Why you should never give disloyal women a 2nd chance after they have betrayed you.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer and former coaching client. He got his ex back in April of 2021 like he wanted. However, when things got difficult over the past 2 years, he says he reverted back to his former self and started doing everything wrong. By the end of 2022 he discovered she was talking to another guy, but says he stayed with her because he couldn’t withstand adding a breakup to his list of problems. Now she is with a new guy and yet he still is yearning for her to return despite going to her house unannounced and finding her and her adult daughters making dinner with her new man. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.
This particular email is from a guy who got his ex back in April of 2021. He says, we did a phone session at the end of 2020 because I guess this ex he had broken up with. And when he got when he got in touch with me, she had started coming back, but then she disappeared again. And so, I’m assuming because I there’s no way I can remember all the way back three years.
I don’t even remember what I talked with my clients two weeks ago because I talked to so many different people and the stories are so similar. And I don’t take notes to protect the confidentiality of my people. But anyways, so he writes in saying that he ended up getting back together with her in April 2021, but things were really difficult last year, 2022, and by the end of last year he noticed that she was texting some other dude. In other words, talking to an orbiter, talking to a potential replacement for him, which is totally disloyal.
And so, a long series of events. This email is a little longer, but there’s just a good chain of events in here that and stuff that I can go through because, you know, I talk about this all the time. Character is destiny. And even when we get to the end of this email, despite everything that this woman has done to this guy because she’s with a new dude.
It’s like, he’s still yearning for her. And so, he’s emotionally hung up on her, because rejection breeds obsession. And so, here’s a guy who’s wanting his ex back because he’s led by his emotions and because he’s emotionally wrapped up and invested in her and she dumped him. Rejection breeds obsession. He’s not thinking clearly, he’s not thinking logically or rationally.
When you continue to stay involved with somebody like this, you can see how you waste several years of your life with this person who’s just simply not going to be loyal. She’s got two adult daughters. I think they’re 20 and 21 years old. And she was already in from over three years ago. Maybe they met 4 or 5 years ago, so they got a lot of time together.
There’s been a lot of disloyal behavior on her part. And yet he still is blaming himself going, “Oh, I didn’t apply the book properly.” Well, the book will help you attract the girl, but it’s not going to fix her character issues. It’s like if she’s a ratchet, she’s a ratchet. If she’s a liar and a cheater, she’s a liar and a cheater. And your job is to disengage and eject. When you notice that behavior, not think you can use my book and always be perfect and she’ll never cheat on you again.
It’s like, that’s just simply not realistic. Every guy slips up, I slip up, I get lazy, I get complacent. It happens the longer you’re together with somebody. And that’s why it’s super important that you pick somebody with a good character that values loyalty, monogamy, exclusivity and is not going to be doing all this shady shit like this girl is doing.
I booked a phone session with you back in October 2020. I was dealing with an ex that came back and then suddenly left my life again for her ex in the Summer of 2020.
So, I’m assuming maybe he started dating her, but she wasn’t completely done with the ex before him. She went back to him and then eventually she came back to him.
I walked away and by April of 2021 she was contacting me.
Typically when the other guys screwing up.
Lucky for her I had just ended a relationship with another girl and the timing was right for us to reconnect. It was a magically time. As my ex came back into the fold and a new relationship blossomed between us the Summer of 2021.
Unfortunately, my dumbass stopped following your material and lessons.
That’s why it’s like you could read the book a thousand times, but you have to apply it because the reason being is you can learn a material, but you need successful repetitions with women. Because it’s the successful repetitions that undo all the negative programming and all the failures of the past.
You literally have to learn a new way of showing up and being and experiencing life and being a man and be consistent with that to the point where women become totally predictable to you. And when you see that, when you see the lines of code in the matrix, if you will, then you really are truly like Neo in the Matrix, and women are not going to be able to pull the wool over your eyes. But if you made a bad choice or a bad selection and you’re dating as Quintus Curtis would say, a bum bitch. Well, that you just you can’t make good wine from bad grapes.
I have listened and read Your Book 7-10 times in the past.
So, in the past. So, I’m assuming that he probably hasn’t even been through the book in 3 or 4 years. So, that’s already part of the problem. He really didn’t. It’s like once he got back together with her, maybe after our phone session three years ago, he didn’t read the book, didn’t read it 10 to 15 times, because he was hooking up with her and getting laid. He’s like, “I got this. It’s all good.” And obviously it wasn’t.
In February of 2022 I moved in with her as I was in the process of building a new home and the home, I was in SOLD. 2022 was a good year but a tough one as I dealt with the stress of running 3 businesses, contracted and built my own home, and adjusted to living in a rundown 1100 sq rental home with my girlfriend and her 2 daughters. I fixed so much shit there it ain’t even funny.
