Why trying to change someone you love into what you want is fruitless and why you should instead focus on being the best version of yourself and either accept those you want to change as they are, or have the guts to leave and find someone who is exactly like what you really want.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss two emails from different viewers. The first one is on the verge of a divorce from his wife of 19 years.
The second is from a guy who is having an affair with a married woman who keeps bouncing back and forth between him and her husband. Both of these men are ignoring the true nature of their women and they are suffering tremendously because of it.
“People don’t change who they really are. They may become a better version of themselves, but their true innate nature will not change. It is not your job to fix someone, be their therapist or try to make them into your ideal image of them. When you don’t accept and love another as they are, you will suffer when they predictably don’t live up to your unreasonable expectations. It’s always better to be the best version of yourself and seek someone who is doing the same, instead of bullshitting yourself into believing that trying to change yourself into what you think they want, or trying to change them into what you want will make you happy. Only self love, self acceptance and being loved by someone who accepts you for you will truly make you happy in relationships.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne