In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who went out on a date with a new woman he met. He says he is halfway through reading my book for the third time. They had a good date, and two days later, instead of sending a sweet text saying hello or saying that she had a good time like most women typically do, she sent him a text asking, “Is this where you back off for three days so you don’t look too desperate?”
He was obviously surprised by her text message and its content, and he asks my opinion on whether or not she is familiar with what I teach. I tell him what this really means about her character, self-esteem and whether or not she is a woman he should even consider taking out again. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
I’ll try and keep it brief. You’ve changed my life, and I’m forever grateful. I went out on a date with this girl. It went well, as I followed your advice. I’m currently halfway through my third read of your bible, “How To Be A 3% Man.” Anyway, I didn’t text her after the date that night or the next day, but she contacted me. (The idea is, you just want to go out on one date per week. That gives a woman time and space away from you to wonder about you and decide how much she likes you. As time progresses, she should begin to to contact you more. It’s also a good way to see if there is any needy or insecure behavior on her part.) She messaged me around 4 pm saying, “Is this where you back off for three days so you don’t look too desperate?” (You want somebody who is flexible, easy going and has a good attitude. She will have a take it or leave it attitude. A girl who has choices with guys wouldn’t send something like that. It’s good to reveal character flaws right away.) I was surprised at this, as she is quite a quiet and shy girl. (It may be because she doesn’t have a very high opinion of herself. She could be insecure.) So my question to you is, what do you do when you think that a girl may know some of the stuff that you teach? (It’s irrelevant. This girl revealed she is insecure. She is over thinking and over analyzing things. I wouldn’t waste my time with somebody like this.)
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“Men should seek out and date women who, at a minimum, have these rare, but healthy characteristics and qualities: 1) she is flexible, easy going & has a good attitude, 2) she places a high value on loyalty, honesty & communication, 3) she is affectionate & giving, 4) she is patient, kind & not easily offended, 5) she is balanced, passionate about her career/business & has a drama-free life, 6) she is happy, optimistic, has a healthy self-esteem & builds people up. Men who date women that lack these six baseline minimum character traits and qualities, are asking for unnecessary drama, frustration, heartache & suffering.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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