September of 2022, I lost my grandmother to COVID. My Gran was a huge influence and constant support and encouragement for me throughout my entire life.
Well, you can thank The Dr. Fauci for that one fucking scumbag. That guy deserves to be tried. By a jury of his peers at Nuremberg 2.0. And punishment should be meted out. It’s my opinion dude’s guilty as hell. Anyways, back to our regularly scheduled newsletter.
I was able to sell my first $1,000,000 commercial deal as a local Realtor thanks to her connections in the community in 2022.
Needless to say, the stress and the loss took its toll on me mentally and physically.
And so, he fell apart. He already said he wasn’t following what’s in the book. And like I said, it doesn’t look like he didn’t even read it since probably before we had our phone session three years ago. So yeah, you go from reading it when you’re not in a relationship and then you get into one and you never go back to it again.
It’s like, Yeah, you’re going to struggle because you need the successful repetitions. There is no shortcut to success. That’s why the path of self-reliance and personal responsibility is way harder and why socialism and Marxism and collectivism and the government is going to be your mommy sounds so enticing to people. And why the red pill community has gotten so big, because it’s much easier to point the finger and go, “it’s all modern women. Not my problem.” Then you don’t have to fix anything. You don’t have to have the uncomfortable conversations in reality checks with yourself.
That December I discovered my girlfriend was talking to another man after I kept noticing multiple times a number pop up on her phone when we were together at night, and she lied saying it was her best friend’s new number.
Okay. She sounds like a real peach. So, I bet her daughters are probably liars, too. What a shame. What a bum bitch.
I should have walked then and never looked back but I just wasn’t in the best place mentally to withstand it, I guess.
It happens. You’re emotionally wrapped up. You find out; you’re going through a difficult time, already lost somebody very close to you. Thanks to Fauci and his fuckery.
She apologized and basically said this guy was just giving her attention, but she wanted to be with me… blah blah…
He says. I know.
January 2023, I moved into my new home. By February my girlfriend and her daughters 20 and 21 joined us.
One big happy family.
I told the daughters I wanted them to stay with us, but it was not going to be a permanent destination for them, and everyone understood. Ironically, I was contacted about a home for sale less than 1 mile from my new home in March. I was excited to tell my girlfriend about it and work out a deal to purchase it. I helped my girlfriend buy it for a great deal in hopes it would be a good investment for her and a place for the girls to live after a few updates.
Yeah. So, you kind of made it easy for her to move on. You got her a house and was for the daughters because you didn’t want the daughters living with you. Whether you realize it or not, you’re basically saying, “I don’t care enough about your daughters to live with us.” If you’re going to become a man who’s got a blended family, it’s like, of course they can stay at home. You’re not going to tell your kids, get. Especially if they’re girls. But. I digress.
Friction had started building between us on small shit I asked her to help with things around the home and reminded her that I would take care of all the man stuff, bills, grass, garbage, etc. but I needed her to help more with the house choirs. We had a few small arguments. After one in June 2023, she moved all her clothes out and stayed a few days at her new home.
Yeah, we kind of made it easy for her to, because even your actions are showing you’re getting two separate households. Granted, you were saying it was for the daughters, but if you’re already having problems. But it doesn’t matter because she’s a bum bitch. You can’t work with that. She’s a liar and a cheater. She’s lying to your face when you notice another dude’s phone popping up phone number. You help her buy a house, it’s a good deal and fix it up. And she’s going to make money from that.
How does she repay you talking to another guy? I mean, that’s just, that’s horrible. It’s a horrible thing to do to a man. Guy goes out of his way to get her into a good real estate investment, get it fixed up and she can make money on it. And of course, when she goes to sell out, she ain’t going to give the dude a penny. She’s just going to pocket it and be like, Screw you.
It’s just like guys that get married or get in a relationship and they pay their girlfriends or their future wives college debt off or they pay off all of her credit cards and then they cheat on them, and they just move on. It’s like there are ratchet women out there in society and you have to pay attention to what you’re doing.
You just can’t go into la la land and plus you can’t go down to the levels that the guys in the red pill community where you’re just so jaded and angry and pissed off at women that you think, “Oh, they’re all the same.” It’s like, no, you did a shitty job of vetting.
In July I decided to go out one night with my best friend after he contacted me to hang out. I stayed out late and that was supposedly the final straw for her.
It was just the excuse she she’d already left at that point. I mean, you noticed she was texting somebody else. And a lot of guys will fixate on something like that and go, Damn, well, if I just hadn’t gone out with my friend, we’d still be together. It’s like, no, she would have found something else to cause a blow up over.
