couple of years, and then all of a sudden you’re single, you actually have to work for it, and it takes some time to kind of get back in the flow, to get into the routine of having a social life, being outgoing and putting your vibe and your energy out there of what you’re looking for. Whereas women can be in a relationship one day, the next day just say yes to the first guy that asks her out and she can be on a date. Whereas us guys, we gotta warm up to it, and if we’re kind of cold and we haven’t done it in a while, your approach typically aren’t going to go so great.

So let’s go through this guy’s email. It’s a really short one, but he brings up a good topic.

Viewer Email:

Hi Coach Corey,

Thank you for your work and presence and teachings.

How come most men are completely lost when it comes to women, attraction and romance when most women seem to be more aware of how they operate and men themselves operate?

Well, the other thing you got to consider is women become good at getting what they want from women, and being sweet, being girly and feminine and, “Daddy, I want that tricycle. Daddy, can I get a puppy? Daddy, can I get a goldfish please?” It’s like anybody that’s ever been a dad, or even a part time dad, it’s hard to say no to your little girl when she wants something, because you want to make her happy. You love seeing her smile. So you get used to spoiling her.

Girls start out very young, manipulating their fathers, their grandfathers and their uncles to get the things that they want. So they get a head start on guys. That’s why women tend to be five, six, seven, 10 years ahead of the average guy their own age, maturity, understanding and relationships because as soon as they start getting a shape, getting boobs and looking like a woman, they start getting a lot of attention from men of all ages. Whereas us guys, it’s not until you become successful, you become competent, you have a purpose, you have a mission, you know where you’re going, you know what you want, you start working to make that happen, you set aside the things from childhood, the tricycles, the bicycles, the Legos, the toys, the things of that nature, and you start doing adult things. Whereas women are getting invitations from men as soon as they’re old enough, basically. Even before that, they get a lot of attention a lot earlier than us guys. So they get interactions and repetition, so they have to learn a lot quicker which people are safe, which guys are not safe, which guys to trust, which guys not to trust, that kind of thing.

You know, women just get a head start first manipulating their fathers, their uncles, their older brothers and their grandfathers, men in their lives that are part of the family. Then they get into the real world and like the average guys, takes them a lot longer to get established, takes them a lot longer to figure out what he wants. It doesn’t really matter if a woman’s got a career, a purpose or a mission in life. All she has to do is basically show up and look hot and men are going to be wanting to take them away and do fun things with them. Whereas us guys, it takes time to learn a career, a purpose, a mission, to be competent, to be confident.

Women are attracted to the number one thing, looks is like third and fourth down the list. The number one thing women love in men is confidence, and it takes time for the average guy to develop confidence and swagger. It’s usually not until about the mid 30s that guys really hit their prime and really start getting lots of attention for men, whereas when they’re in their early 20s, unless they’re super good looking and jacked, they don’t really get much attention. The average guy doesn’t get much attention from women. It’s like I was talking about with the dating profiles. You know, one of the girls, 800 likes in three days, and the average guy in the chat was like, “I get like two to three likes a month on the dating apps.” So guys have to work for it, but women, all they really have to do is just show up in life, on the streets, in a social setting, or on a dating app and boom! The attention is there. All they say is yes or no. That’s all they really have to do. Whereas us guys, we have to make the approaches. We got to make ourselves well rounded. We got to have confidence. We got to know what we’re doing, because women like guys that know what they’re doing, and if you’re an amateur, most of the time they’re not going to try to teach you how to be a man.

The other big thing you got to take into consideration is if you look at the movies from 40, 50, 60 years ago, like one of the movies I talk about a lot, It’s A Wonderful Life with Jimmy Stewart and Donna Reed. Even those parts of the movie where he acts kind of like a dork, at the end of the day, he’s a man’s man. He’s a man about town with a purpose and a mission. He’s planning on getting out of the town. He doesn’t want to stick around. He doesn’t want to date, doesn’t want to get involved with any of the women in the town, because they’re all trying to get them to settle down, and everybody looks up to him in the town because he took over his family business when his father died suddenly, and he’s just handling things. He’s confident. He’s competent. He’s got a good reputation. He’s got Donna Reed’s character, who has always had a crush on him since she was a little girl, and she always dreamed of him being her man when she grew up and living happily ever after. That was her design. That was her idea. It wasn’t until Jimmy Stewart’s character got to a point in life where he’s a little older. She comes home from college. He’s probably like late 20s, early 30s. She’s probably early early 20s, 22, 23, 24, something like that. He’s already gotten a reputation, he’s established and there’s plenty of guys in town that were interested in Donna Reed’s character, but she had her eyes set on the most competent and confident guy in town, which was Jimmy Stewart’s character, George Bailey.

So you fast forward to now. What do you typically see? I just saw Spartacus, I guess is being remade. If you saw the old movie, it was in the 50s, 60s with Kirk Douglas? It’s a very famous story. Spartacus now, you basically have a black lesbian woman, I guess is Spartacus? There’s really no mention of Spartacus. So the whole thing is about this woman who basically, I guess, is a slave, she’s a gladiator, and she’s beating up and killing men and probably flinging them around like rag dolls. She’s some great warrior slave girl, basically. If that was actually going on back then, it’s like she wouldn’t have lasted a day, but of course, Hollywood is presenting this image that this feminist garbage that women can do everything men can do, they’re just as strong as us men, and Hollywood keeps pumping out that fucking message and making the women,the heroes, and the guys are all a bunch of beta male little girls.

