When a man is in a relationship with a woman who is head over heels in love with him, and he is head over heels in love with her, she will cause him to become a better man. Women simply make men… better. Women help us guys smooth out our rough edges and become softer in our dealings with other human beings.
When a man is happy and in love, especially when he is experiencing the kind of relationship he has always dreamed of, he is so happy and so fulfilled with his woman. He looks around at the rest of the world and wishes they could feel the same love that they do.
When a man’s relationship life goes from a 3 on a scale of 1 to 10, to a 10, it’s usually a short time later that he notices how everything else in his life that was once an 8 or 10, is now a 5 or 6. Where just a few months before he was content with his health, his finances, his body shape, his career, his business, etc., he now feels compelled to do something to boost the other areas of his life to a 10 where his relationship currently is. Do you know how amazing it feels to be in love, to love what you are doing and be pretty content with your life? When a man’s heart flowers because he has fallen in love, he naturally wants to feel this same love for his career/purpose, his exercise habits, his wealth creation strategies, etc.
This can also be a very frustrating time for a man. Why? It’s not easy to come to terms with the fact that the career you chose, went to college for, and maybe spent a decade or more of your life working in, now makes you feel depressed when you think about having to get up and go to the office. Think about how hard it is for an entrepreneur to realize it’s time to sell his business, find a way to dissolve his business partnership or even close his company? These major changes of life direction can often come without warning.
The purpose of all relationships is, you go there to give. When two people fall in love and make each other continually feel amazing, they naturally will gravitate towards making this amazing feeling spill over into other areas of their lives. When a man has a woman who loves and supports him, along with being his biggest cheerleader, he feels he is unstoppable. All men envy him, and other women want to sleep with him and get him all for themselves. Just like the captain of the football team. A man and a woman who are in love should see themselves as the captain of the football team and the captain of the cheerleaders. Everyone wants to be around them because they are so happy and so in love. Nothing gets under their skin. They feel a tremendous sense of empathy and compassion for people who are not experiencing the same level of love and fulfillment that they are. They seek to help others to reach the same level of love and fulfillment in their own lives that they have found in theirs.
Your comfort zone is where you are most uncomfortable. When you’re happy and in love, you feel more secure and are more willing to take risks to go for grand goals and dreams. Even if things don’t work out, at least you still have your love. The less love and security you feel, the less you are willing to stretch outside of your comfort zone and take risks to get what you want. Love puts us in an abundance mentality. A lack of love puts us in a scarcity mentality and causes us to hold back as we feel we can’t afford to lose any of what little we have. In other words, we see the risks as being too great, so we hold back and risk and expand less until it (hopefully) feels safe enough to in the future.
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“It is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.”-Unknown