I told her I just felt like she didn’t respect me or love me as her man and had failed to realize how she had mistreated me in the past. Of course, she didn’t give a shit.
Yeah, but that was an accurate statement, you know? She definitely didn’t care. And she felt no remorse because she’s ruthless. She’s a mercenary.
In July me and my best friend helped her move the majority of her belongings into her home. I told her this wasn’t what I wanted but that maybe it would be a good thing for now.
July I just lived my life and did some traveling and focused on work. In the meantime I started to miss my girlfriend and had someone message me on Facebook informing me she was already talking to someone else.
I’ll let you guess on that one. By the end of July, she reached out to me wanting to know about my travels and acted like she wanted to get together. There’s a lot more to the story but my dumb ass decided to stop by her place on the way home from work one day only to discover…
This is horrible.
Only to discover her and her daughters having a home cooked meal with you guessed it… Mr. December.
The guy, “Oh, you don’t have to worry about it. It’s just a friend, you know? It’s my best friend’s new number.” No, it turns out it’s Mr. December. Damn.
I was in total shock but tried to keep my cool. I told her I guess that’s what I needed to know and apologized for stopping by unannounced.
I would have been like, Well, at least I stopped by and got to find out what was really going on so I could see through all of your bullshit and your lies. So, thank you for that. I wish you all the best. Have a nice life. Bye, Felicia.
A few days later we talked and of course my dumb-ass confesses my disappointment and unending love for her.
Now back to square one. Relearn and listen to Corey Wayne.
Dude, you can’t turn a hoe into a housewife. Seriously. This girl betrayed you in the worst way. You show up. She’s on a date with another dude. The guy she was obviously cheating on you with. And he’s in the new home that you helped her buy for her daughters. And it’s now her home and her daughter’s home, and Chad Thunder Cock is rearranging her insides. That is brutal. Well, you’re either going to learn. You’re either going to listen to me or you learn the hard way. And this guy is learning the hard way. I feel bad for you, dude. But you did it to yourself. You don’t keep giving women like this a second chance.
Part of my shock was the fact that she still has about 3 truck loads of clothes, furniture, etc. in my storage shed at my house. I guess it made me think she would be coming back.
Yep. You were hoping she would.
She’s already taking trips with her new boyfriend to Nashville and Utah.
Well, I would have said after that, it’s like, hey, you got about three truckloads worth of shit. So, when can you and your daughters and your new boyfriend come over and get it? Because I’ll give you about two weeks. I’ll give you 30 days to get it out. And if you don’t, I’m just going to assume you’re abandoning it, and therefore I will have bulk pickup take it. You’re not fixing this one. It’s just not going to happen, dude.
She has told me she was going to come get it but hasn’t.
Probably because things aren’t so perfect with Chad Thunder Cock. And plus, it gives her a reason to contact you and try to get you back because she knows, because you trained her this way that you’re a sucker and will probably give her another chance.
Before I discovered she was seeing someone else I offered to help. I told her it was safe for now. Some of the stuff is her daughters too. I have thought about throwing it all away or loading it up and dropping it at her place while she’s at work.
Fuck no, dude. Make her come get it. Make her and her new boyfriend come get it while you hang out by your pool with your friends and a bunch of girls in bikinis and laugh at them as they’re doing it. Nah, you don’t have to laugh at them, but have a good time. Hey, you dropped something.
But like I said it’s a lot of shit and I will need help moving it. I really don’t want to contact her or waste any more energy dealing with her, but I do want to make the best decision when the time comes. What’s your advice????
Like I said, I’d give her 30 days. Say, “Hey, you and your daughter’s got a bunch of stuff in my shed and I need you guys to come get it. I’ll give you a few weeks to come get it, but if you don’t, I’m going to assume you don’t want it, or it’s just garbage and I’ll have goodwill come pick it up or whatever. So let me know what you want to do. Or when you and your daughters and your new boyfriend are going to come pick it up.” Say it just like that.
Thank you for your work and advice although it sucks going back to square one and not being a 3% Man. I’m back in the dating game and back in your book and listening to your material.
Well, this is important. This is what you should have done back three years ago when we had that phone session, was to learn the fundamentals and apply it. But you were emotionally wrapped up in the fantasy of who you wanted your girlfriend to be or ex-girlfriend now. But here we are three years later, and she belongs to the streets. You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife. So maybe you just give the girl two weeks to come get it. Hey, you and your new boyfriend and your daughters come get your stuff. I’ll give you two weeks. If you don’t come in two weeks, I’m going to assume whatever’s left is I’ll just donate it to Goodwill or whatever.
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