I mean, look what they did to Luke Skywalker in the most recent trilogy. In the original trilogy, Luke Skywalker is like this kid that grows up and he saves the galaxy from the dark side. Then fast forward I don’t know how many decades later, the story picks back up, you got the very beautiful Daisy Ridley who’s got no training, nobody knows who she is and she just naturally knows how to use the force in a light saber and everything else. Nobody really trained her, she’s just amazing at it, and of course, she’s going to save the galaxy from the evil emperor once and for all. Where’s Luke Skywalker? He’s had a meltdown, he’s living as a recluse, and he sunk his X-Wing fighter in the ocean so he wouldn’t be tempted to leave, and he’s just hiding out like a fucking beta male on an island. Like a little fucking girl. He acts like a little girl. It’s just so pathetic.

The typical TV and movie sitcoms, what do you see? The guy’s a stupid idiot. He always needs the woman to fix things and run things. The woman is the man of the house. So everything in media is teaching men to act like women, and women act like men, which ruins the sexual polarity. If you grow up and your parents aren’t very attentive, or they’re not presenting a good, healthy archetype and model for you to learn with healthy masculinity and femininity, you’re going to basically get raised by the TV, your iPad, your computer and whatever you see in movies. When you’re constantly taught that men should act like girls and women should act like men, and you get emotionally anchored with the sound effects, the music and the emotions of what’s going on in these movies and TV shows, you just naturally get brainwashed into thinking that that’s how things are supposed to be. So you naturally, because you don’t have a good example presented at home for you, then you behave the way you see in TV, in the movies, and you don’t get anywhere in the real world. You do that with women and you repulse them.

Again, you really see that when you look at the older movies, men acted like men back in the day and women acted like women, the damsel in distress. You’ve heard that there are no damsels in distress anymore. Hollywood won’t even make those kind of movies because again, the whole narrative is that women, boss girl energy, I mean, you look at Queen Latifah, and they took Denzel Washington’s movies, who’s this Type-A, alpha male good guy who kicks everybody’s ass and makes the world a better and safer place, you got this obese lesbian that’s totally out of shape, yet she’s flinging these jacked men around that are much bigger than her like rag dolls and punch them in the face and knocking them out. I look at that and it’s like these fight scene combinations, I saw some of the clips, I was like, “What a fucking joke.” People watch this and are entertained and think, “This is legit,” but when you see that kind of level of brainwashing in our society, it’s no wonder that most guys turn out this way.

I think when you take into account how women are learning this stuff from the time they’re little girls manipulating the men in their family to when they grow up, they’re 10, 15 years ahead of most guys, and quite frankly, they have to be because their window to have kids is very short, whereas us guys can pretty much have kids our whole lives until we croak, basically. So I look at that, the Creator made us that way. So women should be having kids when they’re younger, and us guys can always be a dad at any point in our lives.

If you want to attract women, you gotta act masculine. Even though everything in society, in the culture is basically telling you, brainwashing you and making you think that you have to act like a girl. That’s what attracts women. You do that in a real world, you’re going to repulse women, and that’s a big reason why so many guys have such a hard time is that, number one, guys are egocentric. They don’t want to admit that they have a problem. Number two, it’s hard. The stuff that I teach that’s in the book, it’s not easy. I’m not a shortcut to success. Just flipping through the book a little bit, watching two or three videos is not going to fix your life. This is something that you really have to commit to as a high achiever. You have to want it. You have to crave it. You have to be honest with yourself and recognize your shortcomings, your flaws, your faults and recognize it. Your approach up until now has been sub-optimal if you’re not getting the results that you want.

It’s like I got to a place in life where I was sick of failing and not getting the things I wanted, and I want to understand why is this the way it is? Why is life like this? Why do some women choose a guy that seem to like, have nothing going for him? Yet a guy that’s got everything going for him, they blow him off, they friend-zone him, or they let him be the Harry Honda that does nice things for him, but they won’t date and sleep with the guy. They’ll choose a guy who’s butt ugly and doesn’t have a pot to piss in because he acts like a man versus a guy who’s got everything, who acts like a bitch around women. It’s just sexual polarity. It’s innate. It applies not only in heterosexual relationships, but gay and lesbian relationships as well. The masculine ones get masculine. The feminine ones get to act feminine. If you don’t, it ruins the sexual polarity and turns the other person off.

Do you have a theory, or even an explanation, as to why women seem to have retained this knowledge that is not bound by time and cultures, whereas men seem to have forgotten it and now have to re-learn it, very often out of the family circle?

Thank You and Best Regards,

Bob

Well, it’s not that they forgot it. Like I was saying, we literally been brainwashed to think this way, which is unnatural. We’re being programmed with dysfunctional archetypes because I don’t know where in the chain of things, I assume there was a feminist movement. The whole idea was to get the women out of the house and into the workplace so they could send the kids off to school and indoctrinate them and brainwash them to think the way they wanted to be a, compliant worker, where they don’t question authority too much, they just do what they’re told. I mean, just look around in society now. Every day I still see people with a fucking mask on. They’re driving in their car with a fucking mask five fucking years later. I saw a guy this morning, had a fucking mask around his chin. I looked right at him like, you know who he voted for? You know, they’re riding with Biden!

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