Why women love a “guys guy” or a man who knows how to be a real man, and how you can develop your innate naturally attractive masculine side to sexually attract and keep the kind of women in your life that you’ve always dreamed of, and be the kind of man other men want to be like, be around and follow.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a female viewer who shares how reading my book has helped her to understand herself, what draws her to certain men and helped her to understand a couple of men she has attracted into her life over the past year.
After reading my book, she was finally able to understand why she purposefully tested guys she was dating, why they kept failing her tests and why those relationships did not work out. She also describes a guy she met who she really liked, had a lot of chemistry with, but who had a girlfriend. She now understands what caused her to feel so much attraction for him. This has given her a new set of tools to pre-qualify which guys she should date and pay attention to, and which guys she should get rid of so she can finally attract and keep the perfect guy for her.
Hey Coach Corey,
After reading your book several times and reading the articles on your website, I want to say how grateful I am to you for sharing your ideas and advice. Your videos are a popular feature of quiet evenings at work now. Everyone enjoys watching your funny videos, and hopefully it’s helping them in some way with their relationships too.
Your book arrived in my life at the perfect time. Whilst reading it for the first time, I had just friend zoned a guy I had dated a few months, who was my type, but difficult to be around, and I couldn’t quite work out why. I’d also met a guy who was not my type at all, but I’d never been drawn to someone so much, and I couldn’t work out why either. The second guy was my motorbike instructor. In every lesson, he was joking around, being silly, he always showed me, and everyone else, a good time, and I always felt a little bit more special than all the others. (He’s able to talk to you in a way that makes you feel like you’re the only person in the world.) He was decisive, and he’d keep me in check if I was screwing up. He just took care of everything. It was so easy and wonderful. However, at the same time, he was always keeping a professional distance, and although I knew he had a girlfriend and I respected that, I enjoyed each day I spent in his company. He was confident, was very good at riding, had great knowledge of bikes, but never showed off or came across as arrogant. (I did an article and video called, “Be Cocky & Charming, Not A Dick” and this guy obviously had the right balance of that.) Although he’s 50-ish, and I’m 26, and I usually date bodybuilder/muscle men types, I’ve never been drawn to anyone so much. Now I know it’s because he does many of the things in your book, and he’s the same with everyone. (Men should always treat all women the same.) He’s really manly…it’s wonderful…I fell for it.
In contrast, the guy I had dated for a few months was very serious. He was often grumpy when we went out, and seemed to spend so much time trying to show off and impress me. (Guys should let the woman do most of the talking on a date. They don’t need to talk a woman into liking them.) On our first date, he told me about all the women he’d slept with and what a good time they’d had with him, which I attributed to him just being a bit nervous and wanting to impress me, which was quite sweet. In the gym, he didn’t handle it too well if I started to approach the weights he was lifting, and would quickly become critical. Sexually it was okay, but he always made me feel a bit shitty about myself, as if I wasn’t as good as other women, so naturally I didn’t feel very comfortable. However, I think I’ve got lots going for me, and it was probably because I didn’t kiss his ass that he got all ‘butt hurt,’ as you say, and started talking about other women and bigging himself up. (If a guy has to puff himself up like that, he’s obviously not that great of a catch.) After reading your book, I now know, this was my way of testing him. I had a feeling it would piss him off if I didn’t respond to his ‘look at how good I am at this’ demos; so naturally, I did it more! (He was displaying weakness.) It was a shame though, as he was actually a great guy, good looking, confident, beautiful body, had nice motorbikes, and had loads going for him. He just didn’t seem to know how to be with me, and ended up saying mean and upsetting things all the time.
Unfortunately, I made the mistake of getting emotionally attached to this guy, so I felt hurt quite a lot of times, and it was a bit of an emotional few months. I tried so much to communicate with him about the things he did that upset me, but it didn’t get us anywhere. (It’s obvious this guy did not understand women.) He’d blame me, say I was emotionally cold, I had issues, I’m insecure, it was my fault, etc., so I moved on and have never looked back, thanks to your book. (Good for you.) I’ve learned to look out for the signs of a guy I don’t want in my life early on, and I now date several guys at a time, although unfortunately, I’m having lots of first dates with 97-percenters, and I know that when I meet my man/men, we’re going to have a great time. Without the first guy, I wouldn’t have found your book or have my beautiful bike. I told him he will keep on upsetting every woman he meets if he carries on behaving in this way, and he bought your book. Then, I wished him the best of luck. Without motorbikes, I would never have met the second guy and found out how wonderful it feels to be around a man who knows how to take care of stuff!
Thank you so much. Sorry it’s a bit long.
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“What makes a man attractive in a woman’s eyes? Men who don’t take themselves or life too seriously. Men who can laugh or find humor in just about anything are the most fun to be around. Men who have a strong sense of self, high standards, ambition, and goals and dreams that they are fearlessly striving to achieve. Men who march to the beat of their own drum, who are chivalrous and charming. They love men who live by a set of principles and who will not tolerate those who violate them. They also love men who will stand up for what they believe in and those they love. They love men who can make them feel more special than anyone else.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne