Women Who Like You Do This…

How to tell when a girl really wants to date you & when you’ve got no chance at all. So many guys are confused by the things women do and say that they will often spend several weeks or even months working up the courage to ask a girl out, or continually asking a girl out after she’s told them no. Women don’t like confrontations. Therefore, they often won’t be direct and tell the guy they’re not interested. They’ll give him flaky answers when he asks for a date such as, “I have to check my schedule. I’ll get back to you. I’ll have to see if I can make it, etc.” Men who are unaware of what these responses really mean can often be totally snowed into believing they’ve got a chance. Therefore, they call week after week trying to set dates even though they’ve got no chance. Most women figure that eventually you’ll realize they really don’t want to go out with you and simply stop calling them. The following is an e-mail from a reader. He’s young and inexperienced, but he’s trying to successfully employ what I teach. He’s beat around the bush quite a bit over the past several months while he got up the nerve to ask a girl out that he likes. She’s jerking him around, but it appears his high interest has blinded him to this reality. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hi, Corey

Last year, I met a lovely girl in the University. I’m 19 and she’s 21. I know she likes that the man takes the initiative when dating, so I made the first step. 2 weeks ago, in a conversation, I told her that a friend of mine was going to play with his band in a bar that is inside a casino. (That’s weak. Women like men who are direct and get to the point. You beat around the bush because you are afraid of rejection.) The next week, a Tuesday, I texted her “Would you like to come to the bar I told you about?” (A date is a romantic opportunity for sex to happen. Group dates for a first date is a waste of time. Do you really want to bring a girl on a first date to a loud bar/concert? How are you going to have a conversation to get to know each other if you both are screaming at each other because it’s so loud? Not to mention cock-blocking drunk friends who are clueless with women interfering.) 2 hours after, she answered “Maybe I go, but I’ll check if I can.” (Translation: “No, I don’t want to go, but I don’t want to reject you over the phone. Hopefully you will get the hint and go away like most men do when I don’t call you.”) Then, Wednesday I saw her online, but didn’t talk to her. I waited for Thursday. At night I texted her, “Hey, which did you decide?” (She said she was going to check. You did not give her the space to call you back. This communicates neediness. You are calling to verify a date. Men who are successful with women either make definite dates, or they withdraw the offer saying, “Let’s just do it another time when your schedule is more open.”) She answered me on Friday. She said that she couldn’t go because her mom didn’t want her to go to a casino. (That’s a lame bullshit answer.) So I texted her “if the next show isn’t in a casino, would you go?” …and she just said “Ok”. (Notice her lack of enthusiasm and the fact that she offers no other day or time to get together and hang out?) Anyway, I went with my friends. (Smart guy.)

I wanna invite her to another place. I’ll wait until next week to text her again because maybe she’ll feel I’m chasing her too much. (It sounds like she’s just hoping you go away and leave her alone.) A friend’s birthday is near and I don’t know if taking her to the party would be a good option? (HELL NO!!!! Be a man and take her out on a date, just the two of you. Are you scared to be alone with a girl on a date? Women will judge you as weak when you constantly try to take them out on group dates. FYI-women who don’t want to date you will sometimes ask you to meet her and her friends out so she can use her friends as interference.) Should I invite her to a place with only the two of us? (Duh!) I’d like to take her to the movies, (How can you get to know her when you’re both watching a movie? Going to the movies is a date for people who are already in a relationship. Not a first date.) or something different like bowling. (Bowling is good because it’s an activity where you both are walking around. This gives her the chance to touch you when she feels comfortable.) I’m thinking about asking her out on a date again via text because I hardly ever see her at the University. (Ask her out only ONE more time. If she gives you the same flakey kind of response, then delete her number and move on to the next girl.) I just started developing my skills of seduction. I don’t want to make mistakes with this girl. (I don’t think she’s into you at all based upon what you’ve shared here, but ask her out once more and see if she’s actually willing to meet you out for drinks/dinner. Women who like you will make it easy to see them. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Thank you,

Bob

“He who deliberates fully before taking a step will spend his entire life on one leg.” ~ Chinese Proverb