Guys who are smart, date women who like sex just as much as they do. Women who will initiate sex instead of waiting for the man to do everything. How else can a guy truly feel how much his woman loves him and wants him other than her initiating sex and seducing him just as much as he does her?
Having a woman in your life who works just as hard at trying to please you in bed as you do her is a huge bonus! Have you ever thought to ask your partner… what it is they like or want you to do to them in bed? Asking that question of one another is essential to yours and their happiness and fulfillment in the bedroom.
Women in dysfunctional relationships will use sex as a weapon or bargaining tool. When a man treats her the way she wants to be treated, she allows him to fuck her (sounds more like horse trading or a transaction than a loving relationship don’t ya think?). When he does not treat her the way she wants to be treated, she withholds sex until he gets in line. However, most men have no idea how to properly treat women in relationships. Most women do not know how to, or they are too jaded and pissed off at men in general (daddy issues) to tell their men in a logical and loving way that they can understand, what they really want and how to be treated. In other words, these women are just waiting for the next opportunity to “stick it to him” in an emotionally mean and hurtful way. These poor bastards are so confused and lost when it comes to understanding women. We all know guys like this who are constantly abused by their women, but they just sit there and take her insults in hopes that she won’t stay pissed off for long.
Thankfully, at least 3% of the women out there really get men and understand how to have a loving, healthy and sexually fulfilling relationship with them. If you’re lucky and patient enough to find and/or hold out for the right one, they are worth the wait. These kind of women make lovin fun! They understand that the purpose of all relationships is… you go there to give.
The following is an e-mail I got from a woman who is contemplating and thinking about how she can become a better lover to her man, spice things up and fulfill him in a way he has never been fulfilled by a woman before. He’s a lucky guy. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
I’m in a secure loving relationship. Sex is very important to both of us. We’ve done the role playing thing with me being tied up and submissive. We’ve experimented with anal. We use toys. But he is always in control… The leader. He is coming home after being away for 3 weeks. I’m wanting to blow his mind (get yourself some of the “Better Sex” video series-its awesome. Lots of different videos on different topics! It will take your sexual relationship to a whole new level of fun and fulfillment). I want to take the lead (tie him up). Not like a dominatrix. Just lead (ask him what he likes and what he wants you to do to him). I’ve been practicing the dirty talk. That’s one area I need to improve. But it’s usually hard to think when he is pounding away! I want to be different (what an awesome giving woman you are!). I thought maybe go sensual… Candles. Music. Massage (yep! awesome!). But this seems tame (while he is tied up you can ride him and make love to him like YOU want to for a change). Any ideas? Bty, he is coming this Friday (you must give me several days to get back to you. I must answer the emails of my paying coaching clients first. I answer all others when I have time 🙂 It takes time to shoot, edit and upload videos and write the articles FYI. So in the future please give me several days to get back to you)!
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